heartbroken/ torchered soul?

Question

ok so i'm 15 my now ex bf dumped me today we weren't going out for very long but i feel so heartbroken i can't eat i don't wanna slep i hate the way the guys s crew round with my mind i was just wondering can anyone help me feel better? also why did he like me for like 2 weeks and was all over me and then he's suddenly done this don't tell me to grow up cuz i'm in the middle of doing this but the problem is he was also my best friend and sits next to me in science i dunno how to feel or what to do...

well don't worry i wasn't stupid enough to sleep with him for all of you who keep mentoining it thanks for all your help...i talked to my mum (we're pretty close now )and she gave me a shoulder to cry on and so did all my best mates so did his best mates actually...weird!! but anyways thanks

Answer 1

hey sweetheart,i got dumped 2 days ago after a yr and half with my man,and your just guna have to take it day by day.go out with your friends,read a book,watch a funny film,take ya dog out,anything to keep you busy.at your age your proberly guna have a few more breakups along the way! it sucks now but i promise you will feel better as each day comes.its only been a few days for me but this morning when i woke and he wasnt there i felt gutted,lost and fragile! and its 3.45pm now and im 10 times better! breakups are character building!! take care darl,dont flap too much it will be ok,i promise xxx

Answer 2

Don't beat yourself up over this.

You're 15. Having a boyfriend is nice... but lets be realistic here... are you really gonna marry a guy that you started dating at 15?

There's so much to life... and dating... and other things that I won't get into because you're 15... that you'd be missing out on. It's better to be able to be single and flirt and date and go out with your friends and have fun.... then to be tied down by a relationship.

The heartbreak will pass in a little bit of time and you'll feel right as rain. But you need to eat, even if it's just like... toast or something. When you cry a lot, you get a little nausea... but you should still eat something. It'll help you feel better.

Answer 3

so this is really going to hurt for a while so talk to your mom and just let it hurt. then try not to hate him cause hate only hurts u. try to get to a point where u can be friends again but if u cant then that's alright. do what u have to for u right now. the hurt will be over before u know it. one day u will realize that its over and the world isn't going to end because of it even though it feels that way now. guys really don't change a lot till they get older and even then its kind of chancey at best. don't give your heart to someone that doesn't deserve it. try to stay busy and stop looking for signs that he still cares. sounds like hes found another girl that will be all over him now. u know what hes thinking with right now and it s not his love for u. u didn't do anything wrong and there isn't anything wrong with u. its being a teenager. stay close to your mom or dad. they will love u no matter what.

Answer 4

Don't do anything. Ignore him. Show you don't care. Smile. Smile all the time. If you get upset think of the funniest thing that you can remember; a TV programme or a joke someone told you - whatever......... and SMILE, especially when you're near him. If you show you are upset he will know he can pick you up again whenever he wants to. If you demonstrate that's not going to happen you become interesting again.

If he gets interested again, ignore him even more. If he asks you out again say no. Tell him you're busy but you want to stay friends but do it with a big smile.

This will deflate his ego and he will start to ask himself "oh sh1t, what have I done here".

If things heat up again take it from there, you'll know how to handle it yourself by then. But do NOT offer him sex to get him back - the worst thing you could do.

If this doesn't happen just try to stay positive. Socialise with your friends and keep yourself busy this will help to take your mind off the situation.

Answer 5

I'm sorry to hear that. The problem with relationships is that we cling to other people and develop attachments that aren't healthy. We lean on them too heavily and when the decide to leave, it wrecks our world. Our happiness and our existence should not be based on another person.

Your happiness and sense of security needs to come from within. Only when you are strong enough to stand on your own will you be ready for a healthy relationship without heavy dependence.

Your sense of security can come from religious or philosophical beliefs. That way you understand that people are going to let you down and only God will always be there for you.

You can also look around at all the family that you have, and all the other friends and realize that you do have a support system outside of the boyfriend you lost.

As for sitting next to him, that's a tough one. It's never pleasant to be forced to be near someone you've had problems with. I would advise you to sit next to him and act like nothing has happened. Don't let him see that you are sad. Carry on as normal.

Answer 6

The truth is there is no one solution to feel better. Getting dumped by anyone is going to hurt. I can only tell you at your age that you are going to meet many more wonderful guys in your life and so he did you a favor. Learn from this relationship to improve your next. You can still be friends, and if he isn't interested its his loss! Everyone around the world has stories and takes it one day at a time.

Answer 7

I'm not giong to tell you to grow up, but this is a part of life you are going to go through and your just starting. The only thing thats a sure cure is time. I promise you will get over this. Don't let him know that its bothering you is the best attitude you can have right now

Answer 8

don't let him see your pain. if he knows how big of a deal it is to you, it will only make matters worse. i know it's difficult. and i'm sure people will tell you to grow up, but don't listen to them. we were all 15 once... and at 15 you can only love as much as a 15 year old understands how to love. it may seem trivial to adults, but to you, it's the world... because that's all you know of love. in time it will get better. try to just remember the good times you shared with him, and keep those memories... not the sad and hurt ones. in time you will find someone else, but until then just remember that you are a strong, beautiful person, and as they always say, "this, too, shall pass."

Answer 9

i have been where you have been before, and i no way am i underestimating how you feel just because your 15. if anything, its the hardest at that age. you walk around wondering, why, what have i done wrong, is it the way i look blah blah blah.

but honey, it aint nothing to do with you, its him. All boys at that age are just difficult to talk to, they aint mature enough to even think about having any sort of relationship. He probably did genuailly like you, but maybe he got peer presure from other boys his own age. What ever the reason, it dont matter, you will find someone else, besides i would wait until you are 16, then you can date a little older guys,say 18, so they might be abit mature, but even then, boys will be "boys".

And if you sit next to him in class, dont. Move to another seat, let him know that he has hurt you. But dont act spitful to him, just be normal, but let him know you dont want to go on like before, you aint "good" friends now, it has been spoilt. even you know this. so accept it and move on.

if you dont want him to think he has hurt you and you want to pretend that he aint hurt you and its not bothering you, then sit in the usuall place, dont look in his direction if he sits elsewhere and if he does sit next to you, just be really short,sharp and sweet. one word answers, you get my drift, if he asks you why you acting "like this", simply say, " like what, get over urself boy!"

Dont worry, there will be PLENTY of others you will "fall in love" with soon enough, I PROMISE. you never know whats round the ocorner either.

and sorry,but if you slept with him already, thats all he wanted. learn your lesson and move on. if you aint slept with him, foolish him dont cha think !!

gudluck girl xx**)

Answer 10

girl your only 15 and ur sooo young and get can more guys!!! Show him that ur the best he ever had and cant get you anymore. Go hang out with your other freinds and forget about him, who cares about him. i know you love him but its better to love then not love at all. thats all apart of growing up and becoming a women. So cheer up and things will be ok!!!