Should I propose her– Attracted only mentally ! Please help – Need opinions?

Question

We started out as friends years back and now I started luving her.
We spent hours on phone, when we meet we are together for hours and are very comfortable in talking with each other and get along perfectly.

I really like her very much and I luv her but the problem is I know the luv is only Mentally. She has got a decent face but she can never satisfy me as far as physical attraction goes (almost no physical attraction)

Due to this, I think tht though I propose this gal, I should be having a not so serious relationship and/or also continue to search for tht perfect gal.

So after reviewing – You guyz think I should go ahead and propose her?

I am talking about proposing the gal to be my GF only, no marriage and stuff things.

Please be serious – its very important issue to me

Answer 1

There is such a thing called friends. There is no point in being together as BF and GF. First of all, usually when you fall in love with somebody, it is usually because of who they are, not what they look like. So I do not think you are in love with her, otherwise looks would not matter.

So if you are not attracted to her then the relationship will not work out. Being intimate with a person, is a big part of a relationship. Talking can be done with a friend. Of course your GF and you should be at the same mental level, but there must also be attraction and unconditional love, which you do not have for this girl.

Answer 2

If you are only mentally attracted to her then don't propose it's only friendship. It wouldn't be far to her or yourself. You have to be both physically and mentally attracted to someone for a serious relationship. Looks are not everything but there has to be something there for you. If you are not attracted to her in that way then you would never be happy. Don't get with her and try to meet someone else it's not far for you to do that to her. it just wouldn't be right. Friendship is more important than a relationship, because you always know that there will be someone there for you to lend a hand.

Answer 3

Since you're not really prosposing marriage; why not try the relationship? The thing about physical beauty is that it fades over time and what you're really left with is how you feel about each other and what's in your heart. There are alot of pretty girls out there; but the important thing is to find the one that's right for you; don't worry about what others think or that she's not enough "eye candy" In about 20 years, it doesn't matter. Be brave and step out of the box man.

Answer 4

I think that you should stay friends. You can love a friend very much without being in a romantic relationship with them. I think that the problem arises when a man and woman are such good friends, one or the other, or both, become confused and try to turn the relationship romantic. The gender thing screws with us. A romantic relationship should be complete, including physical attraction. Try and enjoy the fact that you have such a good friend. I know this is a very difficult situation....Does she feel romantic towards you?

Answer 5

I think the girl that can satisfy you emotionally and physically is still out there. However, if you'd like to spend more time with this girl as your gf then by all means go ahead, you may learn to become physically attracted to her. who knows.

Answer 6

Don't pop the question. You're doing it for the wrong reason and you might end up ruining everything. She's your friend and she deserves a boyfriend who actually loves her both physically and mentally. You, on the other hand, deserve a girlfriend who satisfies all your needs.

Answer 7

If you're not physically attracted, the sex won't be good or interesting for you.

If the sex is horrible... you're going to cheat sooner or later.

If this is a close friend, and someone you care about... do you really wanna create a situation where you're gonna leave her for a prettier girl... or cheat on her?

You can't date someone just on personality. You have to be attracted to them. Sounds shallow, but its a fact.

Answer 8

well what your going through is actually a good thing, because you are falling in love with someone not by their physical looks, but by their awesome personality and THAT is ideal way to love someone.

i think that even though you say to yourself that you dont find this girl pretty, if you go ahead, your mind is going to switch, (im not kidding) youll reach to the point where youll be thinking to yourself, 'she's not that bad...' to later on 'shes actually not that ugly' to 'wow, she is really really pretty' and the best thing would be that its only from your view, (meaning, your friends wont look at her at the way YOU look at her, and thats a sweet thing).

when i met my bf 4 years ago, he was completely not that attractive to me, he had the big horse smile, the small eyes, the smoker, the freckles in the nose type. but then month after month, i had gotten use to him, and the horsey smile kinda blurred away from my view, his freckles turned to be cute than ugly, his eyes werent that bad, so NOW after so long, i find him extremly attractive and aside from his personailty that i love, he is considere 'cute' while in comparison to the begginig when i thought he wasnt at all...'

so dont worry, your are on the right track, in fact, in the CORRECT track. go ahead, ask her definetly to be your gf, and with in time, you will automatically fall in love 'physically' to her :)

good luck!

Answer 9

Well if you feel that you could spend the rest of your life with this person then I think you should go for it. Some girls would kill to have a boyfriend that liked them for who they are and not what they looked like. I think you should give it a try what would it hurt.

Answer 10

if you love someones mind, but have zero physical attraction, then that person is a great friend.. one you could have for life. if you can't imagine doing anything on a sexual level with her, then dating her will probably be a bad plan.