I live with my partner and have done so for about two years,lately we just go to bed and i initiate sex at times but she says she is tired.we have sex about once or if im lucky twice a week now.What causes this, ladies please help!!Is it time to leave?
2006-09-27 03:25:34 · 30 answers · asked by mielo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It may be that you aren't spending enough time getting her ready. Sometimes in a long term relationship, you forget about all the little stuff - and it does make a big difference for a woman. If she isn't ready it can be painful and not enjoyable. Also, maybe night time isn't the best for her? You've got to work out when both of you are at your best, and if I waited till my OH went to bed, I'd be exhausted and not in the mood. Its worth trying a few new things, asking her what she wants and really talking about it before leaving.
2006-09-27 03:28:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Its just the fact that you live together, sex dwindles with time. I used to see my boyfriend just at weekends and it would be 5 times in a weekend sometimes and then now we live together its now once, twice a week, sometimes less. Its just something that happens and lack of sex is certainly no reason to end a relationship. I think its unfair she's rejecting you. No matter how tired I'm feeling I would never reject my boyfriends advances because I wouldn't want to hurt his feelings not only that but I soon wake up if you know what I mean! Why don't you try spicing things up a bit or taking her away for a romantic weekend?
2006-09-27 12:08:20 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do they? no offence but have been with my husband for coming up to 5 and half years (married 3 months) and we still have sex every day nearly and sometimes more than once? you are obv doing something wrong (thats a joke before u get all serious) try talkig to her? and for some ppl one or twice a week is a lot u know! try and say that to some poor b u g g e r s who only get it one or twice a year!
try having sex other than at "bed time" maybe she really is tired whereas first thing in the morning she might be feeling all refreshed and want it - but you havent bothered ? ever thought of that???
or meet up for lunch in middle of day and see if she fancies it then? that way she will feel like you are making her feel special and then she will feel good about herself and then u might be in with a chance??????!!!
2006-09-27 10:37:38 · answer #3 · answered by princesssp8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm, i wouldn't leave just because of sex. But anyway, i am female and i used to find its the other way around. I constantly wanted sex but my partner would be happy with once maybe twice a week. Besides it being frustrating i got more and more disheartened with each let down. Its an intimate thing that 2 people share. It should get better with time and now it finally has. He seems happier in his day to day and we are getting it on a lot more. I said it to him and we talked about it. It is now gone passed him making an effort.It seems to be happening naturally.yey, go sex go!
2006-09-27 10:30:31 · answer #4 · answered by quozy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, as others say, it's not time to leave, if you still have feelings and love for her.
The problem is, as everyone says, that you two are getting so used to each other, that there are no romance and spices in you two.
Not like guys, girls must feel that they are very much loved, feel that they're special, and something very precious for him, to be turned on. Not by only touching the right spot. Feeling is massively important!!
The only thing you have to do is to do something very romantic, say something special to her, and make her remember your first date. And at the same time, don't expect that she will have sex because you've done those things. Building of these emotions back to her, by time to time, will bring her back to the time she was deeply in love with you. Eventually, she will be taking off her clothes by herself!
2006-09-27 10:54:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
I think the reason for this is boredom. Also women invariably go off sex for either one or more unresolved problems between her and her partner and frustration builds up. I haven't had sex with my husband for a year and that is my slant on why. Hope this helps. Talk to her and if you get no joy maybe you should consider leaving her. Good luck.
2006-09-27 10:35:45 · answer #6 · answered by Jilly H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe shes just tired of the fact that shes bored within the relationship!!! Spice things up a bit - not just in the bedroom department though - show her that you still fancy her and love her etc. Bring her flowers - buy her presents for no reason -
Surprise her with nights out - and in!!!
Sometimes relationships can just become so bloody boring that all you want to do IS go to sleep!!
Try this tactic and I can guarantee she'll be jumping your bones in no time!!
2006-09-27 10:32:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It happens like that, I know it has for me.
You get used to someone and it isn't "new" and exciting anymore and sometimes you just can't bothered with the effort of it, which is crazy, I know.
I find kissing is a really good way to get in the mood - its like a back to basics approach and once you've been going out with someone for a while you stop doing it and yet snogging for hours is the best bit!
2006-09-27 10:41:55 · answer #8 · answered by sarahlmann2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no, no, no!!!! It's time to spice your life up!! when we first meet a guy sex is great because we are still in the 'romantic' stages of the relationship, it's exciting and new, you make us feel special, then in time we get used to each other and it all goes out the window!! This is when you forget having sex with your partner and begin making love to them, think of something different to suprise her, make her feel special again, we women need more than a guy with a penis unfortunately, we need a guy who knows how to make a woman reach orgasm and a guy who is prepared to have foreplay and cuddles afterwards!! I would like to bet that your partner would know every move you make in bed when you have sex with her, it is boring, make it different for her, most women wouldn't dare to bring this up with their blokes because it's like questioning their masculinity, a good guy will be happy to please his woman and believe me, a woman will return the deed!!!! happy trying!!!
2006-09-27 10:37:44 · answer #9 · answered by pottydotty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's caught you, she's settled down and she's no longer interested in twice a night (or however many!) ... It's not time to look around for another or to leave ... it's time to talk to her about it and find out what she feels is right!
Remember, men are programmed for sex, women are programmed for motherhood - not exactly the same thing.
2006-09-27 10:30:24 · answer #10 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋