She was nice when we started going out, then she moved and has been very mean to me. When she first moved she called me a two-faced a$$hole and i have been told i am one of the nicest people ever. What should i do? She has been like this for awhile. She says that she will try to stop bt hasnt. I dont know if i should break up with her or not. She also has heart problems and she is not allowed to drink caffine but she does it anyway even tho i asked her to stop. i could use help.
2006-09-27 03:23:58 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She was nice when we started going out, then she moved and has been very mean to me. When she first moved she called me a two-faced a$$hole and i have been told i am one of the nicest people ever. What should i do? She has been like this for awhile. She says that she will try to stop bt hasnt. I dont know if i should break up with her or not. She also has heart problems and she is not allowed to drink caffine but she does it anyway even tho i asked her to stop. i could use help.
By the way she told all her friends that we broke up, and she told them that so they wont bug her about it or make it worse...
2006-09-27 03:41:09 · update #1
ok didnt know the add details would go over it...my bad
2006-09-27 03:42:34 · update #2
It almost sounds like she is trying to push you away...I'm not sure why but If I were you, Looking into "New Investments" wouldn't be a bad idea....As much as you may care for her .....She has too many issues to be a functional partner...She can't even care enough about herself to take care of her OWN body...where do you think you must come in there? Don't stick around because you feel like the big protector, I know it is nice to feel needed but look what it is doing to you...you're asking strangers for advice about something that is so blindingly obvious.....She is knocking you down..making you second-guess yourself....Is that what you want the rest of your life to be like????? Think about it...Good Luck
2006-09-27 03:39:32 · answer #1 · answered by Erin O. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's having heart problems and drinking caffeine when she shouldn't it could be one reason she's treating you this way. Her body could be reacting in a certain way to the caffeine that is making her feel terrible about herself so she takes it out on the people closest to her,she just doesn't know how to deal with it in any other way. Tell her that your feed up and will not sit around and take the verbal abuse any longer. Spend time apart for awhile it may help her see she really needs you and she may even take better care of herself.
2006-09-27 03:36:32 · answer #2 · answered by Curious J. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how far away she has moved. But it sounds as if to me that she may have found new friendships at her new location. Perhaps she doesn't quite know how to tell you. Or, it could be that it bothers her a lot that she had to move. See if you can get her to go out for dinner, then maybe you can get her to open up. Better yet, open up to each other. I am sure there some things weighing on you too since she moved away. Right? Good luck.
2006-09-27 03:32:05 · answer #3 · answered by knownothing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, unless she is pycho (or on her period-lol), then she probably has a reason why she feels like she does. Just because people think you are "nice" doesn't mean that living with you is easy. Take a look at yourself and see if there is something that you are doing that is making things bad. If you are convinced that you are fine, it is her, then get rid of her, life is too short to be unhappy. About the caffeine thing, if she doesn't care enough about herself to stop then how can she care for you?! Good Luck!
2006-09-27 03:28:30 · answer #4 · answered by what 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me she's got you by a leash. your the type that will take whatever she dishes out because your so kind hearted. Let Go and move on. She is not a child and if she had heart problems and drinks caffiene it's not your problem.
2006-09-27 03:27:46 · answer #5 · answered by Ky_gal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she's got bigger problems than you are qualified to deal with. Tell her you're not happy with the way she's treating you and that she doesn't make you don't feel good about yourself, and you need someone who will make you feel good about yourself. Tell her you won't be a part of her disregard for her health. Be honest, think with your head (the one on top of your neck) and not your heart. If you're not happy, change your life. Fix what's wrong. The ball's in her court. Good luck..be happy
2006-09-27 03:32:00 · answer #6 · answered by N0_white_flag 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok dont think about her heart problems ..your not going out with her for compassion !
your suppose to be with someone cuz they make you feel good and visa versa ..not because you want to make her happy only ..
a relationship is ALL ABOUT RESPECT !! AND she does not have it at all ..some girls will be nice to you alone and then around friends be a ***** ..so even if she did like you she cares more about what ppl think then you so she is not worth the effort
..a woman can not claim love me talk to me nice respect me and then treat you like **** ..so if this is the story and you are truly the good guy here then dont play her games if you keep playing them shell keep doing it !!!!!!! respect your self first dont let ppl do things like this to you ..and once ppl see yu respect yor self youll find a good gal who wants to love you and be loved in return !!!
good luck life is too short for tons of games ok !! be happy and find someone to make you smile!!
2006-09-27 03:31:03 · answer #7 · answered by Brandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever her medical conditions does not give her right to verbally assault you. The "move" is no reason either. You have already talked to her and nothing changed! Leave her perhaps she willchange after that and the two of you can begin anew. If not move on!
2006-09-27 03:27:27 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have pretty much answered your own question - she is rud to you and puts you down, she doesnt appreciate the care you show in regards to her health etc - it sounds like you still love her but really is this what you want in life? I know what I would do but this really has to be your decision.
2006-09-27 03:27:38 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Kazz♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the two of you are on two seperate pages in life.. The way she talks to you sounds like verbal abuse.. But only you know how much you can deal with.
2006-09-27 03:26:30 · answer #10 · answered by Justice 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋