Ok I really dont like my name- I prefer to use my nickname, which many believe is my real name. Can you NOT use your name on invitations, during the vows and whatever else, instead using the name that you go by (unless it is ridiculous like bunny or peaches?) My nickname is Lori, so its not a bad nickname- what is the general rule of thumb?
I plan on changing all of my bills and license over to my real name and his last name, but for all other purposes, I would rather my real name not be said or shared.
2006-09-27 03:15:12 · 18 answers · asked by mixedchick4blkguys 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Just to share- i have had my nickname since I was one- only a few people know my real name so if i use my real name, many wont know who it is about.
2006-09-27 03:25:28 · update #1
Lori, you can go by your nickname. My daughter doesn't go by her first name or her middle name, she goes by a nickname too. Her husband, goes by his middle name. The invitation read had the names they go by. The minister used the names they go by too when marrying them. They had to sign the marriages license
right.
My daughter doesn't like her first name at all, and I was going to pay to have it changed, but after she heard how I came to name her that she kept it. My new son-in-law's was named after his grandfather, so they used his middle name, so they wouldn't get them confussed. Like you most people don't know my daughter's real name, and so we went with the names they go by, so people would know who they were, and also that's what she wanted to it. And the bride is always right....even when they are wrong...lol
So, Lori, just make sure you sign the marriage license right, but go by what you are familiar with and comfortable. Have the most blessed and happiest of wedding days.......
God bless us all.............
2006-09-27 12:43:14 · answer #1 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you should make sure your marriage license has your real name on it, and the vows and invitations should use the name that everyone knows you by.
Since no one but you and a select few know that Lori isnt your real name, and no one will see your license, i say dont worry about it.
All of your legal binding papers must have your real name however.
2006-09-27 10:59:02 · answer #2 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only place you absolutely MUST use your full legal name is on the marriage license itself. That's a legal document and the Registrar will force you to use the name on your official ID, possibly your birth certificate as well, depending on your local laws.
For invitations and other "printables", you can use any name you like as it's all informal.
For the wedding ceremony itself, check with your officiant. Some demand on using full legal names at some point to drive home the fact that you're legally binding yourself to the vows you're making.
I used to use full legal names in the vow section of all of my ceremonies, but enough couples told me they would prefer nicknames that I now ask and go with whatever the couple prefers. I hope your officiant has a similar policy!
Good Luck!
2006-09-27 12:54:47 · answer #3 · answered by Kya Rose 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could use your nickname on the invitations as an unofficial middle name, like
Christina Lori Smith-- then both your formal, legal name AND your nickname would be on there.
When you do your name-changing after the wedding, why not change your first name to Lori officially, at the same time you take his last name? I think you can do it as all the same process.
2006-09-27 20:24:32 · answer #4 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use your nickname on the invites. The vows will depend on your religion and who is doing the ceremony. I don't see why it would be a problem. The marriage license and all that legal stuff has to have your real name.
2006-09-27 10:40:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You really should use your real name. During the ceremony, your "real" name must be used during the vows. Your real name is who you really are, while your nickname is just something you go by. Who you really are is the person who needs to say the vows, so the officiant is going to say your real name. The vows and ceremony are supposed to be just as binding as the paperwork, and so they need to reflect the same name that's on the paperwork.
So you might as well use your real name on your invitations.
2006-09-27 10:18:58 · answer #6 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your marriage license will bear your REAL FULL NAME. And when the officiant asks, " Do you take"..., your name will be used also. Other than that, you can be called whatever it is you want.
I recently performed a ceremony similar to this. It was QUITE informal & in the middle the bride asked if she could call the groom by xxxxxx, so she did.
As unromantic as it sounds, this is a legal contract; you must be identified as who you are. Otherwise, you could be accused of fraud.
2006-09-27 10:51:15 · answer #7 · answered by weddrev 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Typically your "real" name is on the invitation out of elegance but you can use whatever name you want during the ceremony. But you should use your "real" name on the invitation.
2006-09-27 10:25:30 · answer #8 · answered by glitter3317 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have the minister use whatever name you would like for the vows and entire ceremony. Even Peaches....lol ...The invites can also list the name of your preference.The only thing you have to do, is sign your legal name on legal documents.
Congats and good luck!
2006-09-27 10:18:26 · answer #9 · answered by shughes2000_2000 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You can use any name you want as long as your REAL name is on the marriage certificate, and you will have to sign it that way too...why don't you just legally change your name?? Costs some $$ but would be worth it if you hate it!
2006-09-27 10:22:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋