Christians: Have something against your brother...read further?

Question

So, as a Christian, if you have something against your brother, you aren't supposed to take part in communion.

I have a cousin that has done things against other people. I told her how I felt. We basically agreed to disagree. So 2 years later, her and another cousin (who was also her pastor) had a disagreement. She is no longer speaking to my immediate family because my brother had that cousin (the pastor) to marry him and his fiance. She didn't even come to the wedding and she has not spoken to us since.

So if someone is mad at me because she has a personal problem, is there anything I can do? I don't want to act like it was ok for her to be that way. She has yet to make amends.

Answer 1

The only thing you can do is forgive her in your own heart and pray for her that she sees the hurt she has caused. You could write to her and tell her you love her and pray for her but that she has hurt you. After that, it's up to her to square it with God and you on her own.

Answer 2

So long as you have followed the Biblical principles of "conflict management" then you are free to take communion, regardless if the other person has refused to forgive and lay aside the matter. Read Matthew 18 and Galatians 6:1-2 regarding conflict resolution.

Conflict is addressed in Scripture and it was not unheard of while the Bible was being written. Praise God He allowed these conflicts to happen so that they could be written about and be used as lessons for us today. Otherwise we would not know what to do ourselves. This is an example of how God blesses us in mysterious ways.

Setting that aside, here are some examples of conflicts and how they were managed throughout Scripture.

1 Matthew 5:23-24 Brother or SisterUnspecified Grudge(s)

2 Matthew 10:34-36Christian’s Family One believes, Others don’t

3 Matthew 16:22-23Jesus v Peter Jesus’ suffering and death

4 Matthew 18:13Jesus v Disciples Bring little children

5 Matthew 18:16-18 Church membersUnspecified, perhaps intense

6 Matthew 20:24Jesus v DisciplesJealousy over James and John

7 Matthew 23:1ffJesus v. Pharisees Stubbornness to believe

8 John 8:44Jesus v PhariseesJesus called Satanic

9 Philippians 4:23-24 Euodia v SyntycheInterpersonal Conflict

10 Acts 15:36-40 Paul v BarnabasTake/leave John Mark

11 Galatians 1:1 Paul v Galatians Doubt Paul’s Integrity/Authority

12 Galatians 2:11 Paul v Peter Follow Jewish Rituals?

Answer 3

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Answer 4

When you hate, the only person you hurt is yourself, because the person you hate, may not even know it, so the only thing to do is pray for her and when you are nice to her it will hurt thus she will have the guilty conscience and they are the one`s whom are at fault, the Bible says, flee from those who persecute you though this may be hard but from scripture it is the only way for peace in your heart ie cut her out of your life but not prayer foe her until she turns back from her ways.

Answer 5

Well, I hope Im getting your question.
First of all, you cannot do anything about her and her part in this.
You should repent for judging her. That way your conscience is clear. Then let it go. The Lord has a way of bringing things into the light. Meanwhile, dont live inside of her head. Just stay right in your thoughts toward her and youwill be fine. She will come around some day......maybe......dont let her sin stumble you!.......And pray for Her!!!!!!

Answer 6

Instructions to resolve disputes are in the gospels.
Jesus said that if you know someone holds a grudge against you, go to her and settle it - probably means apologising even if you don't think you're in the wrong.

If you have a grudge against someone else, you should go to them and tell them what it is. If they don't reconcile, go back with two witnesses. If they still won't reconcile, go to the church. You'll probably have to forgive them anyway, but forgiveness is NOT the same as reconciliation.

Answer 7

april_hwth,
What you DON'T do is allow Satan to get in the way of your acts of Faith.

It seems like what you must do is to bury the hatchet, and go in peace. Since the Lord is our Peace, direct your prayers to Him, and be done with this. Stop trying to be perfect. Keep your eyes on Jesus and act like a person of faith. Set your jaw in determination and follow after Christ.

Answer 8

Many hold grudges with thier own flesh and blood, till the day one dies. And they cry and wonder how they could have behaved that way, now they are gone. Sometimes, WE have to make the first move.

Answer 9

pray write a letter letting to know to have a fresh start to scrared to give it to her through i away i'm christion too and thats what my other christion friend told me to do i did it. Ask jesus to help her and god. pray and think. Ask your self why you are mad you can always aliminate those thing

Answer 10

you tried, it sounds like you left it in her hands... the ball is in her court, you are free to take communion since she is the one that has the problem.