I am in love with my brother's best friend and we are having a wonderful relationship.. We just celebrated our 6th month anniversary and want to go to church together but my mom is totally against it. Why are people so upset with freedom and love of God?
2006-09-27 03:07:48 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
God doesn't care that you're gay. Don't let anyone -- ANYONE -- tell you otherwise.
2006-09-27 03:08:44 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Christians believe that homosexuality is wrong. In fact, in the Old Testament, it says that anyone caught in a homosexual act is to be killed.
If you want to go to church because you believe in God, then don't let your mom stop you from finding a church that will accept you. But don't go just as a way to rebel against your mom--it will only cause pain and heartache for both of you. Find a church that will accept you--there are plenty of churches that accept homosexuality and believe in loving everyone. Once your mom sees that you are going because you love god and not just to show off, she will probably come around.
However, I would like to ask....Why participate in a religion that thinks you are evil? No matter where you go, there will be Christians that think you are doing wrong and try to make you feel guilty. Give up religion and just live your life to be happy. You and your boyfriend will be so much better off in the long run.
2006-09-27 03:15:08 · answer #2 · answered by Jensenfan 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Did your mom explain why she was upset about it? Is it a different church than what she raised you as, if you were raised with a religious affiliation? Maybe she feels like you would be committing a sin against God to show up in His house being gay when homosexuality is written in the bible as an abomination. Perhaps you should ask her what the big deal is and go from there.
2006-09-27 03:12:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Mike,
You didn't say why your mom is against it. Are you flaunting? I would say that could be a distraction. But you didn't say you were or weren't.
Why? I don't know. But if it's just because she's embarrassed of you, I would consider going to a church where you can keep your mind on the message, rather than what mom thinks.
Also, give mum a break, she actually sounds like she's done good with what she has.
2006-09-27 03:16:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone sees freedom as having limits, and for many Christians the scriptural limits on sexual freedom are a matter of strict obedience and seriousness. They have no problem with love of God, but they have a huge problem with homosexuality, (as I am sure you know), an objection that is rooted in scripture and millenia of tradition. They believe homosexuality is contrary to God's creative intent and express prohibition. If it's your family church it may be your mother is trying to avoid embarassment for you or her, particularly if it is a church that does not welcome gays as most do not. There are churches that do welcome gay couples like the Metropolitan Community Church, United Churches of Christ, and others.
2006-09-27 03:17:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on your six-month anniversary. I understand that your mother's feelings matter to you; they should. But you can't stop living your life for her. If you feel the rest of the congregation will be welcoming, you should attend with your boyfriend anyway. If it becomes too much of a problem for your mother, and you're afraid she'll stop going, then you might consider going to another church. There are lots of churches where you and your boyfriend will be welcome--Episcopalian, Unitarian Universalist (as Renee suggested), and United Methodist, to name a few. Other denominations are slowly coming around, too.
2006-09-27 03:12:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's because your Mom is trying to protect you from public scrutiny and embarrassment. If she knows the church you're planning on attending, then maybe she also knows their views on homosexuality, and the danger(s) and hurt you may face should you move forward to seek public approval for your relationship.
Few churches will give you the mainstream approval that you seek.
Then again, with the emphasis in your question about your Mom, I have to inquire about your age. If you are still living home with Mom, then you owe it to her to respect her wishes.
You'll never gain the respect of others by disrespecting them.
2006-09-27 03:18:32 · answer #7 · answered by Bob L 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Christianity is against homosexual relationships, so I don't see why you would want to go to Church. I think if you believe in God, you don't need to go to Church to have a relationship with. Plus everyone will be looking at you in Church and you'll fell uncomfortable. It's good that your mom accepted you're gay though.
2006-09-27 03:18:09 · answer #8 · answered by Ale 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well if someone is gay and can`t attend church. then................
They should moniter the doors and refuse people who ever got a speeding ticket for breaking the law.
Or the Grandma who took the Lord`s name in vain.
Or that person who had an abortion or lied to their boss..
in other words: We aren`t perfect, (none of us) we all sin and church is a place for sinners------ Not saints.
2006-09-27 03:28:12 · answer #9 · answered by Jillibean 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is right to be against it. Homosexuality
is a sin! Romans 1:27 says: In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed indecent acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their perversion. I can understand your mom!
She probably feels so hurt, I'm sure you weren't
taught this growing up in church. Please read
the bible and find out punisments of this kind of
perversion!
This is why Soddom and Gomorah was destroyed
and everyone in them!!!
2006-09-27 03:41:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
lots of people are against it..your mom may be trying to protect you.. if you go to church you will be told that what you are doing is a sin and that you need to turn away from your sins to be saved.. we have a couple that comes to our church that has family there and they are a gay couple.. our pastor will still preach that homosexuality is wrong, which it is, even if they are there..he tries to reach them.. trying to get them to give up there sinful ways .. but there are other people that are struggling with sin... if you want to go then go but be prepared that you are living a sinful lifestyle and most people at church will nottiptoe around that fact...and pray that God will help you with your problem..
2006-09-27 03:15:26 · answer #11 · answered by Jessica M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋