I'm 28, married 1 year and I still don't want kids. Is this normal?
2006-09-27 02:32:11 · 12 answers · asked by Rachel 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
My husband is fine either way - we discussed this before marriage and he said whether we have them or not, he will be happy. I sense that he probably wants kids...but he would never push me. My fear would be getting pregnant, and hating it - and becoming resentful.
2006-09-27 02:53:15 · update #1
I didn't want kids until I was pregnant. Unplanned - on birth control and a condom!!! Now I have 4 kids and if it were possible I would probably want more : ) It's normal not to want kids. Do what is best for you and your husband. Try to picture 20 years from now when it is no longer an option. Will you have any regrets? Let that guide you. Good luck!
2006-09-27 02:43:32 · answer #1 · answered by pebble 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm 26 years old. I just started wanting kids when this past December, for the first time ever. I spent 26 years not wanting kids and everyone knew it. I was the official 'anti-kids lady'. I told hubby on our first date ever I didnt' want kids. He's always loved kids, but he agreed he could live without them for me. When I told him in December that I wanted a baby, he didn't believe me at first, haha. But now we've been busy TTC and couldn't be happier. I don't know what exactly changed my mind - but I just finally saw all the things I didnt' see before - how wonderful babies are and how parenting is probably going to be the best thing I ever could do in life. I can't wait! Good luck to you and which ever you choose!
2006-09-27 11:38:51 · answer #2 · answered by Cookie On My Mind 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I ever felt "maternal" really. I never minded helping with my younger siblings, but I always thought I've never really been good with kids. I have my own now though, and it's a little different when they are your own. I'm more comfortable playing and stuff with my child, whereas I feel weird socializing with other kids. So sometimes it's different when you actually have them. Or maybe you are just the type of person who really doesn't want them ever... Either way, it's fine, and you are completely normal.
2006-09-27 10:36:27 · answer #3 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always knew I wanted kids. I never imagined my life without them. However, to echo another's comment, now that I have them, sometimes I *can* imagine not having them! : ) This may sound cliche, but being a parent is so incredibly challenging; so if you're not both committed to it, don't do it.
And you are not required to feel maternal or want kids just because you are a woman. You are you, and how you feel is right for you. Don't think of it as normal vs. not normal. You and your husband can have a perfectly happy and fulfilled life without kids!
2006-09-27 10:14:33 · answer #4 · answered by KL 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people are not meant to have kids. Personally I did not want any either. I did not get the instinct until after I had him. When he was born, it just came. I am glad that I did have him, but if I had not had him, I think it would never have happened to me. Just do what is right for you.
2006-09-27 09:35:18 · answer #5 · answered by poisonivy4913 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is perfectly normal! I have always felt maternal, but knew I wasn't ready for children yet. Well, one day I found out that I was pregnant, and it was hard for me to accept at first, but I have come around. And I enjoy everyday of it!
2006-09-27 09:35:14 · answer #6 · answered by yoohoosusie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want kids then don't have them.
I am struggling to come to terms with motherhood.
And I'm doing a $hitty job of it at 36.
I owe my kids more, but I was never meant to be a mother.
2006-09-27 09:40:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
some ppl just never desire the knack for kids.. it's fine to feel that way. and normal.
for me it was late teens. im 28 now.. have two kids and couldnt imagine having any at this age.
2006-09-27 10:23:54 · answer #8 · answered by Tah Dah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I started planning my life with kids when i was about 7. The desire grew with every year.
Now iam 23 and finally having my first.
Some people arent meant to have children, you might just be one of those people. Its better to not that them and not want them, then to have them and not want them.
2006-09-27 09:38:31 · answer #9 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yea just bcuz you can have kids doesnt mean you have to,, but i think every woman should have atleast one child...who knows once you have one you might want more but if you truelly dont want kids then dont have them, that could lead to bad parenting
2006-09-27 09:47:34 · answer #10 · answered by isydnor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋