[Ok I've semi-posed this question a couple of times] God has a purpose for everything and everybody he puts in your life right? Why then, after 2 years of knowing this one guy I had/have a crush on, everyone telling me to just get over him cuz he doesn't like me [don't think I haven't tried] He [the guy] really has taught me a great deal as far as what not to do/to do when you like someone...I guess you can say I learned from my mistakes, but why when I'm only still trying to get over him, is this guy in my 5th period now?! I can't just ignore him when he's sitting right across the effin room from me!! Does he still have some sort of purpose, is God not finished with him in my life, or is this just God's playful sense of humour?
2006-09-27 02:31:14 · 16 answers · asked by K 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
God does work in mysterious ways... I wouldn't say to forget him and get over it, (easier said than done) I'd just say to you, focus on you right now... What you have going on whether its studying for tests, homework, girl time, work, getting that new cd you want, maybe changing you hairstyle (just because you feel like it!) everything and anything that makes YOU happy, go for it, just make sure you aren't allowing your mind to revolve around Mr. 5th hour... okay? do you see what i mean? don't chase after him, if he wants you, let him come to you (you deserve to be chased and you've already tried to win his affection) now its his turn... if he doesn't come for you... guess what? you are too busy learning who you are, and what makes you happy, to even worry about some guy you liked once.... you'll either get over him, or if he comes knocking, you'll have him... you don't need him, but you want him... wanting and needing are two different things... I don't think God put you in class together for any reason, but to have you both learn what the teacher has to offer.. God does put people in your life and sometimes takes them out, just wait it out.. focus on you and your life, your friends your family... and hey maybe another guy will notice how happy you are, and want to be with you...
trust me on this :)
I don't know if you'll pick up on what movie this line is from:
"Tell yourself your single, and end the conversation!" (I'll tell you, its from While you were sleeping) If you think about it, its so true... If you stop dwelling on the fact that you are single and that you think its a bad thing... "so you want this guy, but he doesn't seem to want you, or I'm sick of being single" this is what many women say to themselves... well I'd like to put a new spin on it and say "I'm single, I'm fun, I love me for me, and I know God has the perfect match for me, but I haven't met that man yet because I'm not done figuring out who I am, I haven't had all the fun I want to have on my own!" girl! embrace this! so like I said (in a good way!!) Tell yourself you single, and then forget about it! being single is not bad!
2006-09-27 02:47:05 · answer #1 · answered by lily 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think God does have a sense of humor, and that He does have a reason and purpose for everything that HE does. However, everything that is done, cannot be "blamed on" or credited to Him. God did not pick your 5th period subject, neither did He pick it for the guy. That may or may not be a coincidence. One of you may have known the other would be there.
However God can use any situation, if you will allow Him to. Does this guy know Christ? Is your purpose to be a light?
It is hard enough to have and keep (and I know you are too young to worry about the keeping part, but just for future reference...) a relationship when two people are madly in love. So when one person isn't -- well, I just think you owe it to yourself to find someone who likes you as much as you like them. You are worth it.
I would ask myself, "Why do I like this guy? Is he really worth my hanging on, possibly wasting years of my life for?"
Another thing is if you get your own life, he may notice a lot more. People notice people who are interesting, and fulfilled on their own. Don't look to him to "complete" you. Be your own girl. Be graceful (I mean full of grace, as God has been to you,) and be dignified. Keep your character and morals above reproach. Be kind and wise. Love life, and live it while you can. Above all, laugh. Ladies like this get noticed, the others get used. This guy may not notice you, but that would be his loss. And the guy who does, will be blessed!
Good Luck!
2006-09-27 09:49:09 · answer #2 · answered by savannah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you're talking about. I had a similar situation with a guy I went to school with. I always had this feeling that there was some great plan or destiny surrounding us. It was weird. I wasn't obsessed with him or anything, but I just had this feeling that there was some purpose that would one day be revealed....
Then he died a few years ago, so that didn't pan out.
The moral of the story is, even though you may have these feelings, and they may be strong feelings, you might be wrong. Also keep in mind that you're in school together, so it's not inconceivable that your paths will cross.
2006-09-27 10:43:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is possible that God is not teaching you that just because you have dealt with difficult relationships, those people are still going to be there.
Just because this guy does not feel about you the same way that you feel about him does not mean that you should stop liking him. God's love for us is not based on how much we love Him. He loves us totally and completely even during those times in our life when we totally ignore Him.
Continue to like this guy in your heart, but do not expect him to return that love. Be pleasant and kind to him.
2006-09-27 09:38:31 · answer #4 · answered by Sldgman 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It could be any number of things. It could simply be pure irony. It could be through God's passive will that the school administrators needed a spot for him, and it happened to be in your class. It could be that God still has more things for you in store with him, be it a lesson learned, a virtue taught, or a relationship begun. Or it could be Satan trying to break your will (since he does seem to have a penchant for knowing each person's weaknesses, and then exploiting them).
Pray for wisdom and guidance, and sooner or later, you'll know which it was.
2006-09-27 09:37:32 · answer #5 · answered by seraphim_pwns_u 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you make the assumption you do, that God knows everything and plans everything, but you're incapable of knowing the plans and have free will... where does that leave you?
I don't know if any gods exist or not. But I'm pretty sure that if there are any, they won't be letting on this plan if they have one.
The only rational answer is to live your life in the here and now and don't worry about a plan that may or may not exist, and that you can't know about or understand if it does.
2006-09-27 09:40:51 · answer #6 · answered by rorgg 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm assuming that you are a christian by the way u speak about God...if so its ok so am i....i dont believe that God would play a joke like that an account he is a loving God
u should really pray about...if u have good good but the same thing is happening to me and accept differently so i kno wat ur going thru and its tough but u have got to keep going strong to b and do wat u want with ur life and still follow God
2006-09-27 09:48:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you trully gave this problem to God, He will help you. And you must have faith, not only in God being able to help you, but you must have faith and trust in God's own time frame of which He decided to do this for you in your life.
Proverbs 3:5 Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.
2006-09-27 09:34:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You may not understand the reason right now, but chances are 10 years from now it will be perfectly clear. God can see our life from a much better perspective than we can.
2006-09-27 09:37:27 · answer #9 · answered by Elle 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Hi Chocolate
God allows us to make our own decisions. I fell for the wrong man and was stuck for 28 years. Im now remarried.. He still helps me along but Ive had many heartaches and loved men that didnt know how to love but this one does...it can take years but someone can maybe comfort you and talk with you along the way Keep praying...it will get better in time..OOO
2006-09-27 09:35:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋