i dont know how to say this....its a really long story. lets see, so pretty much my ex.boyfriend has a gf, and i m happy for him and all, and i havent talked to hiim for at least 4 months, untill yesterday, we had a long talk. it was nice and all, and i feel like i want him back but i really dont, so its kinda like , if i cant have him, nodoby can. and the really crazy thing about it, is that, he still is , as he puts it, "in love with me" and he wants to go out with me again. but i dont think i would want to go out with him again. Confused yet? i am.... i just want him as a friend...i think..... HELP?!! thanks
2006-09-27 02:24:21 · 22 answers · asked by Becca 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
After you break up with somebody that you had strong feelings for before it can be really hard. Sometimes you can be over it, and then something happens like a nice conversation and it brings up old feelings. But really all it is doing is making you think about the good times you had together. We often forget about the reason why they are your ex. If you really sit down and think about it, does the good out weigh the bad in the relationship?
If you dont want him to be with anybody else, then you still hold some kind of feelings for him, or you have not yet found somebody else. If you move on, and find somebody else, those feelings about him not being with anyone else will go away. You will have your own life to concentrate on, and you wont be worrying about his.
2006-09-27 02:32:41 · answer #1 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take a long hard look at the past you 2 had together and ask yourself :
Was I happy with this person?
Did this person treat me with respect?
and once you do that you need to really listen to what your heart (NOT YOUR HEAD) tells you and no matter what the ex says you need to ask yourself Do I STILL LOVE HIM? because if you go back just to make him happy you will end up right back in the same spot your in now - I hope this helps!!!!
2006-09-27 02:44:14 · answer #2 · answered by stockarchic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know....do you need someone else to hit you on the head with a staff and tell you the past hurts. Your not confused you just want someone in your life. Move on and find a BF. He is an ex for a reason don't go there again.
2006-09-27 02:43:21 · answer #3 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and tell him that you only like him as a friend. Dont lie to him and dont be selfish too by saying that if you cant have him, nobody can. Let him live his life and experience it. Be there for him and mind your own business when it comes to him dating. Try be friends with this guy for a while and dont make any decisions yet until you know for sure what you want to do or be to this guy.
2006-09-27 02:32:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you don't want him back, but you miss what you two once had. You are familiar with him and know him, as with anyone new, it can be quite scary and intimidating. You can be friends with him if you want, but you'll be (probably) making a mistake if you two go out again, especially since you know you don't want that anymore. As for the ex telling you that stuff, I'm not sure. Just tell him you only want to be friends and that's all you can offer.
2006-09-27 02:29:29 · answer #5 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 10:20:18 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is called ego. If there is no "other one" involved, do you still want to stake your claim? Think it over and do not give false hopes for him who is in a relationship and as to you, better face what is happening to your life other than this, it is about time you let it go and move on.
2006-09-27 02:29:14 · answer #7 · answered by Nic Nic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him straight up that you "loved" him at one time too but now it's best if you were just friends.....and let him know that you want to stay "just" friends and hope for the best. Just be careful you dont take him back on the re-bound......you may get hurt and lose his friendship all together
2006-09-27 02:33:33 · answer #8 · answered by solsbj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember why you split up and the hurt you probably felt. Move on and look for some new friends. Theres lots of fish in the sea.
2006-09-27 02:27:29 · answer #9 · answered by marcus p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think i understand what you're saying unfortunately I dont have the answer, I am going through something like that my self is like you dont want the person but you hate the thought of them being with someone else, you want them to just want you always. weird huh oh well i think its just one of them things that goes away with time.
2006-09-27 02:37:10 · answer #10 · answered by tawwy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋