I'm considering going to grad school in Turkey, and will be there for three years, and I'm currently single and was just wondering about dating over there. Is it appropriate to have sex outside of marriage in Turkish culture? Do Turkish men have an opinion on American women? Thanks!
2006-09-27 01:41:02 · 0 answers · asked by Anonymous in Travel ➔ Europe (Continental) ➔ Turkey
I am an American girl, 23 years old, not a man. Thanks.
2006-09-27 05:55:04 · update #1
Well,hon. Do whatever u wanna do and dont forget to enjoy to the fullest now that it is the case. And the other thing i bet you will have many fans among Turkish guys just like other girls from anywhere else. You know men women attraction but not country vs country stuff. The otehr thingy is is that what you want ? My advice is be careful wherever u are, doesnt matter in the States or Turkey. Coz, there are many people with alternative motives on the planet.
Bet you will have a great experience while u r in Turkey;)Drop me a line before u go there. Will talk about it more 1 on 1.
2006-09-27 13:23:06 · answer #1 · answered by AllsTar 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dating Turkey
2016-11-07 00:31:48 · answer #2 · answered by gorczynski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ROTFLMAO!! man i really laughed my a** off at some of the answers here!! esp "googling Semra Hanim" part lol a great example of a mother in law ohh boy puahuahhu!!
As a guy living in Istanbul , in my opinion you wont face any difficulties since its a modern city and considering you ll be in a grad school, you ll be surrounded with knowledge open minded smart fun (hopefully) people already. Some of the people above have dramatized the situation too much so don't get stressed out or anything.
It is appropriate to have sex outside marriage eventhough most of the girls around Turkiye ( cause of their religion and culture ) prefer to wait till marriage , so don't be spooked about this idea.
If i were you i d be worried on pickin the right school rather then this lol
have a great time
2006-09-28 18:13:52 · answer #3 · answered by Blue_Dragon 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to grad school ,it should be one of the biggest cities I think-İstanbul,Ankara or İzmir.In these cities you can see all kinds of people.Based on my experience usually in universities(METU;Bilkent,Bogazici,Sabancı....) people are more open-minded and more westernized.They date a lot.Some Girls can be more conservative -want to wait until they will be sure about their relationships but boys are usually more impulsive.But it is also related with their backgrounds.But I can say that there are many people having sex before the marriage and also living together with their girl/boyfriends.Older generations/their parents can be more conservative.Well,I do not know turkish men's opinion specifically on American women.But they can classify it like other western women -more ready relationships
2006-09-27 11:29:20 · answer #4 · answered by mavi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Indeed, as the above posters have stated this is very unusual in the hobby and as Rango said folks like the person you describe are known as "foamers" because of their obsession with trains. Clearly I think this fellow has some issues that he needs to work out. To just to give you a point of reference in regards to you mentioning that he was constantly talking about trains even when you tried to divert the subject; I myself have been a railfan for most of my life but almost never discuss it with those outside of the hobby unless someone asks or is interested. In any event, just know that the person you met is not your normal, typical, railfan and most are decent, hardworking, everyday folks that just enjoy studying and discussing railroading in one shape or form (from modeling to the real thing).
2016-03-19 08:13:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends where your going but if its istanbul you shouldnt have any problem dating men, they are alot more modern then you think especially in istanbul. just make sure if you do start dating a turkish boy you dnt sleep with him too early on in the relationship. (not that im saying you would or anything). they are still quite traditional and prefer girls who dont sleep around or are easy. im sure will will start dating after a short while of being there as alot of the more modern men are very goodlooking :)
2006-09-27 02:49:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sorry don't have time for a long answer. But that tampon story is a total bullsh**t. In every single pharmcy you can find tampons. Regarding the relationships, people are not marriage focused anymore. Prefer casual relationships or if 25+ living together.
2006-09-27 21:30:46 · answer #7 · answered by Pinar 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No, it's not considered appropriate. Even in the major cities, newlyweds have been known to get divorced if women still aren't "in tact". You can hardly find tampons in Turkey because most people believe they destroy a girl's virginity.
Yet among a lot of my boyfriend's friends, they later admitted to having their "first time" while in high school.
Not just this, but it's the norm in Turkey to live with one's parents until her/his wedding day, so unless you're older than 35 or so, expect to have to sneak around Mommy and Daddy.
This goes not just for American women, but Western women in general: some people (both men and women) tend to have a negative perception of women from the West due to both television programs like the OC, where high school students jump right into the action, as well as local newspapers who show teenage girls staggering around drunk and making out with local wait staff holiday villages on the coasts. I've had my tooshie grabbed by male passersby on numerous occasions.
This being said, if you should face harassment, the best way to neutralize it is to make a scene. Learning a few choice phrases will do the trick.
I'm in a long-term relationship with a Turkish guy, and despite my warnings, they aren't all bad. ;-) Just remember that you will both have to keep an open mind. You still might have to contend with cultural differences that are rooted--deep-seated attachments to parents, potential mothers-in-law who will worry that you won't cook and clean to their standards (but does anyone ever?), drinking cold water causes "sore throats" Do a search on "Semra Hanim" if you want to learn more.
And remember, as a foreigner, you will be an ambassador for your country...remember your diplomatic skills when dealing with that mother-in-law ;-) But everyday annoyances notwithstanding, I wouldn't give up living in Istanbul for anything.
2006-09-27 02:07:19 · answer #8 · answered by YabanciKiz 5 · 3⤊ 4⤋
Turkey is a fundamentally Muslim country but appears to be very modern and secular. I've visited there twice and was struck by the cultural inconsistencies, especially in the larger cities like Istanbul. There you'll see young Turkish women wearing their traditional head scarves but holding hands and kissing their sweethearts in public. I've never witnessed anything so unusual.
One of my least favorite things about Istanbul was its growing population of transvestites. I also encountered this in Izmir, in the (very, very seedy) Basmane district of the city.
First off, you're going to have to learn to speak Turkish if you don't already. Turkey is not like Sweden or Switzerland; you can't approach a college student on the street and expect them to answer you in fluent English. Secondly, you'll have to learn to adapt your style of dress to the culture (Americans have a bad rap as being sloppy dressers--try not to wear sneakers or jeans, even though you might see many locals dressed that way, and consider buying some of your clothes locally).
Anyhow in response to your question: I'm not sure whether Turkish women have any particular attitude (good or bad) towards American men, but one common stereotype you'll encounter in Turkey (and in many foreign countries) is the unfair perception of Americans as being very well-off. This has varying implications: on the one hand, it may help you make inroads with Turkish women looking for a marriage of convenience; on the other hand, it will subject to a lot of harassment by your peers, (looking for money, gifts, etc.,) as well as all sorts of snow jobs from pushy carpet salesmen (who can really make life in Turkey difficult).
While in Istanbul you should beware of a common scam (which is described in the Lonely Planet book) targeted at Western men. You may be seated alone in bar and approached by a friendly young man who invites you over to a table where two pretty girls are seated. A round of drinks arrives and you chat for a while with the girls, then they get up to go to the ladies' room and disappear. Your new "friend" meanwhile leaves the bar to go outside and talk on his cell phone; then, he too, disappears. The waiter brings you the bill and says all drinks are on your tab. What's worse, they've charged you $50 per drink. If you try to resist, you're escorted to the back office and threatened to cough it up.
I'd say the best (and really, the only) place for you to try and get acquainted with a Turkish girl would be in your school. This is one huge advantage you'll have which most other ex-pats living there do not; an academic setting is very unrelaxed and unthreatening place to meet members of the opposite sex.
Good luck.
2006-09-27 02:17:40 · answer #9 · answered by Student 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Thik you'll find it quite 'proper' as they are a predominantly muslim country, so wont be loking for partners for marrieage outside the religion, causal sex may be something else though...
2006-09-27 01:44:58 · answer #10 · answered by SunnyDays 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋