he no longer texts or call and when I call him at times he acts as if he is with someone and he shouts at me.At other times he is nic e I just do not feel like he still loves me
2006-09-27 01:30:52 · 36 answers · asked by Sibongile M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is bored and looking for a new relationship with someone else.
2006-09-27 01:32:34 · answer #1 · answered by Henry_Tee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three months is not long for A relationship, If he is being rude to you all ready then he is not into you the way you are him. If your request are not unreasonable when you call him, then he has no right to be rude to you. there is no room in relationships for rudeness . It's demeaning to you and probably will lower your self esteem in the long run. You will loose your identity in a relationship like that sooner or later.. You are worth more then that and deserve better then that. Try asking him why he doesn't seem to like it when you call or text him. see what his answer is.
Then let him know how it makes you feel, keep the focus on how you feel when he shouts at you. Don't point the finger at him and start blaming him . ( even though he is wrong for being rude and shouting at you) If you say things like this is what you do, and blame him, he will only yell at you . and you will get no where with your question. So let him know that he is hurting you when he does that. Maybe he's not aware that he is hurting you. He may stop if he knows how you feel. check around and make sure he is not seeing you and someone else.I hate to say it , but if he is still rude and yelling at you after you tell him how it makes you feel. Then you should probably end the relationship. Because that means he does not care about your feelings and it probably won't change. It may even get worse farther into the relationship.
Love you first........ And don't let anyone make you feel bad about yourself........ Love is not suposed to make you hurt....
I hope this helped.! Good luck.........
2006-09-27 02:01:41 · answer #2 · answered by Rainbow sky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No such thing as normal in relationships I'm afraid. Everyone is different. Things do sometimes cool off a bit after the honeymoon period is over, relationships are never as intense as that first few weeks. However, I don't know this guy and for all I know he might have lost interest. Do you call him a lot? Some men get a bit put off by that as they can see it as too much too soon. Maybe instead of trying to call him or see him so often, arrange to do something special together like go out for a meal, or a day out together at the seaside. Good Luck!
2006-09-27 01:39:03 · answer #3 · answered by Julez 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl,
Wake up and smell the **** that you are in. It's just three months and he's being so uncaring to you? Seems like his nice facade has faded away, FAST.
Now that you have seen his true colours, do you still want to be with him? Three months. You might have invested a part of yourself into this relationship, but better now than later, or worse, never. Extricate yourself from this lying mask-wearing hypocrite before you get hurt any further.
Guys who really love you don't change that much. They want to at least call you once a day to know how you have been doing and to complain to you about their bad day.
Don't give others a chance to hurt you. Love and treasure yourself, ok? There are definitely better guys out there.
Take care!
2006-09-27 01:37:53 · answer #4 · answered by syrope 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
3 months isn't love - it's infatuation.
His infatuation for you has diminished but not quite gone.
I'm guessing you are very young, and I understand that you must feel hurt and confused right now but this is all part of growing up. You will get hurt and confused again but you might be more careful before you declare your love and throw yourself into a relationship. This is all part of life as an adult I'm afraid. Whilst it is perfectly normal to find a person you can share your life with it is also perfectly normal to find yourself either going off a person you thought you were really into or finding yourself in a relationship with someone you no longer fancy/respect/like and finding it difficult to break off that relationship.
Good luck
2006-09-27 01:38:19 · answer #5 · answered by Leapling 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's rude to you, this is very bad and doesn't bode well for the future. Of course there may be a good reason, and he may just be stressed about something and not realise he's doing it, but all the same, you should not put up with it.
If he shouts at you on the phone, don't reply, but very calmly and quietly disconnect the call. If he's rude to you, don't reply and don't answer any of his calls or texts. If he gets worried and starts asking what's wrong, explain quietly and calmly that what he said or the way he said it was not acceptable. If he appears not to notice your "silence" then simply don't contact him at all.
If he wants to be with you, and if your relationship is to be worth anything at all, then he is going to have to learn to mend his ways. If he can't see that treating you like this is wrong, then the relationship is not worth keeping.
2006-09-27 01:38:14 · answer #6 · answered by Specsy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It means he is already through and finished with you. He is bored with you and intends to find your replacement.
Do not expect too much of anything from him anymore or you will just get hurt the more.
But do not let him know you are hurt,, just pretend as if everything is normal and then try to turn the table around... Ignore him (even if it will hurt you) just do it...
When his ego will be hurt for ignoring him.. he may come running back to you again... but don't just grab him immediately, in case,, teach him a lesson of being hard to get..
If he will not come back to you, then rejoice,,, it is better you know him this early rather when you are already living in together or married and that would be the time he will be running out from you..
There are still many good guys out there, just don't hurry, they will come to you,,, just be yourself.
Good luck
2006-09-27 01:41:56 · answer #7 · answered by yulnores 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's loosing interest in the relationship. Might be time for you to move on now particularly as you've only been together for three months.
2006-09-27 01:33:51 · answer #8 · answered by Charlie Brigante 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No partner has a right to be rude to the other. Both in the relationship should feel equal to the other. This sounds to me as if he wants his cake and eat it. Get rid and move on.
2006-09-27 01:36:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he's no longer interested in you but is too much of a coward to call things off officially. So he's trying to p*ss you off enough to did the dirty work for him. I know this isn't what you wanted to hear, but it's happened to me as well. So you need to decide what you want cuz he's not likely to change.
2006-09-27 01:36:28 · answer #10 · answered by T.G. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doesnt matter what his reasons are for being this way - he has no right to treat you like this - you need to stop contacting him - that way he'll either realise the error of his ways and start making an effort with you - and if hes not arsed to contact you - then you know he doesnt leave you - and leave it be. You deserve much better. xx
2006-09-27 01:55:08 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋