To some people it's hard to say "no" to others, although they really want to. Maybe it's because they are nice or polite, but do you think it's possible for people to stay in touch with a person whom they're not into or they don't really like. Would you do it for the sake of kindness or politeness? Why or why not? I probably would do it for a while, but if it grew too stressful, I'd stop the correspondences. I'm interested in how people feel about this kind of situation, so please share with me your inputs. Thanks a lot.
2006-09-27 01:27:48 · 8 answers · asked by CRT 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
have u ever heard "don't burn all ur bridges down"....u never know one day u may just need someone 2 talk 2 and that person may be there and become a really good friend. I know this from experience. So what I'm trying to say is u don't have to be best friends, but remain acquaintances.
2006-09-27 01:56:59 · answer #1 · answered by jennifer m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although we might think we're being "Polite" by staying in touch with someone we're not "Into," we actually do the other person and ourselves a disservice by doing so. For example, let's say you stay in touch with someone you're not really into. This gives them the impression that you like them and a relationship may develop, even though you have no intentions on forming a close relationship with that person. You are, in fact, preventing them from seeking out someone more compatible, and you also hamper your own chances of finding that perfect person because people will assume that you and that person you're keeping in touch with out of politeness are an item.
2006-09-27 10:28:55 · answer #2 · answered by digitalquirk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It definitely is harder to say 'no' to some than it is to others. It seems unfair to continue even a friendship when you've nothing in common with someone and/or your basic nature clashes with theirs. Actually, it's rather unkind, i think, because it leads the other person to believe there is something there that isn't there.
If i *absolutely* had to remain in some degree of contact with such an individual, i would probably put them on my Christmas card list (as an example, people, please don't go nuts over "Christmas card list") so that they would feel a sense of connection and not have their feelings crushed, but i would not otherwise interact with them throughout the year.
If the situation you're talking about is a dating type of situation then, no, i wouldn't stay in contact with them at all even if you've had the "just friends" talk with them ~ some people don't want to grasp the "just friends" concept, they delude themselves into thinking they have a chance with you, and so forth. It's kinder to cut if off so they can heal and you can get on with life.
2006-09-27 08:37:39 · answer #3 · answered by just common sense 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well alot has to do with how close you feel to the person. Was the relationship close? To give you a proper answer would have to know how close the relationship was and even what kind of a relationship.
2006-09-27 10:05:43 · answer #4 · answered by ﺸÐïåMóñdÐôññåﺸ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think I would say no to this, as it does not seem fair to either party. In the long run, I believe that it would be unkind to just string someone along, even unkind to one's self.
2006-09-27 08:32:40 · answer #5 · answered by harridan5 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do it. Life is too short to stress yourself about such things. Just don't reply anymore. They will stop sending letters when they realise you are no longer replying.
2006-09-28 12:27:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it really depends on how he reacts towards you. For example, one of my co-workers wanted to date me but i tokd him i wasnt interested.... he agreed that we'd be friends only, but later he would act really imature around me SPECIALLY when the "guys" were there too.... see friends should be chosen very carefully.
2006-09-27 08:33:52 · answer #7 · answered by perezy610 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if they are polite to you, you should be polite to them even if your not interested, stay in contact as friends.
2006-09-27 08:29:38 · answer #8 · answered by Henry_Tee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋