2006-09-27 01:04:39 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Might as well, he is already gone!
2006-09-27 01:11:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorce him but make sure there's some sort of provision for HIS kids. I'm not sure if you are in the UK or not, but certainly if you are in England or Wales you can go to the Family Division of your local court and obtain the forms that you need to complete there. They will also help you if needed. This is a far cheaper method than employing a lawyer. You can also ask for provisions for the kids to be considered by the judge. It will take about 5 or 6 months to be final.
If there are issues over finding him, the courts I believe will make every attempt to locate him to serve the papers. I think it costs around £30 to £40 extra but necessary if he needs to sign and if he needs to start paying child support.
2006-09-27 01:12:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look what your husband has done is called in the "eyes of the law" is called "abandonment". Find you a good divorce attorney and he will advize you of what the best thing to do. Since he is not around anymore, it should not be that difficult, especially in settling the assets, debts and everything else. See an attorney asap and get this started, so in case you meet someone else in life you will have this behind you and you can start over.
2006-09-27 01:09:23 · answer #3 · answered by Rooster 1972 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's been gone for five years. It's time to accept it and let it go. I'm not saying it'll be easy, but you should do it so you have some sort of closure and can truly move on with your life. Even if he does eventually come back, would you be willing to take him back and risk him doing that to you and the children again? Close that chapter of your life and create a new one. You've been through enough. Good luck to you (and your children)!
2006-09-27 01:09:46 · answer #4 · answered by T.G. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Five years is a long time to be in a lurch. If you have had no contact with him and the kids have had no contact with him then as painful as it is, perhaps it's time to let him go for good. If he is still supporting you and the kids then you really need to get together and talk it out and decide what is best for everyone.
2006-09-27 01:08:52 · answer #5 · answered by Hebrews 11 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
hmmmm is this dude back after 4 years? Where the hell has he been since 2001....unknown place?????? Was he military and on a unaccompanied tour of duty that had security clearances that he can't reveal the unknown places?
If you love this person....and he's back.....why divorce?
2006-09-27 01:28:33 · answer #6 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey get a cup of coffee. been gone since 2001. do you think he is coming in with a bundle of roses? been there done that,but when mine left i was 6 months pregant with 2 little ones running around. tell you one thing, i did not wait long to get legal advice.
2006-09-27 01:09:36 · answer #7 · answered by mamma bird 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
FIle on the grounds of abandonment and keep it all. You may even be able to get back support but I would fight visitation till he gets to know the kids again, it can be very tramatic for a kid who hasn't seen dad in 3years to go somewhere with him.
2006-09-27 01:08:46 · answer #8 · answered by channielynn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should first try to find him . but not because he is your husband, NO because he must be responsible about his great neglect . remember divorce is the last way,but if you understant your husband changed and you can not suffer him and also he could not be you childrens father again , better you choose the last way.
2006-09-27 01:23:21 · answer #9 · answered by marry 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're asking us? Dropping him like a bad habit seems kinda, 'been there, done that'! Your question should be to the divorace lawyer, "How much can we get for child support & abandonment?"!!
8-o
2006-09-27 02:28:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you wait any longer? He has been gone for 5 years - can you DIVORCE! Go on with your life - he doesn't need to be part of it- why hang on any longer?
2006-09-27 01:27:13 · answer #11 · answered by joan30barry 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋