I make a point to take in interest in the things my boyfriend loves. In basic terms, and with out giving any examples, I feel he doesn't do the same for me.
2006-09-27 00:58:10 · 10 answers · asked by sisterustic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey there,
You said that you feel that he doesn't do the same for you. But that's just your feeling. Have you talked to him before about this? I think you should. Give yourself and him a chance.
When you say you make a point to take an interest in the things your boyfriend loves, it it cursory or genuine? If it's cursory (eg. just half-listening to him while the other half of your mind dwells upon the sad fact that he doesn't do the same for you, or on your next manicure appointment), it doesn't count.
Just try wholeheartedly for a period of time. You sincerity will rub off on him and he will appreciate it. Who knows, those activities that you tried going might turn out to be your next hobby!
Before you say if someone else is selfish, better make sure that you yourself can stand up to your own/others' scrutiny.
Maybe he just doesn't know that you would like him to take an interest in what you are doing. Guys can be blur like that. Why don't you take the initiative to tell him about the things you love or get him engaged in the activities that you like to do?
But if you tried all the above and it doesn't work, then well, you do have a selfish boyfriend. In that case, are you sure you want to be with a selfish person? If not, then break up with him. You have wasted too much of your time on worthless people :)
2006-09-27 01:19:58 · answer #1 · answered by syrope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. Don't panic (yet). Many men need sensitivity training. Even the nicer ones can seem completely oblivious to the most obvious clues for a kind word, a complement, or just plain old human interest in another person. They are this way because Western culture raises boys to be self-focused and competitive. You can swim against this programming and open him up to his feelings, but you have to be intentional about it. Your one tool is talk. You have to make him sit down in a quiet place where he will not be distracted and talk about a shared relationship with you. If he can do this, he will become more caring. If he can not, you will need to seriously think about Plan B.
2006-09-27 01:03:30 · answer #2 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he doesn't realize you are participating in activities because you care about him and not necessarily because you like the things he does. Communicate - honestly with him. You will both be happier if you are honest, otherwise it comes across as a lie.......... down the road and makes them wonder what else you are holding back.
2006-09-27 01:01:56 · answer #3 · answered by Hebrews 11 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and find a mutual interest like say to him "hey look at this" and if that fails just ask him if you can do things together as it's not fair
2006-09-27 01:01:40 · answer #4 · answered by xx_lush_xx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, I doubt this will ever get any better and if it bothers you now you will certainly resent it if you stay with him. Maybe try telling him how you feel.
2006-09-27 01:04:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him everything, including an STD.
2006-09-27 01:01:08 · answer #6 · answered by dait72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find somebody who's not so selfish.
2006-09-27 01:00:43 · answer #7 · answered by mindrizzle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him, that's the best way to deal
2006-09-27 01:15:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hum thats a hard one
2006-09-27 01:01:24 · answer #9 · answered by lorlei 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stay away from him.
2006-09-27 01:01:02 · answer #10 · answered by Mary Rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋