I really like this guy a lot he loves me too and i told him how i felt bout him n he got well happy about it but the problem is he has a girlfriend but he still likes her but she is treating him really badly and he can't break up with her because they use to be best friends before they were going out so he doesn't want to ruin their friendship i just don't know what to do i can't get over him at all and the texts he sends me makes me want him more Please help !!!
2006-09-27 00:29:11 · 22 answers · asked by Miss_Party_Girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh my luv, its as if u knew wat I am going thru. I was/ still am in the same situation & do you wanna know what I did when he cauldn't make up his mind if he wanted me /her? I emailed him a "Dear John letter" guess what, he moving to another part of town away from her & he's breaking up with her.
Am I being selfish? no, I never forced him 2 break up with her, instead I had advised him to work things out with her but from what he told me, she sounds like she needs some serious counselling bro! said she pressures him too much & threatens 2 kill herself if he left her. Should I believe him? No, & Im still not going out with him yet, we just good friends & hang out 2gether when we can, its like meeting as friends all over again. Hope they will work it out though.
And my heart? well its still beating for him but we haven't talked about our feelings yet. I guess what Im trying 2 say is that, if its meant 2 be, it will be. Remember, if u really luv someone, let him go-if he comes back 2 u, he is urs; if he doesn't, hon, he never was. Don't force destiny, it might turn ugly & u cauld end up gettng hurt. Good luck hon & sweet hugs!
2006-09-27 00:56:03 · answer #1 · answered by Luvy 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hunni, I'm really sorry but if he liked you enough he would have split up with her already. If she was treating him badly like he says she is it would not be so hard. To be honest you need to look for someone who deserves you because he clearly doesn't. He's more than likely loving the attention that you are giving him and is on a high from having two girls attention. In my opinion you should tell him to stop calling, stop texting and to enjoy his life with his girlfriend. Don't look back, go out with your friends and see who else you can find ;)
2006-09-27 00:56:49 · answer #2 · answered by shepherdess7980 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This bloke sounds like bad news. If he was interested enough then he would break up with his girlfriend.
I think putting some space between the two of you for a while might help him make up his mind. He might realise that he needs you more than her.
Don't do anything with him before though. Its not fair on you or his girlfriend. The only person who benefits from it is him. You're worth more than that.
2006-09-27 01:29:43 · answer #3 · answered by Kate1984 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget about him.
If he did it to her he will cheat on you too. Some "best friend" he is.... the F#%#er!
With friends like that who needs enemies? Can he be more two -faced?
You cannot trust him!
Even if all you are after is sex you best seek it elsewhere. Since he has no problems from going from her bed to yours. Who knows how many other chicks he is leading on.
Don't continue this relationship, it only encourages A-holes like this to keep the lifestyle up (so to speak LOL ).
Call his girlfriend and tell her. Girls have to learn to stick together. Leave the lines of communication open. You would appreciate it if the situation were reversed and she told you.
2006-09-27 00:47:55 · answer #4 · answered by notskerd 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have been there & know how hard it is for you.
Someone told me a painful truth about this type of situation, people do what they want to do, think about it..... many people leave their boyfriends, girlfriends, husbands etc. Prince Charles cr*ped on Princess Di because he wanted to & when he got the chance he married the woman he loved.
You should give this man a simple choice, if he does nothing then thats your answer, if he does anything other than be with you, then move on..... it will be hard but better in the long term.
If he really cared about you he would be with you or end it.
2006-09-27 00:48:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is your quote "i just don't know what to do"...really you don't have to do anything accept to leave them to sort out their differences, he is a big boy I'm sure he can sort out his own lovers tiff...and just for the record i think that this guy is indeed using you as his safety net...many guys do this so that when things aren't going well with their partner, they will always have some one else to turn to...but this is not fair on you...you're having to deal with his problems with his lover, and dealing with a tornado of feelings he has stirred up in you for him, that i happen to think is selfish of him......you need to spend some time away from him to really put the whole thing into perspective with only clear thinking...you can only do this being away from this guy, this is if you are strong enough to, and this includes not falling for his sweet words, or text messages. Good Luck.
2006-09-27 01:07:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
my dear, in life there are things we should be stepping into such tricky area and what u mention is one. leave him alone and u will still be able to pursue happiness in the long run. sticking around with someone who has gf will do u no good. never ever do to another which u wouldn't want to happen to urself. if u love him, don't put him in a dark spot. be a friend to him unless they broke up without your intervention then consider the next small step from just being a friend. but don't go deep 1st. best wishes.
2006-09-27 00:42:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he really has strong feelings for you he will tell his girlfriend that he still wants to be friends but wants to end the relationship because he's in love with another woman. If he doesn't do this he's messing you around, so forget him.
2006-09-27 00:51:11 · answer #8 · answered by J B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is trying to keep both of you,but you will be the side dish! when a guy can't stand faithful to his current g/f he would be the same with next one too! so think more about it or just get deep with him for a night maybe that gives you a better vision!
2006-09-27 00:51:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
ur a cow! is all i can say why tell someone u like the when u know they have a girlf? u should b ashamed! put yourself in her position the other way round how would you feel if some girl was trying to steal ur man! which is what u are doing? MOVE ON find ur own man and leave him well alone sounds like a knob!
2006-09-27 00:34:13 · answer #10 · answered by princesssp8 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋