she has broke up with me before she moved away to uni! which is 4hours away. we still talk. now she wants me back! saying it was wrong for her to break up in the first place. i dont know what i should do i used to love her a lot and iam not sure weather its just her feeling lost without me or the fact that other girls are now wanting me. ahh what should i do its wierd i want to but at the same time i dont!!!!
2006-09-26 22:50:31 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she has broke up with me before she moved away to uni! which is 4hours away. we still talk. now she wants me back! saying it was wrong for her to break up in the first place. i dont know what i should do i used to love her a lot and iam not sure weather its just her feeling lost without me or the fact that other girls are now wanting me. ahh what should i do its wierd i want to but at the same time i dont!!!! yeah well we've been going out a long time 1.5ish years and iam only 19! but the thing is with work and hobbies iam only gunna see her like once a month! i just really dont know what to do! she says i mean the worls to her and iam great but iam in two minds
2006-09-26 23:00:22 · update #1
yeah i hear what you guys are saying but i do/dont know weather the feeling i have for her is the love or just feelings bout the thort of being with out her? like i know that if she waas still in town it would be easier to figure out and tlk to her with her sitting in front of me! like we meet the day before she had to go and it felt good she couldn keep from not kissing me.. but she had to go home drop something off for her mum who was going to a wedding. plus since she's gone ive met a 22yrd old fitty on a night out in town and have been seeing her only problem is shes engaged to a 30yrold and has a morgage but she wants to end it but cant as all the profit from the house is in his name and will be f**ked if she does! ahhh
2006-09-26 23:21:00 · update #2
If she left you because she didn't want a long distance relationship then DON'T because nothing has changed. If she left you because she wants to meet new guys in her Uni then DON'T. If .... Got the picture? Just DON'T
By The Way: You said "i used to love her" which means you don't right now.
2006-09-26 22:54:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's early days for her at uni. Distance can ake the heart grow fonder but she will have all sorts of other emotions to cope with. Is she really missing you or just missing home?
Perhaps keep the lines of communication open, be a friendly voice on the end of the phone/text and review the situation when she comes home for Christmas. She would have had time to settle in by then and you may have found new friends in going out without her.
If it's true love, time and distance will make no difference to your relationship
2006-09-27 05:55:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you love her? This is the numero uno question. If you love her then driving four hours will be nothing because each hour will bring you closer to your honey. If you love her then you won't care about the other women that want you.
But from what you write, it sounds like you are tempted by the other women. And you said you, "used to love her". Past tense. To me, it sounds like you don't love her any longer. If this is the case, then driving fours hours will get old, quickly. And you'll end up cheating on her with the local cuties. I think you shouldn't get back with her right now. Maybe later when you're less likely to cheat.
Good luck!
2006-09-27 06:03:49 · answer #3 · answered by ssbn598 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont go back to her just now. Tell her you need time to decide. This will you will give her two signals 1) you are not desperate and b) you can also choose. Then go ahead and date a few girls, this will put your emotions in perspective. If after all this, you feel she is the best person for you, go back. Remember going back must always be on Your terms.
2006-09-27 05:57:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like you dont want to get back together even the smallest bit, then chances are deep down you know you dont want to. I think with her being 4 hours away that will be very hard and stressful. Move on and make yourself happy. Good luck
2006-09-27 05:53:12 · answer #5 · answered by Alicia Goins 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you moving to her college town? You can't maintain a relationship from 4 hours away. It's not healthy no matter what you feel for her. Date her. Tell her you'll still see her but not exclusively until you live in the same town, that it's not fair to either of you to be monogamous when you can't be togather.. She made it into college she can do the math on that one.
2006-09-27 05:55:00 · answer #6 · answered by W0LF 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only if u think u want 2 get on wid her. First thing here if she relly luved u she wouldn't hv broken up wid u. There is sumthin selfish behind this. Be aware! I don't think she relly luvs u cause these typ of girls are selfish . Even i am a girl and i kno about it very well.
2006-09-27 05:59:07 · answer #7 · answered by Geetika 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what's best for you. She made the decision the breakup and now she wants to you back.
Decide what YOU want, what will make you happy: to get back together with her, go out with someone new, or be single.
It's up to you.
2006-09-27 05:53:46 · answer #8 · answered by jgood 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Decide if you still love her and go from there. Maybe you both need time to talk about what happened and determine if theres anything there.
2006-09-27 05:54:13 · answer #9 · answered by kevin T 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girls are like that, they dont appreciate it what they have until they loose it.
you didnt give much info. about her and your relationship. but as easily she left you and now she wants you back.... is there any guarantee that she wont leave you again just like that???
think about that man.
2006-09-27 05:54:03 · answer #10 · answered by Alex 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋