My boyfriend and i adore eachother, we live together and love spending time together, but recently i have these feelings that the love is dying and is not as passionate - this kills me as i have had nasty realtionships before. He dosent seem to think anything is wrong and gets frustrated that i get upset all the time. I dont want to split up but i dont want to feel like cr@p all the time. What should i do? Is it just that the honeymoon period is over - I hope not.
2006-09-26 22:15:07 · 23 answers · asked by missh003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know wat ur goin through n i want to say hang in there. you've got something good... really good at hand... and that's the issue... wen things are just constantly good... there's no progress... you don't appreciate it cause you don't have the downs to compare to the good to really know how good you've got it -if that made sense- especially now that you seem to know everything about one another... especially wen you're livin 2gether n things become routine... n especially wen u c hym EVERYDAY...
buh u've got to slow down and take the time to appreciate the little things... the conversations you have together shouldn't just b "how's work" "traffic sux" etc... get intellectual... get controversial... spark up deep thoughts here and there... that should take care of the emotions...
as for passion... GET YOUR FREAK ON! explore new things... the honeymoon doesn't have to ever be over -yes even if you have bad hips... ur 65 with 34 grandkids- don't ever EVER let sex b routine... EVER!! make each one count for something... don't do it for the big "O" either... do it 4 love... add meanin into it... each breath you draw in sync... each touch of his arms... the strokes he puts on u... enjoy it... don't let ur mind wander to other things durin intercourse cause you'd zone out and miss out... again... try new things and explore
don't let sum1 good pass you by just because the love got a little cold... it's still burnin... now juss add coals =)
2006-09-26 22:24:42 · answer #1 · answered by ju5sm3h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear this is smth normal that happens with time. Maybe you spend too much time together and now you take each other for granted, which is not good.
Don't think that your story is coming to an end, you are just getting through a tough period maybe. try doing smth out of the usual daily things. Go for vacation, stay away from each other for some time (not a break up, but just go and visit your parents for a couple of days). Monotony is what kills passion!
You say that you love and adore each other, so don't think negative about your relationship. Don't make your bf be upset with you cause you feel like that all the time.
Maybe take some time for yourself, meet friends and do smth different so that you stay a bit away from him and miss his presence!
I hope you work this out and you are very happy!
Good luck
2006-09-27 06:44:04 · answer #2 · answered by atrabel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear about your bad patch. try talking and ask if something is wrong. It is possible that you are spending to much time together and getting under each others feet. give each other a little space. In any relationship the lovey dovey stuff does die down a little over time but as long as you still love each other.
good luck missh003 hope it all works out for you.
By the way : a a you have been reported. this person needs help and advice with a relationship and all you can do is advertise a dating agency.
I hate people like you who always advertise dating agencies no matter what the Q is, shame on you.
2006-09-27 05:32:04 · answer #3 · answered by 90210 aka Hummer Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seem to be feeling the same as you at the moment. I'm hoping it's just that after nearly 3 years the honeymoon period is over. Every relationship has a honeymoon period and it's bound to finish at some point and that's when you move into the next stage of your relationship, the honeymoon period can't last forever. good luck, try nt to worry to much about it, enjoy your time together. Maybe try and do some new things together x
2006-09-27 05:20:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres nothing worse than that feeling - particularly when the other person doesnt realise theres a problem
It sounds like you really really love him so my advice to you would be to bring something new to the relationship - or even do things that you used do when ye started dating to try and reinject that "honeymoon period" feeling into the relationship.
Too often, particularly when you live with the person you start taking them for granted and get bored too easily.
Its going to take a bit of hard work on your behalf but I wish you luck and hope things turn out ok for you.
2006-09-27 05:17:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is perfectly normal. It will get worse if you follow him around and force him to talk to you. Leave him alone and do things that make you happy on your own or with a friend. When you give him space he will eventually start missing you and want to connect again and then you must not be upset with him or he will withdraw again leaving you even more confused. Remember he is a man not a women and they don't need to be close al the time in fact it is absolutely necessary for him to withdraw and reconnect and this will happen all true your life together, if you just realize that there is nothing wrong then you will be fine...
2006-09-27 05:26:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has just become comfortable in your relationship. if stop compaireing this one with the others you have had and take it as just one. The fact that he does not seem to think that there is anything wrong surjests that his feeling have not changed for you and he still cares as much as always have done. Try not to get upset and talk to him let him know without getting upset how you feel adn that you still care for him. The honeymoon period does not have to end if your still both care for each other and enjoy each other company. But if you compare him to ever other guy and say well he just the same it will. He is not them he is himself and total different person
2006-09-27 05:23:51 · answer #7 · answered by Ben 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happens all the time to couples in relationships. usually the culprit is monotony. i suggest that you try something different together. try a new hobby. do something that you have never done together before. take him out to a place that you never thought of going to before. you know what i mean.
spicing up your relationship will ensure that you don't get bored easily with each other. the honeymoon period is over because both of you stopped already with your honeymoon.
learn from couples who have been together for years and still love each other very much.
2006-09-27 05:25:24 · answer #8 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don' t you put a bit of spice back into the relationship?
Go back to the places you met, had dates and dinner e.t.c.
dress for him, nice dinners, maybe if you show more of the happy you and do things for him - with him he might put a bit more effort into the relationship.
If you walk around miserable and sad it will ware thin with him and he will get fed up. the only time the Honeymoon period is over is when you let it me.
2006-09-27 05:19:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not see the problem because there isn't one. Sit down and tell him heart to heart how you feel. If you don't talk to him he won't see that there is anything wrong.
You feel insecure right? Let him in he can help put those bad feelings to rest. Don't let the past control your future. Give him a chance don't shut him out. Perhaps then it was your imagination all along.
2006-09-27 05:21:15 · answer #10 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋