I am a guy, 22, I fell in love with my best friend, who is a girl, 21. We enjoy each others company very much. She allowed me to court her, we always dated every friday. It was all very much fun. She said she enjoys being with me. We have been dating for some 5 months until recently, she decided that it's time to stop because even though she enjoys my company, she said it's not love that she feels for me. I asked if I could court her again next time, she said no. I love her so much. I am so attached to her and I can't seem to move on. I have been her bestfriend for some 5 years. What should I do? Do you think what she said is already final? I am not planning to court her again any time soon since everytime I ask for another chance it only intensifies her decision of No. I really love her so much and I have build my dreams upon her. She is the one I want to be with for the rest of my life. Do you think if I try again after sometime, maybe after 1 or more years, she can still change?
2006-09-26 21:50:26 · 24 answers · asked by imb 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What do you think is better to do? Stay away for awhile or just keep in touch normally? I tried to not talk with her for a single day and it was really unbearable most specially when i'm not doing anything. She just keeps coming back on my mind in every second. I also love her as a friend, and I don't want to lose that, neither does she. But everytime I think of the imagination that shes gonna be a with a different man someday is just killing me. I couldn't bear to see that happening.
2006-09-26 22:44:13 · update #1
If you are brave, you can try this. You can introduce one of your good looking cousin sister to "her" as your "NEW GIRLFRIEND" and try to make "her" jealous. You can tell "her" stories about y
our "NEW GIRLFRIEND".
2006-09-26 23:10:00 · answer #1 · answered by Friend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
22/21 you got some time to spare .if you choose to do so.you should leave her alone for now. she will call you when she needs her best friend.not her boyfriend.there would be nothing better in the world for the people we love to love us back the same way.very few get that lucky.
I am in a situation very much like yours and over twice your age. could it happen ? we would like to think that it could.theres nothing written in stone that says it wont.but how long you going to wait? look carefully at situation.. i bet you do quite alot for her.what do you get in return.right now nothing but heartache when away from her. all joy and happiness when around her.you have let you walls down for a person who didnt feel the same way as you.your going to suffer because of that.but dont go off the deep end doing so.it was these feelings she shielded herself from by locking you into the "friend" status.in my case that is where i have remained.i just recently began to move on. from seeing her everyday 2 mo. ago to 2x a week now.how do you ask? simple i got another girl"friend" that wanted to be both. bestfriend and g/f.and have been asking myself. why i waited so long.but we both know that answer already dont we?
I really love her so much and I have build my dreams upon her. She is the one I want to be with for the rest of my life.
i untill just recently felt the same way.
this question really cant be answered with a y or n
only time will tell. but time can also keep secrets for ever. only she knows for sure.. you have to listen to her even if you dont like what you hear.. this may help.. it helped me..
truly loving someone means. your only want is for them to be happy. even if its with someone else.
I do know how you feel.and it sucks.you will know inside what you have to do. do what your insides tell you
goodluck E
2006-09-27 05:50:59 · answer #2 · answered by ojaieric 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry Dude there is nothing you can do. If you keep on this way you will push her away. Sometimes it's best for a man that feels the way you do to abandon the friend ship and move on. If you stay around it will turn her against you and you will never win her. If you move on you could find someone that you feel stronger about that feels the same as you. And then again moving on could open her eyes to you. It's your choice. Me' I would move on.To your additional details. I stick to what I say' Move on. If you love her that much it will be to hard to stay around and watch her be with other men. Witch she is going to do. Don't make a fool of yourself for her it is not going to change anything. If you love something let it go. If it's meant to be with you it will come back.
2006-09-27 05:02:57 · answer #3 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've already done your part thou.. i think that you should just let it go... if you keep asking her... if you treat her differently instead of the bestfriend your suppose to be... she would get bugged out by you and want to distant herself from you... right now... just be glad that you still have her friendship and that she's still your BEST friend...
If you're the type to hold onto to hope then i will support you on that because love isn't something you decide on, it's not a decision you can make... it'll b hard to stay by her side and continue lovin her in silence thou... it will hurt a lot -i've been there myself- buh if you two are really meant for eachother... one day... she'll fall in love with you and you won't have to ask her into courtship... she'll ask you instead... She's your bestfriend and she's comfortable around you... i know she'll ask you if she was in love with you...
only if she's in love with you... and right now she isn't... so i ask you to push that thought aside and continue being her good friend... she needs you... don't ruin wat you already have because your selfish and want her to love you... if love is there... even just a tiny spark... love will bloom... burst... n explode... 4 now... don't let those thots cloud your mind...
2006-09-27 05:01:51 · answer #4 · answered by ju5sm3h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut complete contact for the next six months If she loved you even a bit she would try to find what happened and come back to you. she will feel the pain of separation that will make the arrow of cupid hit her too.
Now she feels even if she ignores. You are always back of her and she is sure of not losing you, let her feel that you are ignoring then immediately everything will change
2006-09-27 04:58:47 · answer #5 · answered by Loviingly_Yours 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-27 04:57:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible, but unlikely. I would go meet another girl. If you're only 22 there are tons of great single women that you don't have to wait any amount of time for. Then again, it's your life. Just don't get hold on to her too tight. It will make her push you away.
2006-09-27 04:53:56 · answer #7 · answered by ftz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you continue to endorse her decision by being her friend she will never change her mind. She has decided that she's no longer interrested in your happiness. Stop being her friend. If there's any chance she'll change her mind it will only occur to her once she realizes what she's given up on. If you continue to be there for her emotionally, financially and socially she will never want for the wonderful things you give her.
2006-09-27 04:55:25 · answer #8 · answered by W0LF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should accept a girl's word for its face value. More often than not. It would mean the opposite. No means Yes. You need to take yes, as an answer, for granted, unless the contrary intention is confirmed.
2006-09-27 04:55:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend asked me out and also to marry him and I said no and will never say yes because I know him far to well. But it really depends on the person and the reason why she wont. If I were you I would not close the door for other posibilities.
2006-09-27 04:53:58 · answer #10 · answered by blue_dragoness5695 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would wait awhile before asking her out again!! you are blessed to have a good friend such as this she is being honest and that can be a rare trait these days. she probally wants to get out in the world and see things which is not a bad thing you should do the same. maintain contact with her share your experiences if it is meant to be it will be. friendship is a very precious thing.
2006-09-27 04:59:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋