Okay, so I am playing music with this guy, I really like him. He seems totally available, and is even very kind and friendly, but reserved. I feel so attracted when around him. I wrote him a thoughtful email the other day in which I breezily suggested we get drinks in the near futhure. You can read it in a previous question of mine. He has been totally friendly, even subtly flirtatious the last time we saw each other, but again, now that he is not emailing me, I am having the same doubts. You can read what I wrote him in my last question. What is going on with him? He seems to run hot and then cold....maybe he is only interested in a friendship? I woould like to discuss the issue with him, but I don't even know how to create the space for the conversation. Please read my previous questions of yesterday and HELP!! I was once told that he had a girlfriend by another party, but he seems to go out of his way to avoid mentioning any such person.
2006-09-26 21:41:19 · 15 answers · asked by calliope 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You play music with him? So, I assume you see him in person from time to time? I would have asked him in person. If he still hasnt replied by the next time you see him, just pluck up the courage to ask him out casually for drinks and such. They key word here is casually. If it works then take it from there. Best of luck =)
2006-09-26 21:46:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should tell him how you feel. Don’t feel scare if he would turn you down. If you're too shy to approach him, what i did last time is that i call my secret admire. Sometime i wrote letter and e-mail. But i can say, talk to him in person sure has the edge and more advantage.
Love is a lasting forever thing. So take your time. and no rush. Boys look at 2 things, prettiness and good personality. You know what pretty is. Good personality is the way u act and speak and how u behave yourself, also how u conduct yourself. They often look for good qualities. This is quite a tough area to improve. In other words, if they like u, means they really like u. If not, then, don't be sad and give up like others do, maybe there's still a chance u can improve.
All the best to u.
2006-09-27 06:42:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should have paid better attention to what people wrote about your letter. It's drawn out and I got exhausted while reading it. Do you know whether he likes beer? And in my view saying that you might meet with others too makes it looks like you are looking to go somewhere, not to go with him. He might have dealt with someone like that before who invites him and one or more other guys too. That's an event only to go to for the event, NOT for the person. All that being said, you are too worked up about this. If he doesn't answer, see what else is available to you. If he's interested, he'll probably answer. If he's not interested, he might answer anyway to be polite.
If he has a girlfriend, it's easy for him to put you off because he has someone else on whom to focus.
2006-09-27 04:56:23 · answer #3 · answered by Robert B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you even know if he has read the email? Maybe he just didnt check his mail. The best thing to do is just come right out and ask him and stop playing games. Some guys need a kick to the head to get the message.
2006-09-27 04:44:30 · answer #4 · answered by Matthew B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry if hes like most guys he just isn't that much into the E Mail thing. Send him another message asking him if he got your last message. But please don't bombard him with messages that will scare him off. Also when you write him tell him you had a good time together. But try not to use the L word it scares guys off, you will come off as desperate if you use it at the start.
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2006-09-27 04:45:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give it one more day. If he doesn't answer you back, then chances are either he is not interested or he is scared of you for some reason. Cut your losses and move one. He may be commitment phobe or something else could be wrong. Don't wait around for him to figure it out.
2006-09-27 04:46:13 · answer #7 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I know you like him but you need to try and stop reading so much into it. Definately don't email him again until he replies. When you next see him, cool it a bit. If he flirts with you, don't be too flirty back and see what his reaction is. Some guys like to chase a girl, so don't make things too easy for him. good luck! x
2006-09-27 04:48:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Mayb he is not free at d moment tat y he didn't reply. B patience with it. Mayb he sooner or later will reply 2u on some other day.
2006-09-27 04:48:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now the best thing u can do is find him personally an talk to him face to face. this lad seems to not care try n talk to him so then u can see where this is going!
2006-09-27 04:46:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋