I put on a nasty costume for him, full make-up and hair, fishnets and stilletos!
Started playing dirty and his phone rang.
He checked it and answered it!
It was his ex wife!
He got up and stood across the room discussing their kids visitation for the following week!
Then, he's acting like I'm not taking care of him sexually when I got up and left!
Should I just get over it?
2006-09-26 21:28:25 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some people are in another world as soon as they pick up the phone.
Is he normally like this? If so, maybe not so bad.
Oh, and tell us more about your costume please...
2006-09-26 21:33:36 · answer #1 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to give a different perspective than any of the other people here.
When he checked his phone, it could have simply been because he's a father. Maybe he wanted to see who it was and when he saw his ex-wife's number he felt compelled to answer it for a few different reasons. Maybe he thought it was know of his kids calling, maybe he thought something was wrong, maybe he was looking forward to his kids visiting and he wanted to get those plans firmed up because he wasn't able to get in touch with his ex for awhile.
You never really know the reason why he answered the phone, but instead of over-reacting and leaving, you could have asked him.
If you're having a sexual relationship (especially a kinky one where a little more trust is involved), you should be able to communicate with him instead of running away.
What it boils down to is that he's a father and his kids will (should) come before you. He can get a new wife/girlfriend, but he can't replace his kids. They're a part of him and you're not. I'm not saying you won't have a very special place in his heart if you stay with him, but his kids are always going to have his love and attention no matter what. If you stay with him, you'll have his love and attention as well, but obviously, a reltionship between a man and a woman is much different than his relationship with his kids.
Overall, yes, you should just get over it. Respect the love and concern he has for his chldren. And if you plan to stay with him, take an interest in his kids too. Furthermore, you should feel good about the fact that he's willing to put off his own pleasure (and yours as part of a couple) for the sake of his family. If you have a family with him, you can expect the same love, concern, and sacrifice from him for you and any children you may have with him.
To me, it sounds like he's a good guy, you over-reacted a little when his ex-wife took precedence, but it wasn't about his ex. it was about his kids.
So, get over it, communicate with him a little better from now on, and enjoy what you two have together! Good luck! I hope it all works out for you!
2006-09-26 21:46:23 · answer #2 · answered by Myzyri 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It's his kids! It ranks right below oxygen and blood in the importance scale. Get over it, because when you date a guy with kids you should accept that his kids come before you do as it should be. He doesn't owe you an explination for what he did. Pretend it didn't happen.
2006-10-04 08:58:32 · answer #3 · answered by skigirl1312 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nextime put the phone in another room or unplug it. lol I had a friend answer the phone and have a full conversation with me during sex, she told me latter it was just wrong lol had I have known I would have hung up lol
2006-09-26 21:41:10 · answer #4 · answered by blue_dragoness5695 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is going threw a mid-life crisis or something. You are obviously trying it kind of reminds me of Bree in Desperate Housewives when she trys everything she can to make Rex happy.
2006-10-01 16:50:53 · answer #5 · answered by Alyss K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think he was being selfish not paying you any attention afte you got all sexy for him.darn right honey i would of got up and left to.so i say good for you honey it was the right thing to do
2006-09-26 22:19:26 · answer #6 · answered by Wimpy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well he defiantly doesn't know what he has I mean I wouldn't have answered the phone
2006-09-26 21:37:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should get over him. What he did is unforgivable. If I were you, I would send him packing.
2006-09-26 21:34:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should've came to my house, the way you described yourself sounds sexy...
2006-09-26 21:33:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What do you think....? I think he has compartmentalised his life and you have a VERY small compartment.
2006-09-26 21:30:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋