This guy that I'm "with" says to me that he and I have a relationship, it's just that it's not a "boyfriend/girlfriend" type thing, but it's not an open relationship either. I want more than just that and I don't feel that the emotions that I want are what I'll get from him. He openly tells me that he misses his previous girlfriend, not to hurt me but just expressively and I know he meant it although he tried to clear it up and say he was playing and wanted to get me mad. I feel like we're good friends, but it won't go beyond that and I don't want to settle for just what he's willing to give, just to have it end and leave me out in the cold. The physical aspects of the relationship are there but with the way I'm feeling, I just feel like I'm being used. Should I end this?? =(
2006-09-26 21:23:11 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By him saying that you have a relationship but not a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, he's telling you that you're his perpetual "booty call." He essentially told you that he's looking for a "friends with benefits" relationship so that he can date around without having to miss out on sex because you'll be there to take care of his needs
Quite frankly, I'd break it off because his view of your relationship is very selfish. He's interested about making the relationship work for him and it appears that he has no interest in giving you what you need.
Also, he's not over his ex-girlfriend. An occasional mention when he's telling an old story is one thing, but using his ex to even "play" with you is totally disrespectful. There is no instance where toying with your emotions in that way would be appropriate. Additionally, you said he tries to pass it off by saying "he was playing and wanted to get me mad." Why would anyone who cares about you actually try to make you angry or hurt? It makes no sense. Therefore, the only rational explanation is that he is selfish and doesn't care about your feelings.
It's time to let him go so that you can find another guy who loves and respects you as much as you love and respect him. This current guy is not worth your time or emotion.
2006-09-26 21:33:21 · answer #1 · answered by Myzyri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to sit down and tell this guy exactly how you feel. if you're not boyfriend/girlfriend then it's pretty clear he doesn'y want to commit to you, but expects you to commit to him (hense the non-open relationship). I think you need to leave him, he doesn't want to commit and I don't think he's treating you with the respect you deserve. good luck and i hope it all works out for you x
2006-09-26 21:56:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the most basic level you need to be sure what is right for you. If he is with you on the "rebound" then you must assess if you are cool with that.
It sounds like he is suiting himself. Ask yourself what you want (not always easy I grant you) then stick to it. If this means dumping him then do it. if you are happy to carry on and see how it develops then carry on and then re-evaluate at a later date.
2006-09-26 21:28:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF THERE IS SEX INVOLED OR ANY KIND OF SEXUAL CONTACT THEN YA GET OUT HE IS USING YOU AND WHEN YOU SAY THAT HE ISNT YOUR BOYFRIEND THEN MOST OF THE TIME GUYS ARE JUST PLAYING GAMES AND GETTIN WAHT EVER THEY WANT OF THE GIRL, SO YOU ARE TOGETHER BUT NOT TOGETHER I WOULD GET OUT SEEN TOO MANY PEOPLE SAY THE SAME THING AND END UP GETTIN HURT BY ONE OF THE OTHER SO I WOULD EITHER MAKE HIM COMMIENT OR JUST GET OUT ASAP K
2006-09-26 21:26:48 · answer #4 · answered by tip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out and get out now....Don't waste your time. If he misses his ex-girlflriend then let him go back to her. Don't put up with that. If you aren't getting what you want or need from the relationship and he's not prepared to give it, move on....
2006-09-26 22:03:59 · answer #5 · answered by msladykm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 21:48:37 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its surely a couple of nights stand in.from his point of view
2006-09-26 21:28:36 · answer #7 · answered by s g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you yourself is bore with the relationship.
2006-09-26 21:49:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, why should you leave this . now the world is known for its trend.
so it is nothing wrong in having contact.
2006-09-26 21:28:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-26 21:49:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋