Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years now today. We broke up for about 5 months because I felt as if I didn't love him anymore. During those 5 months, we weren't in contact and grieved so heavily for him because he left me even though I wanted to be friends still. I went into a major depression, got therapy, etc. When we finally spoke to each other again, I felt so happy and believed I was back in love with him. Lately I've been having irrational thoughts though that I might not love him. He doesn't give me any reason to NOT love him. He is the person I trust most with everything. I do believe I find him attractive still. I still stay on the phone with him for hours at a time. I call him everyday, send him emails, comfort him when he's sad, and try to care for him. When I say I love you now though, I don't feel anything from it and I'm starting to question whether if I am in love with him or am I just faking it? I think I still might be depressed because I want to love him
2006-09-26 21:14:31 · 7 answers · asked by mango lover. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometimes you have to just walk away.
If you feel something is not right, well it probably isn't! You missed him so much while you were not together because you missed what you were use to having. It is the same if you like a favorite food, if you thought you could never have it again, it would upset you. Well the one thing with a relationship when you feel it is not going anywhere are that you are unfair in your feelings you have to walk away.
I am sure you are young, and you will find the one for you. Just get some time alone for a while, you could use it to think through things and you have issues of separation that you need to deal with.
Good Luck seems life is not as easy when you are all grown up!
2006-09-26 21:20:09 · answer #1 · answered by Samantha M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love isnt aways about feelings, there is always some sacrifice
involved in loving someone. any long term relation ship always need work to keep it alive once the novelty wears off. and everyone has some fault or weakness that can wear thin with our relationship. for relationships to work they require to commitment of both partners to keep the unit as one. or maybe you are trying to hard, what i mean is if you are talking on the phone for hours ect. maybe this is wearing thin with you. dont be worried about letting the honey period go. it dosnt mean its the end of your relationship, you find you both can be at peace slipping into a more layback relationship, by being yourselves(unless ones habits are morally unjust) you put less expectations on each other. -my wife and I have been married 8 years, even gone through major life stresses and changes and are still going strong. you could be also protecting your heart after your split up.because you got hurt the first time. i have experienced this personally because when a couple split its a wakeup call to nothing is infaluable, plus their is a type of betrayal, because the partner was willing to let the relationship fail.-but dont expect perfection, doesnt exist in this world. as long as you know your partner is working at your relationship as hard as you then its worth keeping. there is plenty out there that are tragic.so think careful about throwing it away you may even never find it that good again and regret it. we as humans get bored and loose interest very quickly -its part of our makeup.
2006-09-27 05:10:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is the answer to everything. All you ever need is love,
communication and understanding. That's what I figured out so
far. If you are down, you need to get up and start doing something with
your life. Don't need to be shy, be straight forward and allways say what
you want and expect from the others.
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2006-09-27 05:45:04 · answer #3 · answered by b b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you are afraid for some reason. you need to look within yourself and find out what is going on. If he hasn't given you a reason to feel this way then maybe you don't realize that you are growing apart? just do what you feel is best because your decisions affect the outcome of your relationship! if you love him, love him and if not let him go. good luck!
2006-09-27 04:17:50 · answer #4 · answered by TNW22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You still do. The word has just lost it's meaning. Say something in substitute for it.
Be creative.
2006-09-27 04:17:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't exactly have to be defined "love". the fact that you enjoy staying with him and that you believe in him, means you love him and he probably does love you too. keep it up and savor it.
2006-09-27 04:40:17 · answer #6 · answered by imb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drama queen of the highest order.
2006-09-27 04:17:35 · answer #7 · answered by nobudE 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋