I am 20 Years old. I have been in a relationship for 2 years we recently split up and did our own thing for a bit, and i met someone that i really like. But my ex partner want to get back with me, he is so caring and treats me so well. But i have no sexual attraction to him. Can you stay together with out it? I feel like he is my brother and care for him but i dont find him attractive anymore, actually its been like that for about a year.
The guy that i have met i only see once a week maybe and he wil take me some where nice or will meet up with him after a night out. Think he is trying to play me though as he sometimes texts me then just ignores my texts for a couple of days. But then he tells me he cant stop thinking about me, and that i should go and see him when hes away. He's going to australia for 2 months. So i dont know what he wants from me...does he actually like me?
The question is which one do i choose, or do i stay single?
2006-09-26 21:13:19 · 25 answers · asked by star 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
stay single ,neither are right for you..good luck
2006-09-26 21:17:13 · answer #1 · answered by ginger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must have split up originally for a good and valid reason and therefore by getting back with the ex you will just be going round in a vicious circle which is difficult to get out of. as far as it goes with the new guy i think you should try being friends and seeing where things go.
if you really can't choose stay single for a while and then decide where you go with either or neither of these guys. all the best chick.
2006-09-26 21:26:54 · answer #2 · answered by missree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it would be fair to you ex to string him along, as one day you will meet someone who you feel more attracted to and probably leave him then instaed of now! Give you're ex the freedom to move on.
You current guy sounds ok on a casual basis, but maybe have an "open" relationship when he is away, then you are both free to play the field and not feel guilty. If you both feel strongly when he gets back, take it to a more serious level then?
Good Luck!
2006-09-26 21:21:36 · answer #3 · answered by adihat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay single ... find another guy (eventually)
A young woman can't stay in a relationship without some sort of sexual feeling, nor can she stay in a relationship where the guy is a player and who's going off to the other side of the world!
There's plenty of guys out there who will treat you right and have a sexual relationship with you on YOUR terms not theirs!
2006-09-27 04:43:51 · answer #4 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay single, the first guy woudlnt have let you split up if he really wanted you, he doesnt want you to be with someone else. The second guy just wants a shag, I know cos Ive done it myself. You are only 20 so dont worry, you have years to find the right guy and when he comes along you will not need to ask anyone what they think as you will know for yourself!
2006-09-26 21:16:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, now you know how your ex feels. I don't mean that in a nasty way. He is more attracted to you than you are to him. You are now more attracted to this new person than he in you. Sometimes it works out that way.
I met my (now) wife when I was 6 months younger than you. We split for a while and I felt toward her as you feel toward your ex. Then some years later we met up again....it all changed then. We were different people at 25.
Things have a way of surprising one. People change. You most of all.
2006-09-26 21:19:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think your ex is a no go area...remember there is a reason you split up and you don't love him in the same way he loves you its wrong to lead him on. As for the new guy who knows if its a new relationship then it doesn't always go smoothly I would play it by ear if he isn't giving you everything you want finish it and enjoy the delights of being single.
2006-09-26 21:16:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to have some sexual attraction, in my opinion. I can't fall in love with any girl that i don't have the hots for. The other guy sounds like he i playing you. I know it's hard for girls, but stay single for awhile to clear your head. Don't have sex because it clouds your thinking about a person and makes you overlook extreme bad points, in the other person. You want a clear head when making decisions about relationships.
2006-09-26 21:19:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id stay single chick you always split up with somebody for a reason and it can be easy to forget as time goes on what it was. Also play the other guy at his own game.. treat em mean keep em keen!!
2006-09-26 21:16:10 · answer #9 · answered by kerrylonglegs9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the second one is playing you the first one sounds nice try thinking what attracted you to him in the first place you might be able to get that back! I would say stay single and wait for someone who you fancy and isn't taking you for a ride
2006-09-26 22:02:12 · answer #10 · answered by browntbath 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of them both.An ex is an ex for a reason.You need passion in a relationship.We only have one life,our happiness is paramount.The guy who is going to australia is a waste of space.Dump him before he dumps you.Walk away with self respect and dignity from both of these men.You deserve better.Take care
2006-09-26 21:21:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋