My best friend and her boyfriend of two years just broke up for good but have been on and off for a while. She cheated on him several times and treated him badly. I was there for her until I found out that she wasnt really my friend at all and was talking bad about me. Now her Ex is saying he really likes me and has for a while and I kinda like him I guess but i feel bad because he was with my friend and I feel that it would be wrong to date him but she really was never a real friend to me I guess after all but I still care for her even though she did what she did to me and I dont know if it would be right to date her ex. He is a really great guy but I dont know what to do. I dont want her to hate me but then again I dont know why I should even care. What would you do.
2006-09-26 20:55:23 · 17 answers · asked by kristen e 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you already the answer.
Even if she has been a poor friend(to say the least), it would not show class to date her ex. For your own dignity, you must stay above that situation. There are many choices for you...he should be at least 100 places in back of the last one.
I sense you have a good decent sincere heart. With class and pride added, you have a winning combination.
2006-09-26 21:08:40 · answer #1 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are saying that she was really not a friend to you to make yourself feel better about wanting to date her ex. even if that was true you should wait until the right amount of time passes by and if you are still her friend and i mean if you two still talk then you should just leave him alone. also, think about it, he knows you two were friends, how would you feel if you were to get with this guy and when you broke up he immediately began to tell one of your friends that he's into them and wants to date them? just remember that what you do to others will eventually be done to you!
2006-09-27 04:03:23 · answer #2 · answered by TNW22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I know that someone has lied to another person, I know that it is most likely that they have, or will lie to me. It is part of their nature.
The only thing that is stopping them is they have not yet found it to suit their "needs".
The same is true for stealing, decieving, and any other charecter defect. If they are doing it to others, it is just a mater of time before they find it convienent to do it to you.
Your friend was dishonest with her last boyfriend by cheating. she most likely has also been dishonest with you. I don't think that she was really a friend, just a selfish aquaintence.
If you like the guy, date him.
2006-09-27 04:36:32 · answer #3 · answered by Daniel B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you sure you don't like your friend because she really is a bad person or is it because you like her ex? because i think it's pretty obvious that you still care about her feelings otherwise you would be dating her ex by now.. as long as you're certain that she really is not your real friend i guess it's okay.
i think you should tell her first that you're seeing his ex (not to ask for permission, just to let her know) because it would be better for her to know from you than from someone else.
2006-09-27 04:05:09 · answer #4 · answered by catkittykitten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many fishes in the ocean; unless u discovered there;s only one guy in the world who can like u; and unfortunately, he is ur friend's bf.
better to find anotehr guy than prove ur friend right (what she said behind ur back); also get proof if she really had back stabbed u, bec some people just love scattering those gossips around to break friendships...
2006-09-27 04:01:05 · answer #5 · answered by The Punisher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date the guy. If this "friend" talks bad about you then she is not your friend. So you are free to do wateva you like. You like this guy? Do you think you two have a chance? Is he worth your time?
If you answer yes to all 3 questions then definitely go for it. As for your "friend" if she confronts you just say payback is a b.......
2006-09-27 04:05:20 · answer #6 · answered by Chillin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bottom-line: Regardless of how you sympathize with your friend, do you really wanna fall into the guy? No hesitation, no holding back? If yes, go girl... and the world be damned! After all, it's your life you're taking care of.
2006-09-27 04:03:16 · answer #7 · answered by Bummerang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you heard the saying "Every time you sleep with someone, you are sleeping with everyone that person ever slept with"? If your friend was sleeping around on her ex, just imagine what diseases he may be carrying. From the way you describe her, I sure wouldn't want her sloppy seconds.
2006-09-27 04:02:21 · answer #8 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep away from him.
u caught him on the rebound. he dropped out of one relationship and is looking to enter another one - with you. u sure that's what u want?
he is looking to use u to forget, and perhaps to spite ur friend, who as u say is not ur friend anymore.
but where do u get off playing second fiddle to a girl like that?
2006-09-27 04:00:32 · answer #9 · answered by Lone Ranger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definately date him especially if I knew he's a good guy. Come on your friend does not appreciate anything good anyway, so take the chance.
2006-09-27 04:00:53 · answer #10 · answered by Crew served weapon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋