i have a long distance gf and before i met her she used to do cam chat, which she doesnt do no more she says it was not her just her acting to make money to pay off her debts, but i met a guy who used to chat with her online like 4 yrs ago, and he said she used to do everything for him she was wild, but underneath she is shy and now with me as a gf, though she is not that sexual with me yet cos we long distance this contradiction worries me, she insists it was just an act to get the money we have discussed it alot, can i have your comments on how i can deal with this
2006-09-26 20:48:41 · 27 answers · asked by johnny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
please note she has said online is no emotional contact when she really makes love to me for real it will mean so much thats y she waiting
2006-09-26 20:53:03 · update #1
alright john, long distance relationships really take a toll on the whole sex thing, now as a guy you should know that your not going to tell if you paid someone to do those things for you, and besides if she didnt and she is lying she might just have a good reason, give her some time to open up to you, just give the relationship some time, you never know she might really like you and she does want to wait with you so that its extra special, just give the girl some space and time dont rush her into it, all that is going to do is push her away. Just sit back and go with the flow and everything will pan out as it should and was suppose to.
2006-09-26 21:05:03 · answer #1 · answered by Phoebe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The past is past let it lay! I am sure that everyone does mistakes in his life and no one is perfect. I think she was quite honest with you in the first place by telling you what she used to do. If you feel comfortable talking to her and she's not doing it anymore you have to give her a chance. After all four years ago you didn't even know her, so ditch the past and live in the present. Just remember that no one is perfect and since we are humans we are prone to doing things we might regret later. One positive thing is that from our own mistakes we get life lessons, which are the best lessons we can get. go for it dude don't worry about what ppl might think about you or her the important thing is that you're happy nothing else matters.
2006-09-27 04:18:15 · answer #2 · answered by Natasha T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that yes she was wild and bad in her past, and she may be ashamed of this, but now she loves you, and you have changed her completely. You're a lucky guy.
She wants to be real and honest with you, she doesn't want to be wild and naughty, the difference is that she loves you, and these cam chats meant nothing to her. When she makes love to you she wants it to be completely different from her past experiences. She wants it to be special, because you are special to her.
I think you should believe her. What she needs is some time to bury the old her, and when you do start making love it will be great, she will probably be wild later as she gains confidence in the fact that this (with you) is different to her past, and that it is not wrong. You just need to be patient and you will soon see for yourself.
2006-09-27 04:20:20 · answer #3 · answered by lakmii 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her go.. I mean if someone can think to do something crazy to get money, that way of thinking will be with her forever so if she needs money she will go back to that way to get money.. Let me tell you story; a friend of mine, met this girl, she is a drug user,particulary ectasy (the pills), my friend got closer to her and eventually made her as a girlfriend..he said he already set limits and that girl promise not to touch the drugs anymore.. but a while after that she got back to the drug, my friend car got stolen and he lost quite a lot of money..additional information my friend and people that know this girls believe that she is a good girl inside..
so yea i just can suggest you look for another women.. it is just not fair to you if she actually do the things all over again..
goodluck!!
2006-09-27 04:05:47 · answer #4 · answered by _ni_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is the issue here. Maybe she is telling the truth, maybe playing it down. The problem you now have is that whenever an issue arises are you going to believe her or will this incident always rear its head. I think the answer lies with you and to weather you can see any future at all. If you cant then I'm afraid you need to move on alone......
2006-09-27 03:58:03 · answer #5 · answered by pat.rob00 Chef U.K. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say you got a long distance relationship with this girl,you should get yourself a web cam and talk to her online.talk to her and maybe get a ''private show''.seenig as she has stop her cam chatting for finance you should reep the benifites now,dont you think?if you trust her about the acting part of her ''career'' you should leave it at that!
i dont mean any disrespect to your girl but just make sure her though...if she is shy around you and her sexual affection can be bought,where does that leave you with love??
think about it...
and just relax and forget about it.every one makes mistakes!
forgive them unless they do it again...
just talk to her...goodluck buddy
cheers out
2006-09-27 04:04:49 · answer #6 · answered by boo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she told you she did it thats a good thing, I cant think of many having the bottle to tell there bloke that! You have to put it out of your mind she did it before you........its done and if you think over it all the time yous dont stand a chance it will eat away at you lad!!
2006-09-27 03:54:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she's the one for you, then juz forget her past. Take her as she is. But, in this long distance relationship, I don't think you both will make it. You are wasting your time, thinking bout someone that you don't know the personality yet. ok. Gudluk.
2006-09-27 04:01:57 · answer #8 · answered by Happy_hours 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm ... I'd still say give her the benefit of a doubt. Spend more time with her. In the long run you will discover the truth about your girl, you'll see.
2006-09-27 03:54:07 · answer #9 · answered by Mary Rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats past is past, what matters now is the present and you should be starting with a clean slate. If you can't handle it, get out of the situation.
2006-09-27 04:18:38 · answer #10 · answered by Useless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋