Two siblings, the sister is 17 plus and the brother 12 plus, and they're a bit close some time back but now they're real close...and it suddenly happened...as the sister makes the first move by hitting on his head and shoulders as if teasing and even tickling him and in return he too does it and they laugh and cry like hell....and this is what im observing as one of the their familly members at home...
I don't think that there is anything wrong in this but still i feel awkward about it as sometimes they behave just like lovers on the bed fighting and biting each other and stuff like that.
They're my wife's siblings and i feel i have a responsibility at hand to just hint about this to her but i don't have the guts to tell about this....but still i feel it's perfectly normal for them and still i feel awkward and also i have noticed that this girl does these things with her little brother a way bit too much when im persent at home..and this is another big issue for me..pls help..tks.
2006-09-26 20:43:18 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds like the 17 year old girl is a little horny and she's using her little brother to get some kind of satisfaction. It also sounds like you are jealous and that you have an infatuation with her. Make sure you keep yourself in check buddy. As soon as she finds a boyfriend of her oun age I'm positive she will leave her little brother alone.
2006-09-26 21:03:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, your's is a difficult situation. I see it as being able to do one of two things. You can tell them...in a loud, impatient, and serious tone...to cut it out. Look at them in the eyes. Then switch the subject...ask them if their homework is done...if their chores are done. If they normally don't have any chores--get them to work doing some. If your gutt is telling you something...more than likely it is almost dead on. Im not saying that anything is happening...but they may have been allowed to horse around like that, forever.
The other thing is to try and talk to the mother about it. This is going to be the most difficult, because it depends on how you are going to argue (discuss) your point to where she will agree with what you are trying to convey.
Before you do this...think about (and you can talk to her about this)
-what she thinks is important in regards to relationships between siblings?
-what issues about siblings concern her?
-what kinds of things does she value in respect to this kind of issue?
-how aware or knowledgable do you think she is about this kind of thing?
-does she share your views?
-what opposing views does she hold?
-what sources of evidence (you would be using in your actual discussion) would she be likely to respect?
-what reasons would she likely find to be the most persuasive?
Hopefully, when you investigate this further---you will find that she is on the same page...she may have just needed to be made aware of the situation, and she might welcome your input. It is a very sensitive topic and should be handled with tact.
You might find that you aren't suited for each other or she might take offense...some people assert "these are my kids (or siblings). Not yours."...I hope this wont be the case. Apparently, you two are acting as the guardians? No?
I wish you the best of luck.
2006-09-27 04:06:15 · answer #2 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all think think you ment to say they are your wife's kids, not her siblings. Sounds innocent enough to me, except for maybe they could move their playfighting to the livingroom and not on a bed. Maybe you didn't have a close relationship with your siblings and this is why it feels akward to you?
2006-09-27 03:48:53 · answer #3 · answered by Charlotte S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your wife to interfere, you can also correct them while they're doing such things. Show your guts for once and you'll be relieved later on.
2006-09-27 03:53:54 · answer #4 · answered by sameer s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would ask your wife if they always do that and what does she think of it. That will make her think. If she thinks it's OK, then I would drop it and just not look the next time it happens.
2006-09-27 03:52:08 · answer #5 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you could try to get along with the younger sibling. if he is like that then tell his parents, or u could have his sister come over to your parents house.
2006-09-27 03:46:19 · answer #6 · answered by dark^wishy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Don't look Ethel!" Be careful if you open that 'can of worms' EVERYONE might get mad at you!
2006-09-27 03:46:29 · answer #7 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋