Age Difference Does it matter?

Question

Does it make a difference if there is an age gap of say more than 5 years ? Does experience come with age ?

Answer 1

no it shouldn't matter,but some people always like to judge others.

Answer 2

Well does it make a difference to what?
5 years age difference in a relationship is no difference but as the gap widens the more comments it will attract and the necessity to fulfil different aims in life may be more prevalent.
That is not to say that the relationship will not work only that both partners need to recognise that and accept it.

Experience does not necessarily come with age although it often does. In comparison a person that sets out to take life by the throat and go for every experience possible may be younger but more knowledgeable than the older recluse or introvert.

Answer 3

Offcourse experience comes with age, this is inevitable. Age matters less and less the more we age. Obviously there is a bigger difference between a couple that are15 and 20, compared to a couple who are 40 and 45. In the first case the 15 year old would still be very innocent, at school, doing kids stuff etc. While the 20 year old might be working, studying, interested in marriage even?? If this is your 15 year old daughter wanting to date a 20 year old, there would be some concern. However if you are 30, dating a 35 year old what's the difference?

Answer 4

Age difference DOES matter. Experience and maturity come with age. I'm not saying that you should only date people of your age. All I'm saying is just properly evaluate what you have in common with that person and what goals are important to you at each of your ages.

For example, a 16 year old and a 21 year old may like a few of the same bands, books, tv shows, and movies. But that 16 year old has yet to face the growing process that post high-school/college offers you. And that can be a big problem.

Even at 25, I date a lot of 30 year olds. They're ready to have kids and start families immediately. I'm just out of grad school and looking to start my career first.

Answer 5

My husband is 13 years older than I am - the older you get (you as a couple), the less the age difference matters.

When we first met, I was 21 - he said "I wish I'd met you 15 years ago", I replied "Dear, I was 6..."

From my point of view, having an older husband was beneficial, especially at first. I was a student, I didn't know how to cook or get a mortgage or anything, and my husband did (for the record, I do know how to do those things now.)

Having said that, marrying so young to someone so much holder did age me a bit, I think, but that wasn't necessarily a bad thing.

Oddly, and curiously, people feel differently when the woman is older than the man - quite possibly because of the Richard and Judy factor. Men tend to age more gracefully than women (not fair!) and so she's looking haggard when he's looking (somewhat) distinguished.

Really, it's down to the personalities and to the age of the protagonists (if my daughter dated someone five years older than she, I'd not be happy - she's 15. If she dated someone five years older than she in 10 years time, I wouldn't mind).

Answer 6

Hi,
It depends what is the age difference. I mean if you are 16 and she's 30 it does make a difference but if you're 22 and she's 30 it doesn't make a difference at all! I myself am in a stable relationship and my boyfriend is 5 years younger than me. I am 29 and he's 24. Maturity doesn't come with age but with the experiences you've been through in your life. I know people who are way over 30 and 40 and have no sign of maturity in them so if you love her go for it. :)

Answer 7

I don't think it matters as long as you have similar levels of confidence and self esteem so that there isn't a huge power struggle. You have people who have old heads on young shoulders and people who have young heads on old shoulders. As long as you find each other attractive and are willing to work at the relationship it should be fine. As you get older the age gaps matters less. Experience does come with age but we never stop learning and will never know it all.

Answer 8

yes experiance does come with age my gf 32 and i 39 and it makes no difference i think if the age gap extends beyond 10 yrs then u can c some differences but if its not a prob go 4 it

Answer 9

What ages are we talking about? 16 - 21 or 30 - 35 or 50 - 55?
It doesn't matter to start with when everything is going great..... but it can become a niggle later on into the relationship when you have been together for a few years..... but we are all different and I always say go with the flow and if it doesn't last just move on.

Answer 10

I think it depends on how old and mature both people are? My bf is 12yrs old than me, we have been together 12yrs now, and met when I was 18.
I think as we have aged, the gap is starting to show a bit more now...he wants to stay in and I like to go out still!! But we are still happy together and I wouldn't trade him in for a younger model!! lol
If you are comfortable with the age gap (and it isn't a case of someone more mature taking advantage) then it isn't a problem.

Answer 11

There are 10 years between my husband and I and we have a fantastic relationship. We started seeing each other when I was 19, I'm 30 now and although we've had a few hard times we are stronger than ever because of them. As long as you are open and honest with each other then just take it as it comes. Be careful though, it can be tough being alot older than someone in a relationship as your priorities lie in very different places.