Do you approve of the institution of polygamy in Islam?

Question

I'm interested in genuine answers from Muslim women (including prospective converts). No mischief-mongers please!

I want to know how you 'feel' about this cardinal principle of Islam. Don't you 'feel' it is incongruous in today's age?

Considering the fact that you're happily married and a situation has arisen which perfectly warrants a second marriage for your husband; what would be your reaction?

In case you're unmarried, how would you 'feel' if your would-be husband happens to be a strong advocate of Islamic polygamy?

I WANT TO KNOW THE TRUTH FROM YOU!!!

Answer 1

If I am married to this guy and one day he comes and tells me that he wants to marry another woman as well, I'll appreciate his honesty cuz that marriage is better than having an illegal affair outside marriage.

Allah know's men's nature that he can love more than one woman in his life and therefore, if he can afford to give both women a decent lifestyle and equal attention, he can go for it.

I can stand another wife of my husband but can't stand him lying to me and having an affair. that would be disgusting.

If islam allows 4 marriages to a man there are conditions for that too.

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Answer 2

You're going to get the usual response "It's only allowed if the man can be fair to all of the women". Well, I personally don't see how in polygamy anyone can be fair. Someone's going to get less time, less loving, etc. I find it impossible for a man to split his time between 2 women, much less 4 of them. The very idea of polygamy (especially a with a religious decree) seems ludacris to me. That's just my humble opinion.

Add: Yes, you guys are right. Nothing says "I love you honey", like taking on another wife.
"asafaah" I think you need to have another go at the Bible and see why People of the Book do not allow polygamy.
"Mustafa rOcKs" You're throwing out some serious stats out there, but with no evidence to back it up. I'd like to know where you got your statistics from. Or did you just make them up, to prove your point?

Answer 3

I'm married, but Islam allowed many wives for the reasons you were given by other posts, in the old days, there were many wars, and many widows, the number of women were a lot more than men.
in Quran, it says that you have to be fair, and if you cannot be fair then do not marry!
These days ,the second wife is getting less, unless there was a strong reason to remarry, and as my husband always tells me:
I have enough trouble with one wife why should I bring to myself more trouble???????????

Answer 4

Hey!

You dont attack Islam to make plural marriage sound like a crime.

Read the Law on plural marriage in the Quran and if Allah allows you to understand what you read, only then can you comment or query.

Plural marriage is a safeguard for widows and orphans and for the man who can afford it and who can love all wives the same, but, Allah warns, one, if you know what is good for you.

You see, Allah is The Just, and Allah does not discriminate so the Law is there for examination.

Islam removes the beast from in man and purifies the man.

Islam does not encourage man to be beastly.

It is the Grace of Allah that rules in Islam.

Answer 5

It is a meanigless question and out of context and non viable. It's a point of view. You are asking for approval or disapproval of a religious cultural issue. If you are born into Islam you will find that approval is almost universal. In Christianity you will find disapproval . If disapproval comes from within the culture/religion and has enough supporters it will change. If it comes from without it will be resisted. Do not forget the Mormons.

Answer 6

some human beings gave some logical solutions yet i desire to conceal the regulations interior all of it. first of all whilst a guy comes to a decision to marry yet another females he has to have a fantastically reliable reason to. He cant in simple terms marry 4 females in simple terms simply by fact he needs 4 females. a guy needs a logical reason. case in point, his cutting-edge spouse can't get pregnant possibly. Or the 2d skill spouse desperately needs a husband to help herself financially and can't discover the different skill substantial different. the 2d rule is that the present spouse could desire to enable it. If she disagrees then thats it for him then! She additionally has the marvelous to divorce him if he refuses her disagreements and comes to a decision to bypass on with it. So on the top of the day marrying over one females the permissible way is quite no longer hassle-free to do. on an identical time as you notice in the present day in maximum cultures and international locations adult men can do it extremely with no need to grant logical motives it extremely is against Islam. on the top of the day God will decide them.

Answer 7

Honestly? If I really love someone I wouldn't wanna share him with anyone else.

But for example, what if I can't have kids and he wants a child who is biologically his, I can't deny him of his right can I? (note: I don't think the concept of surrogacy is alright in Islam). It wouldn't be fair to him & I would want him to be happy & have his child.
And should he divorce me just b/c I can't conceive?

Before I get married I will have a honest conversation with my potential husband & tell him that I won't approve of him getting another wife unless I wasn't able to conceive. If he agrees, fine. If he doesn't, he's not my match. I'll meet someone who is right for me.

So in other words, yes I approve of it, but only under certain circumstances. Remember he does have to ask his first wife's permission first :)

And that is the truth from me.

Answer 8

I agree with Huda_Alee. I am muslim woman and i think if my husband wants another women, then he should marry her and be responsible and give her rights instead of only play around, lie to me and be irresponsible. That would make harder for a man to have another woman, not like in the west where a man can have sex with another women without any restrictions. How would a western woman feel if her husband does that?

Answer 9

Well, I am not a women, but I think can give you a reasonable explaination on the subject. You see, the verse in the Quran which says that upto 4 wives can be taken is as follows, "Marry women of your choice, upto 2,3 or 4. But If you cant be just to all of them equally, marry only ONE!" Now we all know that normally, people marry a second wife if unhappy with the first. But you see, than one would not be acting justly, and hence, should only have one wife. Islam is very strong on a singly wife stand.

But you may, then why did Quran mention a stament which seems to give permission to marry upto four wives. Well, God in his infinte wisdom, had a reason here too. You see, if you ask any gynacologist, they will tell you that by nature, girls and boys are born in equal proportion, but only in the age of infancy itself, more boys die than girls, since girls have a better human system and a better ability to fight germs. So in the pedriatic age itself, there are more girls left than boys. Latter on in life, death occurs due to smoking, war, fights, crimes on streets, ect. Every one knows that more men die in these things than women. What is the result. Today in NewYork alone, there are 7 million more female of marrying age than men. In Uk alone, there are 5 million more women of marrying age then men. Now suppose, if all men in UK or USA marry one women, there will still be around 6 million women left. They have two options, either to marry a man who already has a wife, and be treated fairly, equally, justly with all due rights, or second option is that she may become public property. Which option you think is better. Its like lesser of the two evils.

I dont understand, in USA alone, an average male sleeps with 9 different partners before marrying one. That is alright for every one where women are thought of as objects of desire. But in Islam, when women have to be treated equally, give rights in inheritance ect. this does not go down in any ones throat. Is this not double standards???

Answer 10

most women may not like it. and other women can accept it. but it's sometime important to balance the society. and Allah put it clearly by saying if you can't be fair then marry only One.

1. there are widows, divorce, singles who r getting older and want to start a family.

2. not all MEN want to get married, not all MEN are financially ready to get married.

3. sex out side of marriage is forbidean and a great sin.

4. men and women are different emotionally, physically, and mentally. men have more sex drive.

5. number of women are increasing, while number of men are declining.