The couple is footing most of the wedding bill, but the Brides Mom (and family) is helping a little financially. Grooms family not even offering to help in any way (He's the "black sheep" of three siblings). We'd like to include Brides family in the invitation wording, but don't know how to make it sound proper, without insult to Grooms family.
2006-09-26 19:38:14 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It is actually MOST traditional that the bride's parents are the ones listed on the invitations as hosts-- and only the hosts and the couple belong on the invitation.
Who besides the bride's mom is helping to host?
Moms get listed first, always.
Ms. Susan Bridesmother
Mr. Steven Bridesuncle
request the honour of your presence
at the wedding of Susan's daughter
Joanna Bride
and
Mr. John Groom
etc
2006-09-27 15:13:13 · answer #1 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In reality, the wording of the invitation does not reflect who is paying for the wedding. Traditionally, the bride's parents host the wedding, and the groom's parent's aren't listed. If you want to recognize your parent's and not his, here is how to do it:
Mr. and Mrs. Bride's Parents
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Bride's Name
to
Groom's Name
at blah blah blah
The above phrasing does not highlight the fact that you are footing most of the bill, which is okay. But if it's really important to you that everyone think you're hosting this yourselves, then use this:
Bride and Groom
request the honor of your presence
at their marriage
on blah blah blah
There is no way to include your parents but not his except for the very first one I mentioned. You could modify it a bit so that his parents are mentioned but not listed as hosts:
Mr. and Mrs. Bride's Parents
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Bride's Name
to
Groom's Name
son of Mr. and Mrs. Groom's Parents
at blah blah blah
I recommend this last one as the best way to word the invitation so as to not slight anybody. Best of luck!
2006-09-27 10:02:45 · answer #2 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter who is paying for the wedding. The invitation is an announcement letting the bride and groom's friends know that they are getting married. Also, letting the bride's family and friends and the groom's family and friends know that the couple are getting married and would like for them to join in the celebration.
When I remarried 9 years ago besides my parents names I also had my children's names on the invitations. This was to show that they were also happy for my husband and I and our new family.
2006-09-27 03:03:20 · answer #3 · answered by merrybears200 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally the bride's parents hosted the wedding. Use traditional wording and it shouldnt be insulting to anyone at all.
Let the bride's parents be listed as the hosts since they are contributing and that is tradition. The happy couple will be listed anyway since they're the ones getting married.
2006-09-27 02:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents are paying close to $20,000 for our wedding and my fiance's (grooms) are complaining about paying $3000 for their trip (it's a destination wedding).
My mom said she's not even going to risk th argument of leaving their name off of the invitation (I wasn't going to put it on).
You could just put "Together with their parents, *Bride* and *Groom* request the honour of your presence....."
Or leave the parents names out entirely and just put something like "The honour of your presence is requested at the marriage ceremony of *Bride* and Groom*....."
That doesn't imply any certain person is hosting it. You can also put "*Bride* and *Groom* request...."
If you want to go traditional, then it would be
"*Bride's parents* request the honour of your presence at the marriage ceremony of their daughter
*Bride*
to
*Groom*
2006-09-27 13:58:40 · answer #5 · answered by abbya11111 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should word it to include both sets of parents - it doesn't matter who is paying for what or how much - it's a matter or respect.
---(a beginning of the invitation - e.g. On this day I will marry my love, my soulmate, my friend...)
Mr. and Mrs. Blah Doe of Wherever (bride's parents)
and
Mr. and Mrs. Yah Cool of Somewhere (groom's parents)
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their children
Jane Dot Doe
and
Joe Bah Cool
on Saturday, the eighteenth of April
Two thousand and twelve
at two o'clock in the afternoon
at St. Cecilia's Jumbotron
(address)
Then, lower left, include reception info.
2006-09-27 05:48:37 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We didn't want to list everybody's names on our invitation so we just began it with, "Together with their families..." It was the easiest and most simple way to do it, and it sounded quite nice.
2006-09-27 09:37:52 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you could say:
'John' and 'Jane', along with their parents would like......
we used:
Jen and mark are getting married and we would like (guest) to help us celebrate
our wedding was a bit unconventional!
2006-09-28 11:09:50 · answer #8 · answered by jen_82_m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the love of God, Somebody stop me!
2006-09-27 02:48:19 · answer #9 · answered by been there 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"Hey Y'all, we're gettin' married!"
2006-09-27 02:46:20 · answer #10 · answered by Chuck Dhue 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋