my brother who's two and a half years younger than me constantly tries to overshadow me and succeeds..he's able to convince my mother that whatever im saying or doing is wrong and gets her to act all strict with me and has that wicked smile on whenever she's yelling at me...my elder brother who was never rude to me has lately started warning me not to bother him(the younger one) and sunbs me all the time..i could never harm anyone on purpose and i know i dont deserve to be treated like this..my father died last year and things were entirely different when he was around..i really really miss and have no idea how to deal with the whole situation...
2006-09-26 19:36:09 · 8 answers · asked by yellow 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
maybe yu shoudl have a talk with your mom and talk to her about it. there's really little we can do except advise you and i think yur best bet would be to talk to your mom and get your older brother to support you.. it might sound like you're teaming up against youlil bro but he can't get away with everything or at least sholdn/t just because he's the youngest..
Good Lucka nd hope your talk goes well, take care ;-)
2006-09-26 19:42:33 · answer #1 · answered by blithe_vow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are describing typical reactions for the situation. Don't worry, you can fix this.
Do some research on sibling birth order and its relationship to personality. Then discuss what you find with your mother.
Hopefully then, your mother will talk to your brothers and resolve this. Keep in mind, however, that the bond between mother and last "baby" is very strong.
2006-09-27 02:58:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey lavendar... first of all just calm down... i know it is difficult for you cos you are missing your father too.. but you have to calm down.... please.......
Your only hope right now is the person after your father... that is your brother.... moms are likely to be more affectionate to sons rather than daughters... you should understand that.... but elder brothers love their baby sis.... you can rely on your brother and talk things out.. give him some reference to recent situations and tell him that it was not your fault.... tell him how the younger brother mentality is... but this you should do in the last....... first try to explain him that you are missing your father, and the only person you can look upto is now your brother... tell him to help you out.... he is sure going to take you out of this... dont just blindly accuse your younger brother.... let your elder bro judge on that....
talk to your brother when he is on a good mood.... you will see the difference.......
take care..... & tell me about the results...
2006-09-27 02:55:42 · answer #3 · answered by mitr_hamesha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would defianetly talk to my mother if I were you, or you could write her a letter a lot of times people can say how they really feel on a peice of paper...my mother and I used to do it all the time. It actually works, because a lot of times when there is a conversation on emotions it can turn into an argument because people tend to get defensive when it comes to emotions. I wish you GOOD LUCK
2006-09-27 02:50:04 · answer #4 · answered by adaley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn karate or kung-fu and beat the snot out of yer brother then threaten to go all 'bruce lee' on anyone that even looks at you sideways.
Or you could cry a lot.......i mean like ALL the time. A crying girl gets guys every time.
2006-09-27 02:42:53 · answer #5 · answered by Shadowstorm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you need someone to talk to .....you have to understand that your fathers death is going to affect all of you in different way.....this might be your brothers way of doing so...its hard when you lose a loved one especially a parent.....sometimes kids dont know how to react to something like this..they don't know how to express their feelings...some will cry...some joke..and then then there are those who will hurt....he maybe hurting inside so he want others to hurt as well....your his target...however i dont know what he thinks or what you all have gone through..but you need to talk to someone your mother another relative...its not good for you to keep any of this in....and its not good for you to be treated this way.....but dont take matters in your own hands...get someone else to talk to him.....it seems like he is a Little hard headed....if you ever feel like chatting feel free to IM me sgtrlopez i have 6 siblings so i know how it is to be in a situation like that..still have my father and mother around but siblings can always find a way to make the other hurt...
2006-09-27 02:43:55 · answer #6 · answered by sgtrlopez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show your mother what you just wrote above. Bet she doesn't realize. If it helps actually show her this website so she knows you are real.
2006-09-27 02:38:47 · answer #7 · answered by teef_au 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your mom that younger brother is hiding porno in his room.
make sure you put some in there before you tell her.
2006-09-27 02:47:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋