I'm sorry if I seem like I'm dumping on the opposite sex, but I just got home from one of the worst dates of my life.
Every girl I've ever dated I treated like a princess. I gave of my things, my time, and myself. I placed them on pedestals because that's where I felt they deserved to be. Without fail, they have all left me for men that treated them badly. They have all hurt me deeply. It has wreaked havoc on my self-esteem. Part of me wants to be an ***, so I can get those women, but I don't because I know it is wrong.
That's all the bitchin' I'm going to do for tonight.
2006-09-26 19:07:13 · 13 answers · asked by tkj3395 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm a dude
2006-09-26 19:12:42 · update #1
Ok as a woman i can say that I do go for the "*** holes" because of a few key reasons. First off, i can understand respecting a woman and trying to give into their needs, but why give so much at first. when you are getting to know someone you should put out feelers of how much she wants to be given. In today's society woman are not usually looking for a guy that they "need" or someone that gives them everything their ittle heart desires. Instead we are being taught to be cautious of those men. becuase they tend to be controlling and dominating. By you "giving the world" we see you as a walking matt. something that you expect us to acknowledge all the time for their kindness, but something we will get broed with. I know that the reason i went back to the *** hole was becuase i knew no matter what i did to **** up he was doing something 10 times worst. and even more so, he wasn't dwelling over every detail, he was making me dwell on his details. making me want to know more about him.
BASICALLY, leave something to the imagination. Be kind when you should be, but other times just sit back and let her work some.
Dont let it get to you now though. We don't end up with the *** holes, its the shoulders we lean on after the *** hole, is well... an ***.
Good luck!
2006-09-26 19:20:13 · answer #1 · answered by girl_like_you 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play hard to get.
I'm not sure, that's more like a feminine thing to do.
Eat some ice cream it always makes women feel better.
I dont think you've done anything wrong, I wish men treated me like a princess.
Maybe you havent met the right queen yet.
Dont turn gay or anything, that's passing the line.
Good Luck<3
2006-09-27 02:11:24 · answer #2 · answered by pinklacedshoes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"If you give a girl the world, she's eat it all in one night." My cousin told me that one day and I know what he's talking about. You should never let anyone grow dependent on you because they will get bored. Some ppl feel they aren't good enough to be treated like this so they return to what they know... crap. Its normally not you but them and all you can do is wait for the right one. Just remember that the right one will never take you for granted and never misunderstand your gifts.
2006-09-27 02:11:48 · answer #3 · answered by K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women like to be dominated. Treat them bad, they'll keep coming back for more. They are breed to be like the sluts they are. Women has 3 types of men they want.
1) A man for sex
2) A man she's flirting to hit up for money
3) A man that she's saving to settle down with that will not have sex with
You pick which one you want to be. Don't go falling head over hills for someone so fast. Remember, we dont love them h_ _ .. unless they are on their knees.
2006-09-27 02:13:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is a turnoff to most woman for a man to be a gentlemen. sounds wrong but its true. you should try being more laid-back and just go with the flow (especially on 1st dates). its great to be a good guy. but for some reason it turns women off if you try to be too nice too soon. i think women get insecure sometimes in worrying that you may be a phony. keep being a nice guy but just try holding back a little bit till you get to know them a little better.
2006-09-27 02:19:03 · answer #5 · answered by none 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am just like you and I have the same problem so you are not the only one being done like this, you got to remember this it is their loss and problem not yours ok. You keep looking and you will find someone who can like you for who you are and then everything will fall into place. Keep doing what you are doing and good things shall be yours in time.
2006-09-27 02:15:18 · answer #6 · answered by William L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be a dog. Don't let your feeling get involved. Just go for yours until you get tired and then maybe the right one will come along.
2006-09-27 02:50:24 · answer #7 · answered by konala 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did nothing wrong... you just treated them very nice - like a best friend would do..... you give them everything seems like a desperate person would do... relax... i think you just hinting the wrong type of girls...... try looking for person that doesn't have similar personality.....try library girls...they're nice.... good luck!
2006-09-27 02:16:32 · answer #8 · answered by pheobe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't change you but change your approach. Give a girl your best and wait for her to come back to you. If she doesn't, move on.
2006-09-27 02:14:45 · answer #9 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you want there are women out there like that and also men out there like that too so you are not alone
2006-09-27 02:14:06 · answer #10 · answered by dee d 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋