is on the computer all the time,and has no interest in doing anything else?my son (12)and my nephew (16) spend all thier free time online playing games on line?and when i dont let them use it,they juust play ps2 or xbox games.i cant take it off them cos he lives with his mum and she wont.(dont suggest doin other stuff with them,been there done that)and i feel their future is bleak,coz they refuse to do anything to work toward thier future.
2006-09-26 19:00:46 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Summer camp, get him out away from electricity. Horse riding or boating. Show them how much fun the outside can be... and have him bring his friends, his parrents are officially dorks at that age.
2006-09-26 19:03:14 · answer #1 · answered by thetyranyofevilmen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to physically remove my nephew from the house. I have to take them far away to a swimming pool or shopping or something. He whines the whole time we are away from the machines, and I say "too bad, cause whatever we do you are not going to be playing video games". He just has to live with it - I am bigger - I am woman - I make the rules. (honestly time just goes when playing the games & the kids don't realise how ling they are on there)
2006-09-28 02:53:44 · answer #2 · answered by obenypopstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have elder son who is 13 and middle son who is 12. they love playing games on computer or play station. do they do that? the answer is NO. they never play games at home. they sometimes -once or twice a week visit their friends for a few hours and probably there they play computer games. at home they don't have any rights to use any computer (we have 2). so as a mother (or father) u have all the rights to restrict them playing. i personally think this is not good for their brains, eyes and muscles. kids can go outside and play, can go to gym, can read books fro pete's sake. and u as a parent should encourage them to do so. i go with my children to gym, if they don't want i make them. i go with them for walks, if they dont' want i make them. u re a parent, they should obey u
2006-09-27 02:05:42 · answer #3 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wouldnt talk to me I would make him go to counseling. And/or design a video on the side you can try to get him to watch about the reality of reality.
addendum:
Be there to provide for his needs financially; he will take responsibility when he's ready, when he has made his decisions about his life. People have lived to be 969; maybe they will live to be older in the future.
addendum2:
in response to "Me" (from below):You could always do like I did...tell them u don't have enough money for the internet and it will be cut off.Then cut it off for a few months
Response: that would make me go try drugs. Because of the dishonesty.
2006-09-27 02:04:58 · answer #4 · answered by isis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to talk to him mom....really computer time and video game time should be limited they have to have more activity time outside...your right about thinking towards their future and not seeing much going on.....its not good for them to be sitting down in front of a screen of any sort.....mentally or physically.....some how you have to limit the time...your the parent take some control...it seems like its a big issue for you.....make it a point to his mom....did you ever think that his mom enjoys it cause he is out of her hair for that time she doesn't have to deal with him..i mean you have to look at all points of view towards this....some people may think computer/video games aren't that bad but they are....you dont want your son to be in his twenties waiting for the latest video game to come out just so he can beat it do you....
2006-09-27 02:11:48 · answer #5 · answered by sgtrlopez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya its hard to do when you think their just having fun,until they get hooked,my son is always on his gameboy,and ya he would have a fit when we would have to go somewhere,hes 13 now,but I finally would tell himdont get on no games until homework or a certain chore was done first,they eventually get tired of playing and will find something else that interest them. well good luck
2006-09-27 02:16:30 · answer #6 · answered by alwayssmiling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL, YOU HAVE CONTROL OVER WHAT YOUR SON DOES. GIVE HIM A TIME LIMIT ON THE COMPUTER AND GAMES....MAKE HIM READ, GO OUTSIDE, SOMETHING.....BUT YOU ARE IN CONTROL, SO STOP ASKING WHAT TO DO AND START DOING IT. AS FOR YOUR NEPHEW, THE SAME RULES APPLY WHEN HE IS IN YOUR HOME. TAKE CHARGE.....THEY DONT RUN THE SHOW.....U DO.
2006-09-27 02:24:44 · answer #7 · answered by goldie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just think of how good his fine motor skills are !! buy him a game with a flight simulator, it might inspire him to be a pilot. My son plays poker online and (he is 11 and very good )its helped him in maths and given him an interest in card games .....relax .... and be positive it may help your relationship with him,kids are'nt the same as they used to be!!!
2006-09-27 02:13:08 · answer #8 · answered by that b puss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be thankful they are not out getting into trouble,doing drugs or having sex already.you know where they are at and what they're doing.let them be kids awile longer they have to grow up soon enough as it is.when the time comes they will mature and think about the future.
2006-09-27 02:08:07 · answer #9 · answered by smurfette_ftwayne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be happy he is playing game and not getting into touble with the law or doing something bad. Just let him enjoy being a kid and he will learn and be just fine.
2006-09-27 02:34:55 · answer #10 · answered by William L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋