my "boyfriend" and i have been together for 2 years. its been kind of hard for us being young and growing into eachother but we've always made it work in the end. but lately we've been arguing a lot lately and we've been stressed with having no money, in fact up until yesterday the lazy bum didnt have a job for a while and i was paying for 2 people when i couldnt even afford to pay for myself. i'm now basically $500 in debt and before he got a job he did help as much as he could. so anyway we had been arguing a lot lately and one night i was doing my "you dont spend enough alone time with me" nag again, which i know i shouldnt have. and he broke up with me. then the next day, we're hanging out again and the day after that and he says he wants to be my boyfriend "just without the title" wtf is that supposed to mean? so he can get the benefits without commitment or that he just doesnt want to refer to me as his "girlfriend"?
2006-09-26 18:19:15 · 9 answers · asked by futurefhmal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
also. i'm begining to wonder if he just wants to sleep with other women, i've caught him several times talking to other girls in a sexual way on myspace and thru e-mail. i know his e-mail password and havent been able to decide if i should read his e-mail or not. i really do love him and want him to stay with me but i want commitment and respect, whats the best advice you can give me? guyssss..i'd help a lot to hear a male opinion :) thanks
2006-09-26 18:21:58 · update #1
To be honest, Yes. He wants to have all the benefits of keeping you around as a 'girlfriend' but not have the responsibilities of having a girlfriend.
I think if he wants to be 'title free', let him be but do NOT let him get any benefits. You gotta be strong girl, let him know what he's missing... I know it's hard but you'll be much happier and feel better if you dont let him use you.
There's two roads here. Let him come crawling back begging for you to take him, or find a REAL man who isn't going to play this "I dont want this title thing... it scares me" nonsense. You're worth more than that. You need someone who is PROUD to call you his girlfriend. This guy is wasting your time.
2006-09-26 18:31:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to sleep with other girls.
No title, no sex.
No commitment, no relationship.
2 years is a long time, but if he wants you, he should go the extra mile to have you. You are a prize, and if he doesn't see that, then you need to move on too. Sounds like he has moved on to another woman. (Thus the arguing all the time.) Find a way to let him go. He doesn't want you.
I am being sincere and honest. You deserve better.
2006-09-26 18:24:28 · answer #2 · answered by jennilaine777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him. Sounds like to much drama. You will get yourself sick staying with a guy like that. You may love each other but aren't compatible for each other. Move on and keep yourself busy. Pay your dept and get back on your feet. Don't let any guy use you like that. In the mean time your better off being a lone till the real Mr. right comes around for you which it will when you at least expect it.
2006-09-26 18:28:40 · answer #3 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question. Sounds like you wasted 2 years already... why do you want to invest more time this loser?
Laws of attraction... you get what you are.... so get your act together with an education, job, and the rest... and the right person will come to you.
P.S. $500 is nothing... thats a car payment.
2006-09-26 18:27:21 · answer #4 · answered by Epiphany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he just isnt up for a relationship, He wants it all, the freedom of not having a gf and the comfort of having one, leave him or cut him off, hes being unfair and stopping you from being with someone who can treat you far better!! good luck
2006-09-26 18:23:49 · answer #5 · answered by shaznz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are two fundamental reasons why relationships fail. Sex and money. Sounds like the money is a problem in this relationship. Dump him.
Edit: After reading your additional comments, sounds like sex might be a problem too. Seriously...DUMP HIM. (I'm a guy, btw)
2006-09-26 18:22:35 · answer #6 · answered by S.G. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He wants the benefit without the commitments , better leave him , if not addicted to him.
2006-09-26 18:24:21 · answer #7 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it means he still wants you to help support him, but want to sleep with other people. in other words, you should dump him before you get hurt
2006-09-26 18:22:22 · answer #8 · answered by gesswh0 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him
2006-09-26 18:21:37 · answer #9 · answered by Valerie J 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋