He himself says that he knows that it is a problem. And even talking about it tonight his body language was way off. We have been together for 6 year. Still life in seperate homes because he says that his family will shon him (totaly egnore) if he sees anyone until his exwife dies. What is up with that?
2006-09-26 18:17:22 · 10 answers · asked by What if....... 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
The family may be concerned YOU could possibly be PREYING on him for some sort of perceived benefit -- and that IS a concern after reading this question!!!!
2006-09-26 21:20:56 · answer #1 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he is at that point in his life that love is more to do with companionship than sex.
I don't know what to make of the family thing. It says he loves his family, and by that I am assuming he is referring to his children. At 67, it would seem odd for him to be talking about his parents or siblings in this fashion.
One thing is for sure, at his age it is a bit late to be starting a new life and that may be what he is afraid of. He probably fears leaving you as a widow. You should clue him in that time wasted is time lost. A love that last a moment lasts a life time.
Oh yeah, the word was "shun".
Good Luck.
2006-09-27 01:32:14 · answer #2 · answered by LORD Z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing with a guy 71. He was never married and worried about doing anything because of "family". I finally left him because I wanted marriage...His loss........Move on! I had to and now I have a man that is there for me!
2006-09-27 01:29:23 · answer #3 · answered by Kitty L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like one of two things: he has either spent most of his time pleasing his family because of guilt. Almost like he's punishing himself or trying to "make up" for the family split, or, he still cares a great deal for the ex-wife.
2006-09-27 02:41:52 · answer #4 · answered by jgopherjj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello friend,
That is way too weird but we have to accept that people is different and if U love him like that, oh well, just accepted and if it's something that is really bothering u a lot, talk to him and make an exchange for something that he really wants form U too.
Good luck!
@ngie
2006-09-27 01:42:45 · answer #5 · answered by angelicaisis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he just doesn't want to. Could just be that he likes to sleep alone, maybe he doesn't sleep well in your bed; maybe it's something more personal, maybe it's an excuse. The ball is in your court. You either decide that the relationship is good enough for you, or you decide that it isn't and you break it off.
2006-09-27 01:22:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? It could be that if you are significantly younger than him, he may be afraid of how his family will take your relationship.
OR.... if his ex-wife is closely involved with the family, she may be swaying their way of thinking.
Or...if you guys have the intimate parts of a relationship, but separate homes...you could just be a booty call.
2006-09-27 01:20:59 · answer #7 · answered by James I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants companionship not relationship. Good eaccept him. He wants to talk his heart to someone who is confidential. As long as u r there he sees solace in u that is all to it. Men needs somesort of security at that age. May be u are giving him that security.
2006-09-27 01:55:49 · answer #8 · answered by ketav 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe because he's due back at the rest home by a certain time.
2006-09-27 07:35:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably can't get it up anymore and he is ashame. if is not that, maybe he does not needs to spend the time with you. maybe is not his cup of tea. he is old after all.
besides even if he does spend the night with you, his probably just going to go to sleep, maybe your bed is not as comfortable as his he has his the way he wants it.
2006-09-27 01:21:31 · answer #10 · answered by ybzcarlos1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋