We broke up and didnt talk for a month..then tonight we talked for a couple hours..he cried, i cried. we said we still loved each other..And it was the happiest ive been this whole time. But, truth of the matter is, i dont trust him after the things hes done, and i dont know if i ever can trust him again. And he still thinks im too demanding and headstrong. We're like day and night, we dont mix. But we love each other like crazy. I dont know what to do now. All my friends and family and all his friends want us to break up and leave it...Am i gonna regret getting back with him?
2006-09-26 18:16:36 · 14 answers · asked by Freaked out 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You might reget it and you might not, but you know for sure you'll regret it if you don't give it a try. I say you two wipe the slate clean, he works on the things that make you not trust him and you work on being demanding. If it's a good thing it is worth fighting for. What "they" say doesn't matter when it comes to what you two feel. I mean it may very well not work, but you will at least be able to say we tried and we loved hard.
Best of luck to you...and remember all though sometimes love is only love...sometimes love is ENOUGH!!!
2006-09-26 18:18:12 · answer #1 · answered by poetic princess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl let me tell you I am going through the exact same thing right now, and it is so hard. My ex and I we're like day and night yet we have such an attraction to each other, that we even miss the bad things about each other.
But just know one thing. People don't change. If you're going to get back with him, know that he is going to have to accept you for being headstrong and demanding, and you accpet him for being a person you have to have your eye on all the time.
If you can't and there will still be those differences, just know its not going to get better and you'll still end up fighting aobut the same things, and the fights can get worst and lead you to do even worse things.
Think about all these options, because sometimes love isn't enough, unless there is extreme sacrifice.
2006-09-27 01:21:48 · answer #2 · answered by coochie1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you say that you don't trust him for the things he's done to you, then you have no reason to go back with him. If you don't trust him now, how will you ever get used to his bad habits? Even though you two might have had a good relationship, you two have to at least be alike in some aspects. I mean you two don't have to be like two identical apples or anything; but at least he should carry some traits that will satisfy you. And if your family and friends agree that he's no good, you should take their advice. Just try to talk to him as a friend, and nothing more. There are so many other nice guys out there that you can find that are better.
2006-09-27 01:20:50 · answer #3 · answered by forest_without_sounds 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, without trust... it's destined for failure, heartache, frequent arguments, and worse things. You both have to make a decision to work on the flaws if you're going to have a lasting relationship. You guys need to accept each other for who you are. Thinking "Oh, you're too this, you're too that" is only going to lead to trouble. Try to understand each other more and see why you are the way you are. Honestly... sometimes love just isn't enough. But if you both are willing to make a valient effort the relationship might stand a chance. Try not to repeat the mistakes that tore you apart in the first place.
2006-09-27 01:24:16 · answer #4 · answered by lil_blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but he will not change. You will never get over the things that he's done, believe me. He does not deserve you. He is crying because he is manipulative. I'm sure that you are not demanding and headstrong, but merely independent and constantly second-guessing him because of all the pain and lying he has put you thru. Run away now, while you still can. I'm sorry that you are hurt, but he will do it again.
2006-09-27 01:24:38 · answer #5 · answered by Jenlvegas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dunno'. No one does really. You two clash. Everyone does to a certain extent. My real question is what did he do that you don't trust him now? if it was some form of cheating than I strongly suggest that you just stay broke up and remember that there was a reason you two broke up in the first place. Ya, it'll happen where you have a hard time getting over someone. That doesn't mean it's a good idea to get back with him/her though.
2006-09-27 01:19:35 · answer #6 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the long run, you will regret it- in fact, you'll be so unhappy that you'll constantly be thinking about it. Wait, you already are. Break up now and don't look back. Just think about what kind of effect your relationship would be on your kids if the two of you had any. They'd grow up needing serious therapy.
2006-09-27 01:20:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you will regret it but if you love him like you say you do tell him that your having a hard time trusting him and if he promises to tell you what hes doing and where he is (not all the time just to update you) then you will work on your demanding things f things and if you can work that out love will solve the rest
2006-09-27 01:22:18 · answer #8 · answered by skull1911 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget him!!!! i was in a realtionship for 3 and a half years on and off and it really wasn't worth it. we hurt eachother so much that he ended up moving and hour away from me. now two years later i have met the man i'm going to spend the rest of my life with and i'm getting married next august. so what i've learned it's never worth it to get back together with an ex no matter how much you think you're still in love.
2006-09-27 01:28:37 · answer #9 · answered by Ditsey24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its probably best to not get back with him. once relationships have term oil like that, it will haunt it for the rest of the relationship. and you'll never stop thinking about what happened. always on the mind.
best to move on.
2006-09-27 01:19:31 · answer #10 · answered by gesswh0 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋