We have a VERY smart 30 month old who is showing most of the signs of potty training readiness, but she's still resisting... When we ask her if she has to go potty, she says "no" everytime. When we put her on the potty, we have about a 50% success rate. She used to tell us when she had a poopy coming, but she's stopped that and usually tries to hide the fact that she's poopy so we can't confront her about it, and once we do notice the aroma, she tells us she needs to lie down (so we can change her diaper). We've put her in pull-ups, we've tracked her success with stars on a chart working towards a trip to Chuck E Cheese, and she's still refusing to tell us when she has to go. Any suggestions?
2006-09-26 18:03:00 · 16 answers · asked by suzy7o7 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Yes. Let her go to the bathroom with you. Encourage her. There are some good books out there on it for children. My nephew loved them. She'll say no because she doesnt want anyone knowing. YOu could buy her a potty training baby doll.
2006-09-26 18:08:30 · answer #1 · answered by Kimber 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like u've got all the right procedures except 1:
BE PATIENT!
She's got time to learn this stuff yet. Give her a break from the 'rigours' of potty training for a week. It may have just been that potty was a novelty n now its worn thin with her because of all the attention n pressure. If u back off a lil she might find the fun side to this potty caper again. Try a novelty potty ( there r really cute pooh bear ones on the market now, with songs n flushing sounds etc) Just try not to push her too hard cuz u'll be shooting urself in the foot- the harder u push the more stubbornly she will refuse or hide. Keep in mind that she will be picking up on any pressure or tension u r putting on urself to get her trained.Good luck n try to relax a lil!
2006-09-27 01:12:52 · answer #2 · answered by Belle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my daughter turned three, it was obvious to our friends that she was beyond ready to be potty trained. We tried the pullups and she didn't think they were any different than diapers - except for having the Princesses on them! I had similar issues that you have except she would never tell us if she needed to go or not. It was like the diaper was her crutch. Well, our friends told us to just take the diapers away. At first, I was like - won't she just pee and poop like a bird without any thought for where she's doing it? Well, we tried rewards and everything else to no avail - I figured why not give it a shot? So we did it and in three weeks she was at least potty trained to go at home and only two accidents I had to clean up. Once she was making all the poo poo in the potty - then we introduced the panties. She still has an accident maybe a couple of times per month with pee pee and it's been 4 months. Now she's using the potty at church, the store, friends homes and everywhere else, but we do keep a mental note of when she did go potty last - she does need some reminders. I was suprised that this worked - I told her that we were going to start using the potty and took off the diaper just running around the house with nothing on her butt. You do need to be home with her for awhile to get started this way, with supervision and reminders asking if she needs to go every couple hours or so and telling her - it's time to go and putting her on the potty so she will try - as long as it's not emotionally tramatizing - it wasn't for our little girl - it worked for us when nothing else did! It takes more effort and discipline on the part of the parent than the child that's for sure. But, we didn't want a 4 or 5 year old running around in diapers - that's an expense! We did at first of course - let her have the diapers at night - it's was like you have to take it in stages for what she's ready for. Once she was telling us most of the time we tried no diapers at night - she'll get up and go to the potty if she needs to at night. We had to remind her to tell us alot at first but we didn't make it high pressure or stress when she did have an accident. Taking the diaper off and putting her on the potty to try every couple of hours may jumpstart her like it did for us. It's worth a shot. We did of course dress her butt and give her a diaper when going out somewhere at first - then we'd have her try while we were out everytime we went out somewhere and just give her a new diaper until we were home again. It's stages like I said. After 4 months she's totally diaper free!
2006-09-27 01:17:00 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's right on track. We started potty training at 2y/o because she saw everyone else using it. Do you comment on the 'stinky' aroma....maybe she's embarrassed? It's kind of embarrasing to have people watch you go. I put my daughter on the toilet and go about doing other things in the bathroom so she can go in peace. Did you start calling her a 'big girl' whenever she went? Maybe she misses being called 'baby'? Mine did the same thing so I put her in real underwear instead of Pull-ups. It's messy but try putting her in panties. I'm sure she won't think it's fun to be wet and will be more willing to tell you she has to go. Have fun!
2006-09-27 01:12:23 · answer #4 · answered by mahree 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
kids have different rates and time schedules they go by, that is just the way it is...... she is still just a baby.... but my oldest son, i have 3, was trained and in a big bed by the age of 16 months, when I had my second child.... he was just ready !! no bottle, no diapers and never did like baby food.... i think he was born grown !!!! don't push or stress her or urself over it..... relax and she will notice that you and dad have laid low about it, they are smart... get a small potty just for her and sit in in the living room if ya want to, I did that with other 2 sons... then when she starts to really use it , move it to the bath room.... just remember not to push, just ask and if she says NO, say ok and let it go...... God bless
2006-09-27 01:54:56 · answer #5 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe mom wants this more then child. if your kid is not ready, nothing will work. she may have also gotten bored with the whole idea. the pull ups are a up in down thing. help with not having messes, but she may see i as a diper. it may be confusing her. had the same problem with my oldest. until she was around a girl younger and potty trained. never had a problem after that! it's all up to her despite what we think.
2006-09-30 01:08:30 · answer #6 · answered by rblankenship_rblankenship 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem too.My daughter started telling me she wanted to go at first then after a while she stoped she would keep playing even if she felt it coming and keep trying to hold it by the time we knew she would done almost half of it on herself.What i did was to try to make out a routine for it every morning i would out her on her potty for her to poo.at first she would just sit there and chat with me later she started doing her thing there i would just encourage her.If she pee on herself i would sternly tell her to always run to her potty if she had to go or tell mummy or daddy i would ask her if she heard me and she would nod i would then hug her and tell her she is a good girl for listening to mummy.A few weeks later she has stopped doing it on herself and runs to her potty funny enough she even pours her pie into the toilet and rises her potty after that(she saw me doing it).Finally don't worry children are different keep trying.
2006-09-27 05:43:18 · answer #7 · answered by sadia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is obvioulsy not ready, but you're not listening to her. She has told you "No" but you continue to try to bribe her and force her to do what she is not ready to do. Pull ups are a load of crap. They do not help in transitioning from diapers to underpants because they feel more like diapers when wet so that when the child is in regular underwear the sensation of being wet is different and they wet their pants. You should have kept her in diapers until she was ready to be in regular underwear. All the pull ups are good for is taking your money.
2006-09-29 04:16:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it does not seem like she is ready you can try putting her on the toilet at regular intervals weather she says she has to go or not.But, on the other hand 30 months seems pretty late for begging potty training to me I was lucky enough to have both of my children fully trained before age 2. but I have heard of ppl who have 3, 4 or even 5 yr olds who are not toilet trained.Just keep in mind she will learn eventually. EVERYBODY DOES
2006-09-27 01:09:05 · answer #9 · answered by Sandra K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All of my kids started from those diapers. When they could walk, they learned that they have to go to the toilet. They see me peeing, I tell them that the toilet seat is also for moving the bowels. They started to refuse wearing diapers so I told them that they should then go and sit on the "throne". So, I taught them to holler "I'm done!" so I can wash them off. By the age of five, I've taught them to put soap on a hand and wash themselves as I pour the water. By the age of six, they were doing the washing off by themselves. ["Wash your hands plenty after!" I admonish them]
Problem: Be it in any toilet, they must have soap and water, even when it is a public toilet in the malls. Absolutely no toilet paper for them now. Or they'd rather press it in and wait til they get home and let loose!
2006-09-27 01:19:54 · answer #10 · answered by Bummerang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋