I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and love hime to death. Before i started dating him i used to mess around with my ex-boss(my boyfriend doesnt know anything about that).When my boyfriend and I started dating, I messed around with my ex-boss couple of times in the beginning but then it stopped. I didnt speak to my ex-boss for some time, however about 10 months later he called me and we met up. He tried to persuave me that he is a better match for me, that he could provide me a better future (financial) and give me things that i want. while we had this conversation in his car (twice) we fooled around little bit (kissing and bit of touching). When i came to my senses, i realized that i shouldnt even contemplated his offer. I did tell him no, but he kept pushing. I dont know why i met up with him those 2times. After that happened i told him that i dont want to be with him and to leave me alone. I am afraid that one day he may tell my boyfriend about those 2x just to be spiteful.
2006-09-26 17:35:56 · 7 answers · asked by brianna123_456 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is a very vicious man and i am afraid that the truth may come out. i dont know what to do. I cannot possibly tell my boyfriend the truth, that will break his heart and i love his too much to tell his that
2006-09-26 17:37:15 · update #1
these two times car incident happened 2 months ago, after 10 months of me and my boyfriend being together.
2006-09-26 17:47:26 · update #2
If there is the slightest chance that your ex-boss will spill the beans, you'd better tell your boyfriend everything.
A) He deserves to hear the truth.
B) He deserves to hear it from you, not someone else.
C) Secrets never stay secrets forever.
D) The truth is easier to forgive than a lie.
E) If he does break up with you, it should be his decision to make, and you deserve to have to grovel.
It will be easier for him to forgive you if he finds out now then if he finds out later.
2006-09-26 17:50:52 · answer #1 · answered by elchistoso69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best policy.. Grant it your BF wont like what you tell him. still its better that he know whats went on and that he hears it from you, rather than someone you screwed with.
Your probably better off with the guy you are with now, as the man that you were sleeping and cheating with most likely from what you say would have been a very controlling BF and husband if you ever married him.
However when and if you do tell him, he is likely to always suspicion you of cheating on him, and well... you cant blame him can you?
Still its better he hears it from you. If the guy you cheated on him with gets to tell him it may end up being a dirtier and more nasty story than what really went on.
2006-09-27 00:53:28 · answer #2 · answered by Shalamar Rue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Past is past. Be faithful to your current b/f. If later on your b/f comes to know of your earlier affairs, he should'nt mind it. He should trust your love and care for him. But if he starts to dig your past and abuses you on that matter, then feel free to dump him and reach out for a more matured guy.
2006-09-27 00:43:11 · answer #3 · answered by yuvan53 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fact that you meet up with him should give you an idea that your heart is not all the way in this relationship, there is still something that is lacking for you. You need to look within yourself and make sure that your current lover is who you want to be with. now, you are wondering if you should tell....yes....put yourself in his situation, what if he did this to you? you would want to know I'm sure. just be true to yourself and what you want. don't settle for less, you should do what makes you happy!
2006-09-27 00:40:28 · answer #4 · answered by TNW22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the truth if it comes up. But you certainly should not be the one to bring it up.
I would dump you if I found out no matter how I found out.
2006-09-27 00:53:22 · answer #5 · answered by hankthecowdog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED TO TELL HIM THE TRUTH ABOUT WHAT
HAPPEN, BEFORE HE FIND OUT BY SOMEONE ELSE
HE WILL BE HURT BUT HE WILL BE MORE IF HE FIND
OUT BY SOMEONE ELSE. IF HE LOVE YOU THEN HE
WILL UNDERSTAND IT WAS BEFORE HE AND YOU
GOT TOGETHER BUT YOU SHOULD NOT HAVE GONE
TO SEE HIM THEN THIS WOULD NOT HAVE HAPPEN
HOPEFULLY EVERYTHING WILL WORK IT SELF OUT/
I HOPE SO. GOOD LUCK.
2006-09-27 00:42:56 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
more mystery, less history
2006-09-27 00:37:58 · answer #7 · answered by gesswh0 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋