my b/f talks about getting merried soon! he said he might get me a ring for christmas, but I am only 18, & we have only been dateing for one year! is that to soon?
2006-09-26 17:30:58 · 22 answers · asked by Anna L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Personally, I dont think its about age. I think that if you find that someone you want to be with the rest of your life then do it.... First, do you feel the same way about him? If you think its too soon to be married tell him, if he loves you that much then he'll understand. You're 18, you have at least 100 more years to live, lol. You can get married anytime you're ready. Just do what your heart tells you. Wish the best of luck.
2006-09-26 17:39:34 · answer #1 · answered by jessfaye05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about too soon, but I do think it is too young. Even if you stay together--and I don't see a reason not too, unles something comes up--you two should experience a bit more of the real world first. My ex best friend got engaged and married at 18; 4 months later, divorced.
I have been with my fiance since I was 18. I am only 20 now, but I can tell you that 2 and a half years makes a WORLD of difference! We are also waiting another 2 years to actually get married. (We live 2 hours apart, but even if that wasn't true, we would wait a year.) I say wait awhile and see if you still feel the same when you're closer to drinking age.
2006-09-26 18:34:55 · answer #2 · answered by Esma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In general I would say that 18 years old is too young to get married, and just because he wants to buy you a ring for Christmas is not a good reason to feel you have to get married.
HOWEVER, I was 16 when I met my husband. We dated for a year or so, got engaged when I was 17 and got married when I was 18. He was 3 years older.
The good news is that it lasted for almost 20 years, he died when he was 40.
The bad news is that it was hard work as we were young and didn't have a lot of life experience.
He was my best friend and we did a lot of growing up together, so maybe you should and maybe you shouldn't - take it slow, perhaps have a long engagement.
Good Luck!
2006-09-27 01:57:19 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is. You need to get some post-secondary education, start a career, and be living out on your own for some time. You will change, mature and grow a lot in the years from 18 to, for example, 25. You will not be the same woman at all! If I would have accepted the proposal I got at 19, I would have really regretted it, I know. He was a wonderful guy, but I wanted to finish university and get out in the working world. Give yourself time..... it's precious.
2006-09-26 22:52:50 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have doubts yourself then it is definitely too soon.some people do know at your age & the relationship does survive the years.Also dont be pressured into agreeing cos it is what your b/f friend wants.
1 of my daughters said yes to a guy she had been with for a while - as he presented her with a ring on Xmas day- & they parted ways a few months later. she told me some time after the event that she said " yes"- really feeling that she should nnot have done so. she later married someone else & they have been married 6 years now. I think she was 20 at the time.
2006-09-26 22:54:22 · answer #5 · answered by fairypelican 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! I've been with my boyfriend for 3yrs and we've known each other forever.. he was my neighbor... and I'm still learning about him... so yes a YEAR means NOTHING... it's definately too young of an age... (i'm 21) and I think that if you get married, somehow things will get messed up cuz ur soo young and everyone wants to "EXPLORE" whats out there... Don't do it... wait it out... see whats up... as for him getting you a ring, yeah... wear it PROUD! Be engaged for as long as you want... if thats what makes ya happy. But getting married is a big thing, and marriages don't last now-a-days cuz the other person didn't know something about thier lover... so yeah... wait! :)
2006-09-26 17:54:38 · answer #6 · answered by sweetsuezq4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are probably just out of high school. the world is very different than high school. maybe look at college, try getting a job and working 5 days a week. if it is possible, travel abroad, look at the world that you have just stepped into. when you have tied one or all of these things, and you still love your boyfriend and he loves you then is the time to accept rings and marry. the world is a great leveler, see the 4 time class president working in a video store you will see. good luck if it's love it lasts
2006-09-26 17:52:30 · answer #7 · answered by david l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends sort of... are you really so stupid you can't spell words like "married" and "dating"? Also, I was always under the impression that by 18, we all should know that the first letter of a sentance is capitalized. As a legal adult, you don't have the "I'm just a little idiotic 12 year old who thinks that spelling things wrong is cool!" excuse.
2006-09-26 17:40:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't say that you should do that right now because of your age. you are just beginning to know your body and you need time to live life. I know you both feel like there is no one else out in the world for you but if he loves you as he says he does then he will give you time to grow up and really know if he is the man for you. Just be very careful because marriage is not a game. you don't even know if he is going to be a man that can provide for his family or how he is to live with or any of the things that you need to know. be careful! make sure you do what makes you happy!
2006-09-26 17:36:41 · answer #9 · answered by TNW22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
18, girl! You still have your whole life in front of you! What about college? Do you really want to married through what people call "the best years of your life". My advice is, even though you may love him, and you may think you want to spend the rest of your life with him...WAIT. You'll know when you are ready. Don't feel pressured into it, if you're not ready.
Good luck!
2006-09-26 17:34:08 · answer #10 · answered by Kristi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋