i am extremely shy and i cannot tell her i like her. What should i do? If she does not like me (if she says sorry I don’t like you) then I’ll be like stupefied and motionless.
2006-09-26 17:27:26 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she doesn't like you....so what. There will be others that do. You'll never know without asking though....
2006-09-26 17:32:31 · answer #1 · answered by xxx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can never tell her, always wonder what would have been and never take a risk or let yourself be vulnerable, um... you can find a good pick up line in an old 80's movie or a movie you know she likes and deliver it with so much confidence and savvy -( that she is flattered and says "oh my gosh, i never would have expected you to do anything like that ." the important part is that you understand that your confidence will make you way more attractive. Compliment her. Say it with conviction and walk on . Or, wlaz right up to her and say something like:her, "girl, woman, you've been on my mind. I like you. Have a great day." then walk away..it leaves you an out. she can come after you, or, you can assess the situation after the fact and decide if it requires more attention. all of these ideas are a bit goofy maybe, but they all demand confidence and risk and vulnerability. you'll be respected for having balls enough to do it.
2006-09-27 01:31:50 · answer #2 · answered by brightambitions 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like her enough you will be brave. If she rejects you, well there is more to life right? Of course there is. If she rejects you then you just have to deal with it and move on. some girls like shy guys. You have to tell her that you like her. Don't be stupefied or motionless. You just have to say okay, if you ara good looking guy I highly doubt she will reject you. Unless you are one of those guys that doesn't care about anything but themselves and thinks they are soo cool. But from your discription im guessing your not. Good Luck
2006-09-27 00:51:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start simply and honestly. Come up with an introduction, and a followup plan.
Sample Introduction:
"This isn't easy for me to talk about, but it's too important to not talk about it. I think you are very special and it's my dream that you feel the same way."
The "very special" part may be an understatement, because you may really want to say "I love you," but it gives her an out. For instance she may say, "I think you are special too, but.....I love you....just want to be friends....want to monkey dance only....have a boyfriend.....___insert her choice here_____." The "it's my dream" tells her you love her, and if she feels the same way, leaves her the opening of her choice.
If it's not great news..."I understand. Thought it may be the case. This was awkward; but I just had to tell you once how I really feel about you." STOP...Grin....bear it!
Then realize....you just don't change attraction. It doesn't mean anything is wrong with you. It's just the way it is. Also, some "friends" are maddingly attracted to each other, and just never go the next step for a variety of good reasons.
Pointer: Bravery is doing something you are afraid to do, not the lack of fear. Go for it.
Peace out!
2006-09-27 00:40:11 · answer #4 · answered by rideitmark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably not attracted to you, cause if she were interested, you wouldn't be asking how to make the approach, you'd already know. You might be better off, staying shy. Some females would probably pray on someone like you. Then you become an abused candidate asking, how do I get rid of this girl, cause I want out of this relationship. So be patient with yourself.
2006-09-27 00:42:18 · answer #5 · answered by Orig1 B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on, do you really think that one girl is going to 'stupify and leave you motionless?' If she doesn't like you do what every other maled does....find another one. She can't be the only girl you've ever seen in your life. I don't know you, but I'd like to think that you've already done the important part: acknowledge the fact that you really do like her. There's no time like the present and how will you really know how she feels unless you tell her. Good Luck and I know you can do it.
2006-09-27 00:36:38 · answer #6 · answered by ladyellelsu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most people are afraid of rejection at one time or another, some more than others. But being shy and afraid of what she might say isn't going to get you anywhere. Ask her out to a movie or something. If she says Yes, you had nothing to be afraid of. If she says No, consider it practice.
2006-09-27 00:58:39 · answer #7 · answered by Gingerly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be brave enough to be not stupefied or motionless!
2006-09-27 00:29:43 · answer #8 · answered by mkm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude just ask her I know it sounds a lot easier but that's all u can do if u like her ask her out just go up and say hey u wann ago out ith me sometime? or something but alls u can do is ask and if sh says no then just get back up. And go with someone else.
There's an old sang that my friend used to say to me
If u aim at the hoop and miss just try wit another one.
2006-09-27 00:31:06 · answer #9 · answered by outlandishb13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick to porn homie and plz tell me ur in highschool or middle school :[.. this is the most inconfident message ive seen today... seriously.. ur already thinking about the REJECTIOn why dont u focus more on the asking and the fun ull have afterwards
2006-09-27 00:29:09 · answer #10 · answered by joey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean, even if your shy just tell her. the no might hurt, but prepare for the worst, hope for the best.
2006-09-27 00:40:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋