Well, after we had sex, he didn't call. I typed him an email 3 days later, and told him I understood from his actions he didn't feel as I did, and that was fine, I wished him no harm, good-bye. He called the next day and emailed me, said work was hell, and then told me he had an issue because his ex's name came up between us, and she had died in an auto accident the week after they broke up, and he was still feeling guilty. He still loves her, and he loves me too he said. I told him that he was not emotionally healthy enough to be in a relationship, and that he needed to be in therapy to work things through, and that until then, we could be friends, but not lovers. I also sent him a link to The Grief Recovery handbook, which I have used because I am a widow. I called him yesterday (mistake?) to see how he was, and I felt he wanted to rush me off the phone. He said he would call me today. Well, no call yet. I feel stupid now, and needy, and not right with myself.
2006-09-26 17:16:00 · 7 answers · asked by Rose of the Valley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's o.k.
His emotional health may not be the best. But, if we all waited for emotional health before getting together, life wouldn't happen. He's afraid of what being with you may open up; but that's also the best part, and you can help him with those risks by reducing fear.
If you feel the twinge, like maybe it's love, then you just keep trying.
Otherwise, suit yourself. He'll heal.
2006-09-26 17:21:56 · answer #1 · answered by rideitmark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am with you when you said he is obviously not emotionally healthy to handle the relationship, but you should not worry so much about what he thinks of you; you have done more than what most people in your shoes would do. If he never calls you, then he doesn't deserve a good friend like you.
2006-09-26 17:21:41 · answer #2 · answered by Joe 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
forget him he's not ready for no relationship. You did nothing wrong you told him the deal from the start. Any more information give me a call.
2006-09-26 17:27:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
this way of guy do not worth your love besides. He would not love you for who you're. geared up up your self assurance, %. your self up, flow on and hit the team! you could lose some weight in case you prefer, yet undergo in concepts, your concepts-set and character are much greater important than your physique.
2016-12-18 17:44:13 · answer #4 · answered by satornino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was what it was and nothing more. Cut the strings now and save face. Sex only equalls sex! Nothing more.
2006-09-26 17:19:36 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ARE YOU HARD UP THAT YOU NEED A UNSTABLE LOSER WHO JUST WANTS SEX FROM YOU!
2006-09-26 17:21:55 · answer #6 · answered by SWM 38 _4_ YOUNG GF 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
forget him...
2006-09-26 17:18:56 · answer #7 · answered by mrbubbachowpuss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋