I've never been in love before, but I want it so badly. What can I do to keep this fact off of my mind?

Question

All of my friends are in love or they're happily married so I always feel like the odd one out. When will someone come around and love me? I have so much to give, sometimes I feel like I will never be lucky enough to share my love with someone else. Please help me ease my mind:(

Answer 1

its not coming towards you because you are seeking it and looking, only when you get it off your mind will you actually attract it towards you....

Answer 2

Don't worry, it will come and it's well worth the wait. I know because I was in the same place where you are at now. I felt the exact same way. When the right one comes along you will know. To keep my mind off of it, I would find things to do. Like, join a single ministry in a church, you'll meet other singles that are not particularly looking to date, but people who for the most part can help you get through a time like this. It always helps to know that there are other people out there like you. You think about it a lot because you are mostly around people that are couples. You have to start mingling with other singles and know that you are not the only one.

Answer 3

Whoever said, "Love comes to those who least expect it," knew what he or she was talking about. There is something about a desperate person that people, especially the opposite sex, seem to shy away from.

I know. I felt the same way in my early 20s. It was the classic case of always being a bridesmaid but never a bride!

Whether you are a man or a woman, people around you can sense your desperation and will run in the opposite direction. At the moment, you are your own worst enemy.

I suggest you start giving of yourself in non-relationship ways. Take inventory of your interests and start getting involved in projects that cater to those interests. Schools need volunteers; local animal shelters need help; homeless shelters, local political organizations, local sports organizations. . .all of these places and more can use someone like you who has a generous heart and compassionate spirit.

The more you get involved, the more people you will meet. When you get your eyes off of your need and onto others, people will be attracted to you, and trust me, love will come. . .maybe not right away, but it will come.

Answer 4

Don't run from this pain, face up to it. How about a vision quest? Basically, feeling like you "need" to be in love is feeling that you are not complete, that you can't meet all your own needs. There's a big yawning chasm in you, somehow. So jump into it. Come out complete, stronger. Who doesn't find someone who is strong and complete attractive? Much more alluring than the needy vibe you're probably giving off now. Good luck! :-)

Answer 5

well.. there is alot kind of love... family love, frens love, lover's love or etc etc. Envy on someone relationship is not a good idea, but isn't a bad idea too. Maybe you should get out more and look around. I believe there is alot of ppl who you will be interested in. Approach the person you like, instead of waiting for him to come over. Sometimes seems like opportunity havn't come, but in real, u need to 'create' the opportunity rather than let apportunity finds u. Most important, is FATE..

Answer 6

Honey, love is great but it can also be pain full. Those friends of yours must be newly married or keeping their differences under wraps. You will find love in do time. Concentrate on you and develop a loving relationship with the Almighty One and all that your heart desires will be granted to you. No greater love can be found. Trust and believe that, before you know it love will be knocking at your door. Turn that frown upside down:)

Answer 7

It'll be when you're not looking for it, and, in my case, a new friend. That's how I found my husband. I was hanging with an ex-highschool-boyfriend and some other friends. He says that a friend of his is coming over, I was dating someone else at the time. This guy, now my hubby, was in college, had goals, he was smart and funny, and I look at my then boyfriend and realized he was a nowhere guy. Suddenly I fell in love with Joel. Started hanging out with him behind my boyfriend's back (who was a druggie. I didn't know it at the time, but joel aparently was friends with my friends and never met up until that night, so joes and my other friends clued me in about my boyfriend at the time). Finally I broke up with my boyfriend cause I was tired of lieing to him and was no longer into him, and Joel asked me out, 2 years later we were married. So I say, just have the attitude to yourself that you want to be single, sooner or later you'll "believe the lie", date for fun just to get out there and Mr. Right just might be that single guy at the table with you and your friends, eyeing you as you eye him. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 8

Try not to expect so much of yourself...you sound nice, so keep your heart open and you just might find your true love.....its better to be wishing you were married than to be wishing you weren't married. Grow and become the person who God wants you to become....Think of your singleness as an audition for your next big show!!!

Answer 9

first your probably giving off the desperate vibe ... you need to chill out ... second hint to your friends that you'd like to be set up with any eligible guys they know (some know a lot) ... and third ... be yourself ... stop looking for marriage ... guys sense this ... and then they run ... or you'll attract the loser guys ... just relax it will happen (I should know I was once like you and when I relaxed and realized what i was doing ... I got love & got married!!)

Answer 10

You cant look for love. Someday, youll be out somewhere and the thought of love or meeting someone wont be on your mind, and then BAM! youll meet someone.

Answer 11

Love comes when u are not looking