what should i do? let me explain....ok i met this guy and we hit it off right away...we call eachother ever night and then he told me he does some bad things....(smoke.and drink) sorry to say this but he smokes w....! if you know what that means.anyways...i really like him and tonight he was acting really weird like he always makes me laugh and tells me some weird crap....and tonight he was really quiet and he told me he was smoking and that he was right high....be hung up on me alot of times...but he called....so i dont know what to do...i am a christian and i usually dont like guys who do that stuff but i dont know what to do...i really like him...so this is why im here...i was hoping that you could help me make up my mind about him...please im begging you...thank you
2006-09-26 16:47:51 · 15 answers · asked by *Hello* 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im 15 years old if you are wondering
2006-09-26 16:48:11 · update #1
i feel so hurt about all that had happened tonight....trust me i wont do "anything" that i know i wont regret
2006-09-26 16:51:24 · update #2
Don't get mixed up with a guy like that. He's into drugs and alcohol at 15 or 16 years old. He's not the guy for you. You can find a better guy to date and get a crush on than him. I'm not saying he's a bad person... but he's making some bad choices and he'll only take you with him. Find a cute, clean, Christan guy to date.
2006-09-26 16:51:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends, is he sharing it with you or hogging it all for himself.
Just kidding.
If you are seriously uncomfortable with his habits, talk to him about it. If he refuses to give it up and you know you will never be able to accept these habits then I am sorry to say maybe you should end it. From the way you described the situation you only just met him so now would be the best time to end it before you get in too deep.
I just saw you are only fifteen. In that case you should end it. As offensive as this sounds you are entirely to young and more than likely not informed enough to appreciate the consequences to come.
2006-09-26 23:52:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Guys who smoke and drink ,exspecily weed ,dope,grass,what ever they are calling that junk these days are not a good risk. They do dumb stuff and will get try to drag you into doing dumb stuff too. So tell him that you won't go out with him if he uses the stuff. Then he has the choice of giving up the stuff or giving up you.,if you are not important enough to him to stop useing the stuff,then dump him,before he becomes a bad habit.
2006-09-26 23:58:08 · answer #3 · answered by blondecarpenter@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
christianity is a huge farce.
weed is a choice people make for themselves. it's not much different than taking a midol or a tylenol. it's illegal because in the 1920's it was politically unfavorable. hemp could be used instead of oil, so the oil companies lobbied against the hemp farmers and made it a race issue, warning that women would sleep with black men if they smoked weed with them...
anyhow, i say get the hell away from christianity if you know what's good for you! it has caused more pain in 2000 years than anything should. reality-based decisions should serve you better.
also, your boyfriend is probably a flake who will get high, screw other girls, and knock you up without a plan. be smart; wear a raincoat if it's raining.
2006-09-26 23:53:31 · answer #4 · answered by JoJo 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop right now and never talk to him again. If you don't you will have nothing but heartache and sorrow for as long as he is in your life. You can not change him. Tell him if he wants to be with you he will have to stop drinking/smoking/smoking weed for one year.. then you will see. Bad people will just drag you down.
Think about it this way. What would you tell your best girlfriend if she came to you with this problem?
2006-09-26 23:52:45 · answer #5 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go talk to a church friend or even jus pray about it. I have the same problem but everytime I really think abou it i realize that its not worth it.. I'm a little older then you and i'm starting to realize that I have lots of time to date and god will send "the guy" someday. Just be willing to wait. If the guy asks tell him your not into that stuff.
2006-09-26 23:53:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave this dude alone---its easy to see that he is very messed up at the moment. You don't wanna be around -if/when he starts using other drugs! Break it off until you know he is clean. If the drugs are more important to him than you are-then at least you know it b4 it gets more and more involved!
2006-09-26 23:53:03 · answer #7 · answered by f4fanactic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a bit of advice from someone who had to learn the hard way, if this person is someone you would not want your Grandmother to meet or your Mother, and them know him as you do, then it is most likely that this person is not for you.
2006-09-26 23:57:21 · answer #8 · answered by housemouse62451 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple. your young, live your life. Find out how interested is he in you when he's not high? express your qualities, and see if he stays interested. try knowing the real him vs. the "high" him and weigh the two. see witch one makes you laugh
2006-09-27 00:01:22 · answer #9 · answered by keepnitreal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been here ... smoking dope will make him wierd and you'll always end up wondering if likes you when he's not stoned ... and the drug does wierd things to them ... you need to stick with your morals ... i would walk away now, you'll be glad you did in the long run.
2006-09-26 23:52:47 · answer #10 · answered by emnari 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋