This guy really likes me and people are presurring me to go out with him. He is really nice and kind of cute and pracitacally worships me. I don't like him like that but we are really good friends and i think that if i go out with him it will be for pity. Should i go out with him?? what should i do??/
2006-09-26 16:37:37 · 22 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
DONT GO OUT WITH HIM! FINAL!
never let anybody pressure you into doing something you dont want to do
and youre not even going to do the guy a favor if you only go out with him out of pity,\make it clear to him that all you ever want is friendship and nothing more and that tell him you probably like someone else, be cruel to be kind, you will hurt him more if you would go out with him and give him false hopes
be clear about this, those people presuring you is not you, they will not be the one who will feel bad about it, it would be you dont give in to them, i also faced that problem once im glad i chose not to go.
2006-09-26 16:51:20 · answer #1 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Never date anyone out of pity...but are you being unfair to yourself. Have you asked yourself just what is it you are looking for in a BF? Would you rather be with some cute "turkey." This guy sounds pretty decent and he already likes you the way you are. Get to know that personality of his...I think you'll find it was worth the trip. By all means start seeing this type of guy...they are few and far between....
2006-09-26 23:58:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like him in a romantic way you would only be hurting him as well as yourself by even considering going out with him, especially out of pity. If you think he could handle this, explain your point of view and tell him you wouldn't mind hanging out with him, but I would suggest keeping it to a group activities.
Examples of group activities:
Going clubbing with friends
Going bowling with friends
Going mini golfing with friends
Etc.
If you go this route and he shows any inclinations of perceiving this to be more than friendship, explain to him that you don't want to hurt him but feel uncomfortable even continuing on with a friendship.
Good luck.
2006-09-26 23:45:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be best for you to talk with him about this. Reach a mutual understanding that you each can deal with in a responsible manner. If they are as close as you say this should not be too terrible of an experience. This could possibly help your friendship to a point too.
2006-09-26 23:42:20 · answer #4 · answered by Paul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out with him anyway. Keep him talking. Try to make him laugh.
You should do it, not out of "pity" but just to see what happens.
2006-09-26 23:45:33 · answer #5 · answered by urbancoyote 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never go out with someone because you feel sorry for them. You end up wasting everyone's time.
My concern is he might be a bit obsessive. Just be careful whatever you decide.
2006-09-26 23:41:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. In the end it will ruin your friendship. If you don't like hin like that just tell him. If you pretend that you do it is not fair to him, because he will think that you truly like him like that. Think about this would you want someone to petend to like you and they date you out of pity?
2006-09-26 23:43:54 · answer #7 · answered by pt112886 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me and my girlfriend started out real good friends...
maybe give it time, tell him you dont want to ruin your friendship.
get closer, and a few weeks go by, and you feel nothing tell him.
Im a dude, I know we can take it, he'll be bummed for a few days, but he'll see you as a friend more again and go towards some else
2006-09-26 23:43:23 · answer #8 · answered by Adam D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be a good idea to give it a chance but if you are still not feeling it after a date, don't continue to lead him on.
2006-09-26 23:40:19 · answer #9 · answered by Mint 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your only reason for going out with him is because you pity him, don't bother. your just wasting your time and his. also you are just giving him false hopes by going out with him.
2006-09-26 23:42:34 · answer #10 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋