I try to tell him he should really find a girl his age but he insists she is the "one" and they are planning to get married and have kids. I told him when you turn 40 she'll be 65..... But he insists its true love and won't listen to me. Do you have any advice on how to get him to wise up? Don't tell me age is only a number, the woman he's dating is older than his mother..... Ew....
2006-09-26 16:31:43 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey, it's his business. You can give all the 'advice' that you want, but it's still his life to screw up.
If the genders were reversed, most people would say nothing.
2006-09-26 16:33:41 · answer #1 · answered by The ~Muffin~ Man 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey buddy just tell him that the thing happened between them would be a love ofcourse can be sexual attraction ,,but he has to think about the future after marriage things going to be changed ,the lady can dominate him coz he is like a child to her , and in several aspects he are she can misunderstood the things happening around them,, he has to think about the daily life arethey going to have sex daily no no way,but if they had sex and if she is preganant who is going to take care him ,, is he will be taking care her or shewill take care him nothing doing andat the age of 47 she won't be that much active ,she could b feel lazy all thetime and tiredness will be there if he returns from work she can't able to speak with him more as they did when they are in love ,,aoz after wedding all thethings would be changed not like roaming all the day going shopping all the day having romance all the day ,she can be tired or else he can be tired ,,okiee then if insists not to marry her by this reasons and even then he is insisting her first ask him to consult with doctor .
2006-09-26 16:41:07 · answer #2 · answered by satheeshshankar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Stay out of his business.
2. She's only 25 years older than him. That means your mom was younger than 25 when she had him.
3. Age IS only a number. I have been happily married for 11 years, going on 12, to my husband. He was my first and only boyfriend, lover, etc...and he's 11 years older than me.
Sure when you think about some things...like when he went into the Air Force at 18, I was only 7, yeah, it's creepy, but when you get over the age of 20, things change.
The only concern he should/may have is that if she's 47, her chances of having children the traditional way are MUCH harder, and they have more risk, biologically, for Down's syndrome and other conditions with their children because of her age.
But other than that, there is no argument, and if you love your brother, you'll support him, and if it doesn't work out, then just be there for him to listen.
2006-09-26 16:37:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your brother has the right to choose the woman he wants to love and everyone should respect that right. Remember the maxim, "Live and let live"? It means that a person is not accountable to anybody in this whole wide world for his actions and decisions in life whether they are right or wrong, but only to God.
It's really eccentric to find a very young man who will truly love a woman who is much, much older than he is. But for as long as she is not married to another man, and your brother is a bachelor, they have all the right in the world to love each other no matter what it takes them.
That age doesn't matter in true love holds true for everyone. For love is something so powerful that it just springs within a person's heart that sometimes, despite all the effort of that person to avoid falling in love with someone, he just can't help himself but fall in love just the same.
You would know what I am talking about if only you were in the same predicament as your brother is. I understand him fully well because of my belief that all is fair in love.
I'm sorry to answer your question from a different perspective that instead of me advising you on how you can make your brother reverse his decision to love that woman, I gave you my stand on how to let him do what his heart dictates. I'm just being true to myself with the hope that I could open the eyes of people on how to respect each other's rights to live and let live, or love and let love. All the best.
2006-09-26 16:46:18 · answer #4 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he really want kids, how soon for him tell him, that she may not be able to have kids, its so much harder when your her age, and if she does get pregnet it is most likely the kids will have some sort of disability coz she is much older,
that is kinda gross isnt it, remind him that she was his age now when he was born..
tell him to have a llook at how his life will be when his 47 she will be 72, ask him if he can really handle that,
good luck and i hope he realises that she is way to old for him and he makes the right decision
2006-09-26 16:41:20 · answer #5 · answered by Boots 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you have any chance changing your brother's mind. at least not before he finds out about the down side of being with a woman who's older than his own mother. your brother probably has some issues with the mother/son complex thing and he's blinded by the kind of sex that he couldn't get from a 22 year old girl.
2006-09-26 16:37:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ugh, that is so disgusting.
My brother is also 22 so I can imagine how gross I'd feel if I was in the same boat. Luckily his girlfriend is only about 2 years older.
I think he'll grow out of it. It's just a phase, guys like being with the older woman but that gets old and reality will hit him.
2006-09-26 16:34:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this can be quite tough in family relationships. It's actually your brother's decision, but, I must admit, it may not be the best thing to do. If he relizes this doesn't work out, he'll regret it, BELIEVE me. I mean, this lady is as old as my mother! But, truth be told, sometimes true love doesn't always last as true love. Even with a tremendous age different. I'm sure in the future he'll understand though. At 22, you have a lot to learn!
2006-09-26 16:36:27 · answer #8 · answered by AJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can talk to your brother until you are blue in the face. If he insists it is love, there is not much you can do to change his feelings towards her. But what you could mention to your brother is that her being 47 could make it difficult for her to conceive do in part because of her age.
2006-09-26 16:35:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him it is a stage of life and he should get a younger women not an older one. Get the sexual experience from her and tell him a young tree springs up faster then an older tree. I am 56 and enjoyed some older women but I married a younger lady. Also older women can have retarded or abnormal births per percentages of births.
2006-09-26 16:37:27 · answer #10 · answered by spook12spook12 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it. Your brother has an agenda, a reason that you would not comprehend so your arguments would just be intrusive. If he goes through with this really big mistake, the agenda will become clear a bit down the line.
2006-09-26 16:40:29 · answer #11 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋