this girl i like shani, is a senior in high school and she is 16. she skiped a grade. she is the Drum Major in the HS Marching band and has severaly extream stresses, and she is sick with a cold, and she all of a sudden started talking about killing herself because she is in a constant bad luck funk. she is getting hert all the time by an old reltaionship and just plane getting hert by a broken podium or falling etc. etc... and when i asked her is she really felt like killing herself she said i dont know. what do i do in this situation.
2006-09-26 16:30:46 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let her know that you are there for her no matter how down she feels about herself. Let her know that you don't want her to kill herself because you will miss her too much. If she's really serious about killing herself you need to seek help from her parents, your parents or a school counselor. Remind her of all the positive things in life.
2006-09-26 16:34:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
give her something to move on like an invite to somewhere getting out helps believe me i used to have the same thought not even 4 months ago. Get her away from her normal routine. talk and when the subject turns negative make it turn to a positive. it will rid her of those thoughts for a while and she will loosen up, help her survive through this phase in her life cause everyone needs someone there like i had my best girl friend to take me places see if you can help relieve some stresses. you can do it. and just letting her parents know will put more pressure on her so see what you can do but if it gets like seriously close then you should do it friends are the best releif
2006-09-26 23:38:49 · answer #2 · answered by chrissolo88 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uPlease take your friend seriously and offer as much support as you can give her. Please don't take this situation lightly. Someone needs to get her some professional support. If you didnt feel that talking to a school counsoler or either of your parents would be helpful, (and the wrong adults wont be helpful. Adults who will see her through until she gets help and beyond are ideal candidates) Then look up local crisis lines and local mental health professionals. Remember, you can always go to any hospital and get help through the ER. If she has any close relatives or teachers who would help her best, seek them out and ask for their help to act as an advocate on your friends behalf. Stay strong
2006-09-26 23:58:41 · answer #3 · answered by brightambitions 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is serious, talk with her about the love her family has for her and the feelings you have for her. Talk with someone at school about this because sometimes a counselor can get to her better than a family member.
Don't take this lightly. She needs help. Being a teen is hard to start with. Life is hard unless you have God in it. Pray with her, talk about the future. Ask her to let you help. Sounds like you are a good friend to her. Be a better friend by doing something for her.
2006-09-26 23:37:23 · answer #4 · answered by Mary D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be there to listen whenever she is talking about her worries in life, she is suicidal cause she is bored, she is too tired, now if you could only take her to a relaxing place, a happy place with lots of friends where you all can have a good time, give her chocolated,it will help her mood change, check some sites about suicide and why people do it,i also thought about killing myself because im too tired and too bored, i have lots of friends but i dont feel like im really connecting to them ,if you make her see that without her you cannot possibly feel alive or happy, if she knows that because of her you are happy, she will think that she is still important in this world, listen to her problems and never interrupt her just to judge her just listen.
2006-09-26 23:39:42 · answer #5 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u really like her tell her maybe she needs to hear some words of encouragement , tell her that killing herself wouldn't make any sense because she has alot of people that really care about her and when she says wo thats when u spring in and tell her how u really feel and that it would be a waste 2 not see where u guys could end up if she didint try, plus she needs affection she has an x that is trash and treats her like she is trash, just fess up and tell her how u really feel could save her life.
2006-09-26 23:40:39 · answer #6 · answered by q45dip 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my friend was in the same situation and what i did was comfort her. I will always help her and make her smile. Make her have a good time, laugh.. Also maybe she's just talking not really going to do it ( people do that a lot)
2006-09-26 23:42:28 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Well, let her know you care for her of course. Take her seriously, but in a lighthearted way, try seeing things from her perspective and trying to guess what she wants to hear. If every kid who talked about killing themselves actually did it, there would be no kids left, but that doesn't mean she wants to be taken for granted. She needs attention, and you need to ask if you can help her with her stress and make her soup and other sweet things. When I was in a similar situation, I really just wanted attention and people to shower me with love. That's really all you can do, shower her with love and be there for her, the rest is really up to her.
2006-09-26 23:36:23 · answer #8 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell someone in authority NOW. Tell your parents or an authority figure at school, just don't blow it off. When people talk about killing themselves, they aren't doing it casually, they're doing it because they are thinking about it as an option.
Please take this seriously and tell someone. Better to be safe than sorry. Good luck.
2006-09-26 23:40:00 · answer #9 · answered by smallweed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how much you care about her and that if she hurts herself it`ll mess you up too . hahahaha try to make her feel better by asking her to a amusement park or something and get her mind off of the " killing " herself stage. and if she ends up having a lot of fun tell her that she should be more happy and smile more cause mostly everyone looks better when they smile. good luck ! =]
2006-09-26 23:36:12 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋