We had our homecoming last friday and there was a party on saturday for it. I went but i DID NOT DRINK ANYTHING. Other people on the team were there and drinking. Then our seniors today at practice talked to all of the team and said those who were drinking were selfish and uncaring and uncomitted to our season and to the team. Another said even if you were there and werent drinking you were still part of the party and that makes no difference. I do feel bad about this and how can i get over this? I never realized this but i now feel like i let them down just for going.
2006-09-26 16:25:49 · 10 answers · asked by gopackgo51 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Other - Education
That's ridiculous! Plus, I'll bet that many of the "seniors" had a party of their own. They're just trying to make YOU feel bad.
2006-09-26 16:30:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are familiar with the saying, "There is no I in TEAM." When you are part of a team, you are only a part of it. But that means your personal preferences and all come second to the team. All for one and one for all kind of thing. The fact that you did not drink is wonderful. Life is too short as it is and you have the rest of your life for all of that stuff.
Your feeling bad is your conscience and that is alright -- it is a good thing even though you feel bad right now. That is part of maturing and it is okay. You will not continue to feel bad, you will reflect on all that happened and make a better choice next time as a result. Consider this one of those lessons outside the classroom -- and you are getting a better grade than your team mates who were drinking despite the fact that you attended.
In the future, when it comes to personal time, you would be wise not hang with them if they're going to do stuff that could get you into trouble. That is not cool, it is trouble. You know, if they commit a horrible crime or any crime when you are altogether, you are there and you can be (and most likely would be) charged. Something to think about when you're out with any group of people. When things start to look ugly or look like it is not where you want to be or go, find some place else and something else to do quick.
2006-09-26 23:41:04 · answer #2 · answered by joyann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont feel bad, as long as you weren't drinking you didn't do anything wrong. You can still be a part of a team and still have other friends you hang out with. You were very smart for not drinking. Peer pressure can be tough- I'm proud of you!
2006-09-26 23:33:13 · answer #3 · answered by ArkyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That means you have a conscience. That's good. Have you ever heard of this.... "Bad company will spoil good character". Just make sure you have learned something and that made the experience (which turned out well for you. No injuries, etc) not a wasted one.
You're okay.
2006-09-26 23:29:05 · answer #4 · answered by Speaking_Up 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing not to drink. The fact that you feel sorry for going shows that you didn't mean any harm in it. Just know for the future not to go.
2006-09-26 23:34:49 · answer #5 · answered by *AstrosChick* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU did nothing wrong. Forget it, it will never even be a footnote of your life. If football is taking over, then study more and learn things to help you in the future.
2006-09-26 23:35:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that u should not feel bad u went unless u went and did other stuff then just hanging out and talking then its fine u didnt drink or mess anything up so i wouldnt worry about it. i think u need to just relax and forget about it
2006-09-26 23:34:53 · answer #7 · answered by OhSoPinkStars 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your problem if other people were drinking. If you weren't drinking good for you, but don't feel bad about being there. You can't be everyone's babysitter. And it really isn't your fault.
2006-09-26 23:34:47 · answer #8 · answered by Crystal C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm.. if you're ganna feel bad about what other people think.. might as well never leave home.. they are going through a power trip.
I'm proud of you for not drinking though =)
2006-09-26 23:28:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did nothing wrong! Whoever said that is silly..
2006-09-26 23:27:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋