I know this girl from my university, she's not really a friend but I had 2 classes with her last year and this year I have one class with her. My problem is that she hasn't bought the books for the course that we share, but I have already bought the books, and she asked me if she could borrow them from me so she can photocopy so it would be MUCH cheaper for her. The thing is, I feel like I don't want to lend her the books, cuz they cost ALOT of money and I'm not well-off, so why can't she just buy them herself instead of being a mooch? But I already told her that I would bring the books tomorrow for her, but I have second-doubts. I'll just tell her tomorrow that I forget the books, and what else can I say to let her know that I don't wanna give them to her? What's a nice way or even a great lie to tell her so that I don't have to give them to her so she can photocopy them?
2006-09-26 16:21:51 · 19 answers · asked by sweet kisses 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not a mean person so I don't wanna hear any mean comments about me. I've always done nice stuff like this in the past, but it has got me nowhere. I hate people who try to use me.
2006-09-26 16:22:42 · update #1
Congratulations on the second thoughts and doing the right thing. Do not bring the books so that you will not be pulled into an act that you will regret in many ways. This young woman has clearly done unethical things like this in the past and her future does not look good, given the cavalier way she uses you to save her money without a thought that you will pay the emotional price as you have standards, ethics and morals and abandoning those for this act will cause you guilt that, over time, will turn to anger and depression. Stay the course and do not compromise your ethical standards. Tell her the truth: That you cannot be part of an act that is unethical and that she should reconsider this particular matter because the price she MAY pay is far greater than the dollars she saves using the books you paid for in good conscience.
And I just bet her financial situation is somewhat better than yours and paying for the books will not be a burden for her anymore than it is for any other student.
2006-09-26 16:34:49 · answer #1 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what. She's not your girlfriend, she's just someone you know. Tell her that you've been thinking about it and if she wants to borrow them, then she has to split the cost of the books. It's not fair for you to spend the big bucks and let her get off easy. I agree, the books are more expensive and she is mooching off of you. She either has to split the cost or buy her own. If you let her just photocopy and not pay you, then she's gonna keep trying to take advantage of you. You obviously have prior experience with this girl. Is she always like this? If so, it'll be a lot easier to stand your ground. You don't always have to be nice. She might be someone you don't want to associate with and this is a good way to nip it in the bud. GOOD LUCK!
2006-09-26 16:42:03 · answer #2 · answered by afafae25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably can't afford the books. Tell her you will go with her to the library to copy a few chapters but that you really need to take the books home after she copies the pages because you really don't want to be without the books, even for a day. If I were you I would let her do it as long as you go home with your books. If she wants to take them home with her I probably would tell her that I would rather not. I would think that if she copied the whole book it may cost her more than it may cost to buy the books. You might suggest that she go see if the school library perhaps has a copy of the books that she could check out for a few weeks. If she really can't afford the books she should go talk to the professor .. they often have a few spare copies that they may allow a student to borrow for the semester..
2006-09-26 16:38:06 · answer #3 · answered by MeInUSA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just tell her that you wanted to be nice so you agreed to bring her the books, but later in the day you started having second thoughts about it. Tell her that you're not comfortable with letting her photocopy your books. Honesty is always the best policy. I don't think you're a mean person.
2006-09-26 16:28:02 · answer #4 · answered by Angie U 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's not trying to use you? Do u know if she is hard up for $ and she is in college by the skin of her teeth? If so, maybe u should be nice 1 more time. If not, and u just see her trying to mooch off every1 b/c she wants other people to spend the $ and not her, then i would tell her point blank that u had to buy the books, so does she. Don't lie. maybe it will give her a reality check.
2006-09-26 16:25:39 · answer #5 · answered by azuleyes404 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 01:18:35 · answer #6 · answered by finkenbiner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it is honesty is the best policy, Just tell her you've had time to think about it and are not comfortable letting her photocopy your book. If it's that big of a deal to her she will find someone who will let her copy the book. It's not like your telling your best friend no.
2006-09-26 16:28:18 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she can't afford paying for the full books, you can have her pay you for half (or a little less). That way you don't feel like you are being used and make some money off of the books because we all know you won't make shee-it off the books at the end of the term when you try to sell them back.
2006-09-26 16:47:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you mean about the money and the books ! it cost so much ! and i wouldn`t want to be the one buying the books that i`ll let people photocopy. that`s just messed up. just tell her that you need the book to do your homework and that she should get a book of her own. tell her that there are websites for cheaper and used books and tell her to go there to get her books. hahahaha but if i were you i wouldn`t let her borrow it. but that`s me. i`m mean. =D
2006-09-26 16:28:44 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her have the books if she will have a coffee with you. It could be a chance to meet a nice women. When next years enrollment comes around, try to find what classes she is taking ( Make sure you get her cell number ) and you both can split the cost. If not, who cares if she copies them.
2006-09-26 16:57:53 · answer #10 · answered by Merlin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋