heres the basics My sister and bro in law live with me and I recently married it seems my wife and sister do NOT get along. my wife has asked me to move out BUT if i do i dont think sister and bro can afford home what do I do?
2006-09-26 16:18:20 · 17 answers · asked by eunuch39 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Choose your wife. When you married her, you agreed to forsake all others and cling unto her only.
When you are old enough to get married, your old enough to have your own home. That is why you get married.
Give them a reasonable time limit to find their own home and tell them you expect them to be moved out by then . Help them find somewhere that is safe, comfortable and within their financial ability. Explain to them that your newly married and the living situation is putting a stress on your new marriage. Your wife will so love you for it and you need to show her respect.
2006-09-26 16:32:28 · answer #1 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wouldn't you and your wife and your sister and her hubby like to each have your own place? Certainly your sister and brother-in-law can find someplace they can afford. It doesn't have to be a mansion. Your wife and sister may get along better if they're not living under the same roof. Husbands and wives should never discourage their spouses from having a relationship with their families. That's very selfish and controlling. Remember there's about a 55% chance that your spouse is gonna be with you for life but there's a 100% chance that your children, siblings and parents are gonna be your family for life.
2006-09-26 23:34:53 · answer #2 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you married your wife, the two of you became "one". If you do not put the wishes of your wife first, you will regret it in the long run. And you might want to imagine what it would feel like if it was your wife's brother and sister-in-law living with you. As newlyweds, the two of you need to be alone to get to know each other as fully as possible. Remember, your sister will always be your sister, but if you turn against your wife, divorce is not pretty.
2006-09-26 23:29:17 · answer #3 · answered by Lou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough situation, but everyone in the situation is grown. Once you married your wife, she become your family...
You should not have to feel pressured to pick between your sister and your wife. You need to talk with the both of them if not together, separately. If they are living with you, you shouldn't move out of your home.
If your sister and her husband are living with you give them a deadline to get there business together, honestly and point blank you have now created a new family and your sister and her husband need to live as a family in their own home especially if it is effecting your relationship. It is not your responsibility to worry about grown people
I don't know the situation as to why your sister and her husband are with you but I would strongly suggest having a meeting with your sister and your wife. If your sister is not happy with your wife in your house she needs to find her own.
Best regards
Always go to God first
Pray on your situation
2006-09-26 23:27:33 · answer #4 · answered by sweetcincylove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really is no point in being married if your first obligation isn't your wife. If moving your sis out is not an option, you should sit down and talk to your wife about what problems she has with them, and see if there is a way to resolve them. If not, your sis has gotta go! What was the point of them getting married without having the financial means to support each other?
2006-09-26 23:28:58 · answer #5 · answered by grace s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the 4 of you need to talk this out because your sister and brother in law shouldn't be living in a house that they can't afford, and they should have anticipated this when you and your wife got married. Married couples can't live with other couples especially newlyweds! I wouldn't want to live with my new husband with his sister and brother in law because there has to be some sort of privacy to your life and when you live with another couple there is no privacy in your life! Your sister feels like her privacy is being invaded, and your wife feels the same way! 2 WOMEN can't live in the same house with one another because they are both fighting because they both have different cycles and they both want to be woman of the house that is just how it goes! Your wife and you need to find somewhere else to live and that is just how it has to be if you want to save all of these relationships!
2006-09-26 23:28:04 · answer #6 · answered by chrissiewild79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother and sister are grown.. too bad for them if they can't afford the home.. They should find somewhere cheaper to live. A husband and wife deserve alone time, and both deserve to be able to live together in their own home. I totally understand if your wife wants to move out.. Some people just don't click. You are going to ruin your marriage..
I feel bad for your wife. Maybe if you have to ask this, you two weren't meant to be.
2006-09-26 23:21:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
First you should see if sister and bro could maybe afford cheaper accommodations. If not let them advertise for someone else to come in to share the cost. But bottom line is that if you love your wife you better work it out or she's going to feel that you have chosen sister and bro over her.
2006-09-26 23:24:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The four of you must be very young and very immature. If you were mature you would have known that there was no way it would ever work out with the four of you living together.
Move out and get your own place!
If your brother in law can't afford to take care of his wife that is his problem and maybe they shouldn't be together.
2006-09-26 23:33:50 · answer #9 · answered by lakecity21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is the number one priority in ur life from now on. Your brother should go find an affordable place to live with his wife. You brother should not be dependent on you. One day soon u will have ur own children to support. You should not support your brother and his wife as well. Not fair to your new wife.
2006-09-26 23:28:10 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋