We had our homecoming last friday and there was a party on saturday for it. I went but i DID NOT DRINK ANYTHING. Other people on the team were there and drinking. Then our seniors today at practice talked to all of the team and said those who were drinking were selfish and uncaring and uncomitted to our season and to the team. Another said even if you were there and werent drinking you were still part of the party and that makes no difference. I do feel bad about this and how can i get over this? I never realized this but i now feel like i let them down just for going.
2006-09-26 16:14:21 · 22 answers · asked by gopackgo51 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Dumb a$$, they were just sucking up to the coach
2006-09-26 16:17:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you, you didn't drink. And you shouldn't be put in the same group as those that did. But, they are right in a way, you are underage, at a party where there was alcohol. Had the police showed up, you would have been taken to the station, along with everyone else. It would not be in the teams best interests, had you embarrased them in this way. You might be able to imagine the headlines in the local paper : High School Team Caught At Underage Drinking Party. I would not trust the reporters to distinguish between those that were and weren't drinking.
So, get over it, and make the choice, the team, or drinking parties. Be a better you, and a better team-mate because of your experience. Also what the Seniors wanted: learn from your mistake, and move on.The Seniors had the best interests of the team, the school, and you, on their mind.
Your seniors maybe should have done a little better job explaining what they meant.
Good luck, and go team go.Win Win!
2006-09-27 00:09:14 · answer #2 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What an AWESOME school you go to! WOW!! Talk about using reverse peer pressure!! Anyway, I think that you have gotten more out of this experience then you even know. And that's how you get over this. You learned, what? That under age drinking is wrong, even though you didn't do it. You learned that even being apart of people that are partying and drinking, lets others down. You learned that being a part of a team, is much more then just playing a game. Hunny, you learned so much!! Your obviously sorry, and I bet your not going to go to another party for a long time now, are you? The way that you move on, is by promising yourself that you won't repeat the offense. Your a good kid!!
2006-09-26 23:23:08 · answer #3 · answered by frigidx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell those seniors to grow up. It's only a game and as long as you stayed inside the guidelines given to you by your coach you should not feel to bad. If you violated these guidelines, then maybe you were out of line, but certainly not to the degree as those seniors led you to believe. When I was playing sports, I went to many victory parties and I never felt that I let my team mates down by going. I always gave what I thought was 150% to every practice and game throughout my career and I was a two time All-American football player. Give all you have and don't feel badly for celebrating.
2006-09-26 23:24:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
have you ever heard the saying who cares what people think of you. You can go to partys and you did the right thing by not drinking. They were right about the ones who were drinking but everyone should be able to have some fun
2006-09-27 00:44:42 · answer #5 · answered by bwaaaare 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing and did not drink! so feel proud of yourself !Life is all about choices! It is really hard to make the right ones! You are not responsible for others choices or behavior! It will blow over and hopefully the people who made the wrong choice will not make the same mistake again! It is all part of growing up! keep making the right choices!!! good Luck to you!!!
2006-09-26 23:26:36 · answer #6 · answered by hillbilly wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well let's start by saying... good for you for deciding not to drink.
now, as far as the issue of being wrong by being there? consider this a learning experience. although you made the right choice to stay sober, the fact that there was illegal activity (underage drinking) involved could have put you in the wrong place at the wrong time. sometimes we become guilty by association. don't beat yourself up about it... you made a good choice. but remember next time that if you stand on the shoreline, you don't have to be the person on the surfboard to get swept up by the tide. avoid the tide. it may bring trouble. and way to go, you, for making the choice to not drink!
2006-09-26 23:21:52 · answer #7 · answered by ŧťŠ4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because you went to a damn party--doesnt mean it affected the way you played the game. Even if you did drink, how does that play a part in your care and commitment to your season and the team? It doesn't correlate; it's not like you drank before you played. but hey either way, be carefu. don't drink and drive.
2006-09-26 23:18:10 · answer #8 · answered by Snuz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be very proud of yourself. Even tho you did go you did not subcum to peer pressure and drink when you could have easily done so. I think it DID show your commitment to you team despite with other people say. It's what you feel about you and people are entitled to their opinion...just do not let it change your self image when you did what you saw was the right thing.
2006-09-26 23:20:08 · answer #9 · answered by tigerlily_catmom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel you want to do. Remember it is your life not theirs. What makes them right and you wrong?
Really think about it for a minute. It is first off none of their business to start with. I have seen this kind of thing all my life and I know better. The only thing that matters to them is being in control. You will find that if you allow people to put you down and make you feel bad they will do it. People love the power they feel when they make you feel low. It makes them feel better then you.
You had every right to go to the party and should make up your mind on what it is you want to do. It is your life you have to do things that improve your life. I promise that if you let others tell you what to do you will be giveing them your money and working for them for free.
I did not get where I am in life by allowing others to tell me what to do. I know what is right and what is wrong. I do what is right to others but keeping myself in mind too. Remember you are number 1 and as long as you take care of number 1 you will be able to take care of others aswell. But you have to be strong. Let those words of a control freak blow out the other ear. It is not worth fighting with them over unless they are trying to get you in trouble. Sounds like a bunch of jock blow hards trying to get a bully bluf on you.
2006-09-26 23:34:45 · answer #10 · answered by Don K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ease up on yourself, honey! You didn't do anything wrong! BUT... don't go to places where things are being done that you shouldn't be doing...under age drinking is against the law. Be true to your own beliefs. Don't give in to "what other people think"...growing up is not easy work. Good luck!
2006-09-26 23:21:46 · answer #11 · answered by KathieJo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋